BJ's and TTC Question...

[eb777888]

So if you're TTC, do you not do BJ's? I read on the GP board saliva kills sperm so you shouldn't do BJ's. Is this for real? H likes a good beeeeej so this is kind of an issue.


Oh, yeah, TMI. Sorry.

[studytime45]

I'm not TTC but most of my sex starts with a BJ. I think it's fine, I mean your saliva is only going to kill a tiny fraction of precum sperm, right? So who cares?

[speckledfrog]

If you are doing a BJ to completion it do not matter at all.

If you are doing a BJ as foreplay I would just go ahead and do it. If you are really worried you could skip the BJ if you are having sex during the window of opportunity or do it one day and not the next.

[imoan]

Wait! But IF that is the case, why would that be an issue? Unless these are the type that think sperm can swim down through your throat and into your uterus?! Why would I care if saliva kills the sperm that's not going into my vagina anyway?! This post has confused the fuck out of me.

[studytime45]

Sept 9, 2012 18:15:22 GMT -5 imoan said:

Wait! But IF that is the case, why would that be an issue? Unless these are the type that think sperm can swim down through your throat and into your uterus?! Why would I care if saliva kills the sperm that's not going into my vagina anyway?! This post has confused the fuck out of me.

I think EB is talking about a BJ as foreplay and then having the guy finish in the vag to make a baby. Right?

[eb777888]

Sept 9, 2012 18:17:20 GMT -5 studytime45 said:

Sept 9, 2012 18:15:22 GMT -5 imoan said:

Wait! But IF that is the case, why would that be an issue? Unless these are the type that think sperm can swim down through your throat and into your uterus?! Why would I care if saliva kills the sperm that's not going into my vagina anyway?! This post has confused the fuck out of me.

I think EB is talking about a BJ as foreplay and then having the guy finish in the vag to make a baby. Right?

lol, yes, thank you. I wasn't sure how to explain it.

[imoan]

Oh... But the number would be so small (and like someone said, per cum).

[mudslide]

I don't see how it would be an issue.

[eb777888]

Okay. Maybe I'm taking the GP board's advice too seriously.

[eb777888]

H just said you all sound like incredibly intelligent women.

[peekay]

I'd say it's only an issue if you want to get out of giving bjs for awhile.

[eb777888]

Sept 9, 2012 18:27:38 GMT -5 peekay said:

I'd say it's only an issue if you want to get out of giving bjs for awhile.

haha!

[karmasabiotch]

My RE said not to do that when we were ttc.

[omeomi]

Ages ago when I was in college, I took a few human sexuality courses, and something along the lines of this came up as a question from a student.

*I am not a doctor, and I take no responsibility for the validity of what I was told back then*

What was told to us was that by swallowing your partner's sperm, you slightly reduce the amount that your body sees the sperm as a foreign object. Therefore, when sperm comes in contact with your cervix, the 'go away and die sperm!' chemical/mucus/whateverthehellitscalled that's released is less potent in fighting off those little buggers getting through.

So, according to what I was told, BJs are good, when swallowing, in the non fertile times. But in order to maintain his full potency during TTC times, abstain from BJs for a couple of days before.

But again, I have no idea how true this is or if my professor was off her rocker.

[eb777888]

Okay. Now I'm back to no BJ's again.

Thanks for the input everyone :-) I wanted to ask this question for a long time but realize it's TMI.

[eb777888]

omeomi, no, I have read that and it makes sense, thanks for the input. But I DO NOT swallow. Ever. No thank you. Double sads for my H, lol.

[omeomi]

I would assume the same principle would hold true (in fact, proabably moreso) that your body would see the sperm as less foreign the more it's in contact with your cervix. Which would mean that the more you have sex with him, um, depositing inside you in the non fertile times, the likelier the chances of conceiving at your fertile times.

But, if that holds true, definitely no BJs at all. Sorry, Mr eb!

[underwaterrhymes]

Just wanted to throw in there that I had always heard that saliva kills sperm too. It may very well be true a lot of the time, but in our case *cough* not ALL of the time, if you're picking up what I'm putting down.

[CurlyQ284]

I've never heard of this, and foreplay bjs are pretty standard for us. I got pregnant during the second month TTC ::shrug::

[Shayliz]

Saliva doesn't kill sperm, it's just not very swim friendly for them. Unless saliva is your only method of lube and you have no cervical mucus whatsoever - a BJ before sex isn't going to drastically reduce your chances of getting pregnant.

[speckledfrog]

EB if you are having TTTC (like those seeing a RE) then don't give BJs. If you are just trying and seeing what happens then go for it. When I first started trying I would and by the end I would have stood on my head and said the alphabet backwards if it created a more perfect environment for TTC.

[eb777888]

Sept 9, 2012 19:46:04 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

EB if you are having TTTC (like those seeing a RE) then don't give BJs. If you are just trying and seeing what happens then go for it. When I first started trying I would and by the end I would have stood on my head and said the alphabet backwards if it created a more perfect environment for TTC.

This was my exact thought. I think it we go six more months with no results, then I'll do the no BJ's, drink pomegranate juice, eat pineapple cores and drink green tea. But until then we should just do business as usual. I mean, it worked the first time!

[psychmom]

Theres millions of sperm in an ejaculation. You must have some super-dee-duper saliva to kick all those swimmers asses