hello there stranger. Whats your sign?

[giam28]

yea yea yea i know its been a while.

ok so recap since i went MIA...my son is almost 2, and Dh and i signed seperation papers about a month ago. Ive really missed posting around here but life has been rough (understatement of the year)

What do i need to do to cover my arse financially?

im a SAHM, we are splitting what is in the savings/checking account. He is moving out this weekend (have been in seperate rooms for a while now). House is on the market. Im getting alimony/child support. I am staying on his health insurance until i get a job and get my own. Ive been applying online to pretty much anywhere. Im staying in the house with my son until the house sells. He will continue to pay all the bills until i get a job then we will re-evaluate how much money he gives me, right now we are following NYS calculator as to how much spousal/child support i get. We are sharing legal custody with me having physical custody. All of our "stuff" is in our seperation papers as to who gets what and what gets sold with the money split. What am i missing? anything else i need to do?

[pugz]

Gia??! we've missed you! so sorry you are going through crap

[UnderProtest]

Remember when redetermining financial support to include saving for your kids education and any make up in your retirement for you being a SAHM.

Edit: I totally didn't know who you were until you put your sig back up. You probably don't know me though since I lurked until just a little bit ago. Welcome back and I'm sorry to hear about your separation.

[Deleted]

Gia, hi! I'm sorry you're dealing with this but good luck.

[giam28]

thanks ladies. Ive really missed posting here too. I dont really post from my phone bc its a total PITA so these new boards just might get me re addicted!!!

Brownie points to whoever tells me how to get karen back in my sig!!

[Ashley&Scott]

Hey Gia! Glad you're back, sorry you're dealing with some crap right now.

For your siggy pic: right click & copy the URL, then go to My Profile & paste the URL. You can adjust the height/width too.

[giam28]

ahhh ive missed her!!! LOL

[amity]

Gia!

I'm so sorry that you are going through a tough time right now, but so happy to see you back!

[cjeanette]

So good to see you!! Sorry you are going through this. I just reunited with my H after an 8 month separation. Not fun stuff.

[KaraOrNot]

Sorry you are going through this, but good to "see" you again!

[womet]

Gia, I am so sorry that you are going through a rough time. {{{hugs}}} I hope you'll be sticking around.

[whitepicketfence]

Holy crap! Good to see you again, Gia! (I used to be Mikes_Wife06).

I'm so sorry that you're going through a tough time right now. Lots of hugs.

[countthestars]

Hi Gia! I was new-ish when you left, but I remember you. Sorry to hear things aren't going well, but I'm glad to see you are back!

[Mrs.Beagle]

Glad you're back. I'm sorry to hear about the separation

[giam28]

i do have an attorney, hes a good family friend. We are doing everything ourself and we want to keep lawyers/courts out of it. I have the attorney just to go over stuff for me (H doesnt know about him, im sure hes doing the same)

honestly im hoping this doesnt go into divorce. i just want him to wake up and attempt to make this work. he changed for the worse when i got PG. i hate him now. ive been putting up with a lot of crap and i cant do it anymore. i cant just be the passive submissive weak wife. I do not want my son to think this is ok to treat a wife like this. he wont go to therapy, im hoping that once he sees im serious about this and he realizes im not going to be there to do everything for him anymore and he cant see LO everyday he will wake up and try therapy. If he doesnt then i still make out good....i find someone who does love me and someone who is nice to me, although staying together is ideal, im

[heyrebekah]

Hi Gia! I'm so glad you found us here. I'm sorry you are going through all this right now.

[vanillacourage]

So sorry you're going through this!

Make sure your attorney covers what portion of his retirement savings you'd be entitled to. I'd also double check with insurance (health, life, etc) that you're covered if you've signed formal separation papers.

Hang in there and this board will always be here for you...even if we all pack up and move.

[Deleted]

Gia! It's been forever. I'm glad you're back.

I'm sorry your H is being a douche.

[cjeanette]

May 17, 2012 21:17:32 GMT -5 giam28 said:

i honestly im hoping this doesnt go into divorce. i just want him to wake up and attempt to make this work. he changed for the worse when i got PG. i hate him now. ive been putting up with a lot of crap and i cant do it anymore. i cant just be the passive submissive weak wife. I do not want my son to think this is ok to treat a wife like this. he wont go to therapy, im hoping that once he sees im serious about this and he realizes im not going to be there to do everything for him anymore and he cant see LO everyday he will wake up and try therapy. If he doesnt then i still make out good....i find someone who does love me and someone who is nice to me, although staying together is ideal, im

This is very similar to my story except I was the spouse who was being the jerk. I now have no idea why I didn't go to counseling sooner. It helped so much.

[Deleted]

Glad to see you again. I'm sorry your going through so much stuff.

[SuziSaysDa]

So sorry to hear about your rough patch, but glad to see you back.

[iamali]

Holy crap, I'm so sorry!!



This makes me so sad. No advice here, but please PM me if you want to become FB friends, I'd love to KIT with you.

[auberge]

HELLO Gia! Glad to see you back.
I'm sorry to hear about your separation but you should be proud of yourself for choosing to make a change either way. Hugs