Is this the same guy that treats you poorly? Why would he say that?
Regardless, I hope you find confidence within yourself. You don't need negative self-talk from someone else. You are wonderful and doing a great job at keeping yourself healthy by not binging and purging. Keep up the great work.
I had a semi similar experience, except it was kids who said I looked pregnant while I was subbing. I texted BF and he said nothing which kind of bugged me and after looking in the mirror I felt like I definitely looked pregnant. My friend looked at the pic I took and assured me I was wrong. Honestly it was really hard for me to even want to eat the next few days because of how I felt. But I know now that it won't really do anything for me to do th have kinds of things. As shitty as I feel about my body though BF always tells me he's attracted to me, and I've gained around 100 pounds since we met. So for ur partner to say that to u? Not cool.
THIS is impressive, seriously. I went back to see a therapist earlier this year when I started restricting and purging. Knowing that even on bad days, you're able to say you have so many good days under your belt, it gives me hope. You're strong and you need to ignore that inner voice. It's a liar, and it was a dick move for that to be said to you and cause you doubt.
Sorry but he shouldn't have said that to you. Especially if he's aware of your struggle. Fuck him. You're doing awesome and the last thing you need is that question like that from him. Is he totally clueless or what??
Saint Monica. You do not need a man who says that shot to you. Actually NO REAL MAN would say that to a woman he cares about. You should be so, so, so, sooo proud of yourself and know that you may have "feelings", but you realize it and know how to fight the urge to stop destructive behavior. If you'd like to ship your POS man to NJ, I can kick him in the nuts a few times. I mean, who fucking says that to a woman.
You know you can do much better than him. ✌🏼️-out shitbag man in Saint Monica's life. In the words of a famous song "Bye, Bye, Bye!!"
Post by W.T.Faulkner on Nov 6, 2016 7:22:03 GMT -5
A good man would never even dream of saying that to you. His comments reveal nothing about you or the way you look and everything about the type of man he is. Based on what you've posted about him before, it seems pretty clear to me that a comment like this is a power move, to take you down a notch, to hit you where you hurt.
I hope you know this. I hope you know you're strong and beautiful, that you've overcome a LOT of adversity, and that you don't need to listen to that bullshit.
Post by cinnamoncox0 on Nov 6, 2016 7:28:12 GMT -5
Ugh Saint Monica I'm sorry he said that. Why would he do that? Ughhhh.
Congrats on the weight loss and keep up the hard work. Don't listen to that inner voice it's lying I am telling you now it's lying; he sucks for saying that and you are beautiful (((hugs)))
@saintmonica - I always have felt that eating disorders are the hardest to recover from due to the fact that everyone needs food to survive. An alcohol is able to recover by abstaining from any alcohol. You cannot abstain from food.
I'm sorry you are struggling, but you have done amazing for 5-6 years, please do not let one comment set you back. If you have to change your environment (aka end your relationship) then so be it. If this guy knew about your ED history, and still made that comment, that's really messed up!
I also wanted to point out that you turned to us when you felt the urge to purge. You are using your positive resources instead of relapsing which is awesome! Big hugs to you!
Post by mrsukyankee on Nov 6, 2016 12:21:40 GMT -5
Saint Monica, this says so much more about your guy than it does about you. Remember that the voice in your head telling you that he is right is just a voice - you do not have to give that voice power. The evidence against it is too strong and you have been a ROCKSTAR in going almost 6 years w/o purging. That is amazing. Seriously. Do not listen to him or that voice - you are enough. You are fabulous.
Post by katiescarlett on Nov 6, 2016 12:55:51 GMT -5
Do NOT believe him. He has said and done so much based on your previous threads. HE is the one who should be feeling bad, not you. You are amazing and I am sorry you're not feeling great right now. You deserve so much better! Try your best to take care of yourself. I don't know the details of how you made it through in the past, but reach out to anyone or any groups you did before! You can do this. <3
Post by laceylaplante on Nov 6, 2016 14:24:57 GMT -5
I just want to echo everyone and say that he's being a big time asshole. I'm sorry for your ED struggles. Do not let him get to you on this, I'm thinking of you.
A good man would never even dream of saying that to you. His comments reveal nothing about you or the way you look and everything about the type of man he is. Based on what you've posted about him before, it seems pretty clear to me that a comment like this is a power move, to take you down a notch, to hit you where you hurt.
I hope you know this. I hope you know you're strong and beautiful, that you've overcome a LOT of adversity, and that you don't need to listen to that bullshit.
This.
Are you still in a position where you can't leave this guy? Because I honestly can't see this getting better.