I want H and I to sign up for a gym membership in January even though I'm 75% sure I won't use it enough to make it worth it and 99% sure he won't.
We joined the Y several months ago in a fit of... attempting to get fit. I've been ~ 10 times since, H even less.
Yet, every month, we pay.
We just canceled our Y membership because we went not a single time for a whole year. I keep telling myself that we'll definitely use the other one because it's way closer, has a nice pool, better classes, and a better child care center. And it's less expensive.
Confession: XH told me to have zero contact with his family, but xFIL sent the boys and me Christmas cards with quite a bit of money, and the guilt of not thanking him was too much. So I broke the agreement. And now I have guilt about THAT! I feel like there's no winning here.
Confession: XH told me to have zero contact with his family, but xFIL sent the boys and me Christmas cards with quite a bit of money, and the guilt of not thanking him was too much. So I broke the agreement. And now I have guilt about THAT! I feel like there's no winning here.
Unless you XH has a good reason for keeping no contact with his family, you did nothing wrong.
Confession: XH told me to have zero contact with his family, but xFIL sent the boys and me Christmas cards with quite a bit of money, and the guilt of not thanking him was too much. So I broke the agreement. And now I have guilt about THAT! I feel like there's no winning here.
Confession: XH told me to have zero contact with his family, but xFIL sent the boys and me Christmas cards with quite a bit of money, and the guilt of not thanking him was too much. So I broke the agreement. And now I have guilt about THAT! I feel like there's no winning here.
Well then your ex should have told his parents to send all gifts to him and not you.
I paid way too much money at a specialty candy shop for a 4-pack of the same type of butterbeer they sell at the Wizarding World of Harry Potter.
Turns out you really lose something when you're not walking around the actual park on a nice warm sunny Florida day as it snows back at home in Minnesota.
#liveandlearn
Aww this makes me sad But I imagine that's true. I don't really have butterscotch cravings but drinking a butterbeer in line at Ollivanders is the besssst.
Confession: XH told me to have zero contact with his family, but xFIL sent the boys and me Christmas cards with quite a bit of money, and the guilt of not thanking him was too much. So I broke the agreement. And now I have guilt about THAT! I feel like there's no winning here.
Unless you XH has a good reason for keeping no contact with his family, you did nothing wrong.
What is your ex's reason for not wanting you to have contact?
I paid way too much money at a specialty candy shop for a 4-pack of the same type of butterbeer they sell at the Wizarding World of Harry Potter.
Turns out you really lose something when you're not walking around the actual park on a nice warm sunny Florida day as it snows back at home in Minnesota.
I have a teeny tiny apartment, and yet I am solely responsible for letting my ...just 2-3 friends for dinner on NYE...grow into what seems to be becoming a party.
I'm being passive aggressive with...myself. It's like my east coast upbringing can't come to grips with my midwestern existence.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Unless you XH has a good reason for keeping no contact with his family, you did nothing wrong.
What is your ex's reason for not wanting you to have contact?
He feels snubbed by his dad and stepmother. They defer to me when it comes to the kids (mainly because I've had a stable address and phone number while XH's have changed often, without notifying his family) and he's offended. He says if they can't be nice to him, they don't get the priviledge of talking to/seeing the kids. They've always had a strained relationship, and his dad doesn't hide his disappointment well (XH has trouble holding a job, owes money, etc.)
I do feel that XH should be able to decide whether his family is involved with the kids or not, because I'd want that control re: my family. But... that's next to impossible when they have been nothing but kind to me and my kids, and continue to send generous gifts.
What is your ex's reason for not wanting you to have contact?
He feels snubbed by his dad and stepmother. They defer to me when it comes to the kids (mainly because I've had a stable address and phone number while XH's have changed often, without notifying his family) and he's offended. He says if they can't be nice to him, they don't get the priviledge of talking to/seeing the kids. They've always had a strained relationship, and his dad doesn't hide his disappointment well (XH has trouble holding a job, owes money, etc.)
I do feel that XH should be able to decide whether his family is involved with the kids or not, because I'd want that control re: my family. But... that's next to impossible when they have been nothing but kind to me and my kids, and continue to send generous gifts.
I understand the desire for control, but you didn't affirmatively contact his family. You behaved with politeness by thanking them for a gift. You would probably do the same thing for a stranger who held the door open for you or your kids. I'm team you and FIL, honestly.
I got 3 pairs of LLR leggings in the mail today. I'm wearing a pair and eating Christmas Cadbury eggs. Life is kinda amazing.
WTH is a Christmas Cadbury egg??? I need that.
I was quoting her when I saw you ask. CHRISTMAS CASBURY EGG? I know they have Halloween ones with green innards, how did I not know about Christmas ones? *runs to Amazon*