UPDATE! Family emergency :(,

[joenali]

I just got a call that my grandma has been in the hospital for 4 days. My mom is out of the country and they could not get a hold of anyone. Finally, one of the nurses found my number some how. My mom has durable power of attorney. She may need to be transferred to a new facility and I don't know what to do. I really can't do anything. I am freaking the eff out. The good thing is that she is only under observation and can be released when her assisted living facility can see if she can stay with them or go to the next level of care.

I feel like such a SHITTY, SHITTY granddaughter. I only have called her once and she didn't answer, I thought she was at dinner so I didn't call her back.

I'm trying to track down my mom, but she only left me her itinerary and not the name of the cruise. I'm on hold with the cruise company to see if they can find her. What can I do if I'm not able to get a hold of her?? I am a mess.

Update: I FINALLY was able to talk to my mom this morning at 5am and was able to tell her what was going on. We only talked about 3 minutes, it's $7.95 a minute!

My grandma is well enough to not be in a hospital but may not be well enough to go back to her assisted living facility. They keep saying she has severe dementia. I don't think it's as severe as they say. But they are the professionals. We were able to visit her last night and she was in and out of it, not remember some things and then being her old self. She kept saying she fell down the stairs, but there aren't any stairs where she lives.

My mom is really pissed that it took 4 days for someone to get in touch with one of us. She knows there are other emergency contacts on my grandma's info

Today the nurse director from the assisted living facility will be at the hospital to evaluate my grandma to see if she is able to go back home or needs rehab. God bless my sister in law as she will be with my grandma today when they make that decision. I can't get a sub, my brother is on day 4 of a new job and DH can't get a sub either.

All is better, but I wouldn't say it's great until we find out where she will be.

The assisted living place had me under the impression yesterday that we would have to find a new place for her to live. That was making me incredibly upset to not have my mom to help in that decision.

Ok! THanks for reading this novel!

[2doxies]

I don't have any advice, I just wanted to say that I'm so sorry I would be a wreck, too. I hope that you can get in touch with my mom soon, I'm sure the cruise line will be able to track her down.

[joenali]

I found the ship but every time I call I get disconnected.

[Deleted]

*hugs* the cruse company should be able to find the ship she's on at least, it might take some time to get her a message/get her a way to communicate with you. In the meantime, stay in touch with the hospital and keep the apprised of the situation, and make yourself the primary contact/involved party. Hopefully they will work with you.

[wildfloweragain]

Things I might try next if you're at a loss: call the lawyer - is there another person in case your mom is not around who can make decisions?

-Ask the place where your grandma is what you can do.

-Leave a message on your mom's cell phone. Maybe even if she didn't bring her phone she is checking messages from home?

I bet the cruise company can find her.

I'm really sorry. She is being taken care of and you'll get it sorted out.

[wildfloweragain]

Just saw your update. Call the company back and tell them you keep getting disconnected.

[joenali]

Got through to the operator but got disconnected when they connected me to her room. I gave the operator a message to give my mom before they tried to connect me. So frustrating.

[Deleted]

Ugh, I hope you can get through. I am sorry.

[taratru]

I'm so sorry. Try not to beat yourself up while things get settled.

[katinthehat]

I'm so sorry

[bluelikejazz]

I'm so sorry! Keep trying. You will get a hold of your mom.

((hugs))

[joenali]

Update bump.

[shauni27]

So frustrating and upsetting and overwhelming! Glad you could finally reach your mom and see your grandma though and it sounds like things are improving all together, though it is tough with everything being up in the air. Hang in there!

[Brit]

I'm sorry that you are going through this. It sounds like the situation is getting better, but I can imagine that it is still hugely stressful.

[MrsE]

I'm sorry to hear about this but I'm happy to hear you were able to get in touch with your mom and that your SIL is able to help. Hope everything goes as smoothly as possible.

[jene]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. ((hugs))

[kams]

How stressful . I'm sorry

[sadlebred]

I'm really sorry about your grandmother, but I'm glad you were able to finally talk to your mom.

[al320]

just seeing this now, after your update. im sorry this is so stressful for you! big hugs to you and best to your grandma.