If you had a SCH w bleeding or were on pelvic rest

[chicago]

When you were taken off of pelvic rest, did you resume intimacy with your SO? I haven't had any red bleeding in 7 weeks and no spotting in 4, so my OB said I'm off restrictions. They've also said, though, that bleeding in 2nd tri (I was 14+5) means I'm at higher risk for preterm labor and premature rupturing of membranes. I would love to have some time with my husband, but we are both so freaked out about it bringing on more blood or worse. Losing this baby bc of a selfish need would be something I'd have a hard time getting past.

[chicago]

Thanks bricco! I had two OBs in the practice say it was fine once I got to two weeks without any blood, so my logical brain says it's fine. I am also paranoid in my first tri, so we literally have not done this since I got pregnant and it feels a bit torturous right now!

[starryfish]

I was on pelvic rest for several weeks towards the end of first tri due to placenta previa. Once it cleared and we were given the go, we did resume.

[mpc]

I'm 21 weeks and have been on pelvic rest this whole time. In the beginning my RE put me on it out of an over abundance of caution (I have had several miscarriages). Around 10 weeks he said I could go back to normal activities, but that was the same time I transferred to an OB and she kept me on pelvic rest. I was having occasional spotting, so I guess that's why. She finally lifted the restriction after my 20 week ultrasound when she could confirm there were no issues with the placenta attachment. In my opinion, this whole thing has been crazy conservative. I know sex can cause spotting, but I never got a satisfactory answer as to if sex could actually cause a miscarriage. She just kept telling me, I don't want you to start spotting and then freak out. Also, she said if I did miscarry after sex, there's nothing she could say to convince me that wasn't the reason. So, to me, it all seem fear-based and not actually data based. I would've been fine doing it several weeks ago. FWIW, in my first pregnancy (which was successful), I had first tri spotting, and the most they ever had me on pelvic rest was a week at a time.

My H has been out of town since I got the "all clear". He's coming home tonight and I'm pretty sure I'm going to be tackled. lol. No, we won't be waiting anymore.

[chicago]

mpc Is it weird if I say have fun tonight? Ha!

[knx9211]

mpc, HAVE A SUPER GREAT WEEKEND!


DH has been too scared to have sex with me since I got pregnant. And candidly, I'm nervous, too, even though there's no reason to think it could cause an issue. DON'T BE ME aka dry spell by choice since October 1. It is not that fun.

[chicago]

Dec 9, 2016 16:05:37 GMT -5 knx9211 said:

mpc, HAVE A SUPER GREAT WEEKEND!


DH has been too scared to have sex with me since I got pregnant. And candidly, I'm nervous, too, even though there's no reason to think it could cause an issue. DON'T BE ME aka dry spell by choice since October 1. It is not that fun.

Yep, that's how we were for most of my first pregnancy, though admittedly, I wasn't as interested. I have a feeling we may go this entire pregnancy without. If I get on board, H is still freaked. I can see us continuing to go back and forth on this. Nerves are so hard to reason with!

[chicago]

knx9211

On a separate note, I saw your other post on ML, but since I don't ever post there I thought I'd share my two cents here. Did you do an NT scan? I can't remember. They should be able to tell where your placenta is. If you have an anterior placenta I'd definitely recommend not getting a Doppler. It can be super difficult to find and then it's just nerves on nerves on nerves. If you don't have one, it might be easier, and I've heard the Sonoline B is good.

[knx9211]

Dec 9, 2016 16:21:06 GMT -5 chicago said:

knx9211

On a separate note, I saw your other post on ML, but since I don't ever post there I thought I'd share my two cents here. Did you do an NT scan? I can't remember. They should be able to tell where your placenta is. If you have an anterior placenta I'd definitely recommend not getting a Doppler. It can be super difficult to find and then it's just nerves on nerves on nerves. If you don't have one, it might be easier, and I've heard the Sonoline B is good.

We did - they didn't say anything about it, so I'm not sure.

[chicago]

I bet it's in the notes! I only found out bc I asked specifically. I had one last time too.

[ashap]

I had an SCH bleed at 7 weeks, than another random morning of bleeding last week at 14 weeks that they think is from the SCH but aren't sure. I was never officially put on pelvic rest, but we have elected to go without as a precaution since the first bleed. It's probably mostly paranoia, but I think it's a good decision for us for the time being.

[awick14]

I was on pelvic rest from 7-13w, once it was over we did continue normal activities, but the first few times we were very careful to not be too rough. 😉

When we got the go ahead to go off pelvic rest it was the same day as our NT scan, where the SCH was gone, and they confirmed that the placenta was high and not in a place where sex would be effected by it.

[MrsMB]

I was told by my OB that it was fine to resume activities....just to expect some potential to see some red. I was too freaked out though DH was TOTALLY understanding, thank goodness. So, we did everything else BUT for the rest of the pregnancy.

In my defense, I didn't have the red stuff until 20 weeks and it didn't resolve until 24 weeks, I think. So mine was later in the pregnancy than some of the others.

BUT...you do you. I see there are others who did and I'm sure it was fine.

[chicago]

MrsMB It's the second tri timing that freaks me out. Any blood in second tri is apparently what raises the risk of pprom or ptl. Maybe I'd be less nervous if it had happened earlier on. For now, the drought is real.

[lo]

I had spotting at 14 and 16 weeks and the dr couldn't find a cause after an U/s and internal exam, so I've been too nervous and basically put myself on pelvic rest...

[MrsMB]

Dec 13, 2016 20:34:12 GMT -5 chicago said:

MrsMB It's the second tri timing that freaks me out. Any blood in second tri is apparently what raises the risk of pprom or ptl. Maybe I'd be less nervous if it had happened earlier on. For now, the drought is real.

I agree.....it was terrifying in the second tri. So we did just oral and hands through the end of the pregnancy.