how do you get over poor grammar

[prettyinpearls]

Sept 11, 2012 12:17:29 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Sept 11, 2012 12:05:17 GMT -5 lovelybb said:

I don't get why this is a FFS. Everyone has things that bother them. Last time I checked people weren't saying that you were ridiculous for things that annoy you.

I agree that if you REFUSE to date someone who mixes up "your" and "you're" at times that is slightly over the top but what is wrong with saying that it bothers you?

For me, I'm not overly picky about it. FF communicates verbally like he's educated (which he is), but he sometimes will mix up you're/your, to/too, their/there when texting. NBD to me. His profession has little writing 'professional' writing, so it doesn't affect him.

My FFS was more to the point of why is it such a big deal as long as the man doesn't sound like a complete moron when he opens his mouth. And if my BF/FI/DH corrected a complete stranger's grammar, I'd be mortified. Just let the person sound like an idiot on their own.

As with anything else, to each their own I guess.

[gozf]

C'mon, it's really, really funny when BF corrects snooty kids who treat him like shit because he's in the service industry. Trust me.

Writing well is very important to me. I'm a writer. I write for my job, and I write for pleasure. I'm also an editor. It's a huge part of my workday to take a red pen to things that are incorrect, and it's something I can't turn off. So, yeah, it's a big deal to me. I'm not saying it should be a big deal to everyone. It's my thing.

[bullygirl979]

Sept 11, 2012 12:36:20 GMT -5 gozf said:

So, yeah, it's a big deal to me. I'm not saying it should be a big deal to everyone. It's my thing.

I guess this is what I was trying to convey. If using "ur" doesn't bother you then more power to you! I am not saying that it should. But don't say that I am "picky" because it bothers me. I wouldn't dump a guy for using it but it does grate on my nerves.

[gozf]

I don't hold this against people for whom English is not a first language.

Just like some of you don't like short guys? Just like some of you prefer cowboys? I prefer someone with really good grammar. A person who doesn't speak or write well quite simply isn't as attractive to me.

Let's say I met someone, and he was absolutely amazing and swept me off my feet and we fell in love, and I learned that his grammar was sub-par, I likely wouldn't break up with him. It would bug me, but it wouldn't be a deal breaker.

If I did the online dating thing, and someone physically attractive sent me a message where the language was butchered, though, I wouldn't go out of my way to meet him. Just like when I see a cover letter or resume with a lot of errors, I immediately eliminate that person as a candidate.

[blackkitty]

I love these posts so much when people are criticizing other people's grammar and they fuck up their own grammar in the process.
My favorite!!

[gozf]

Sept 11, 2012 13:34:13 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

I love these posts so much when people are criticizing other people's grammar and they fuck up their own grammar in the process.
My favorite!!

You talking to me? You wanna fight?

[bullygirl979]

Sept 11, 2012 13:39:53 GMT -5 gozf said:

Sept 11, 2012 13:34:13 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

I love these posts so much when people are criticizing other people's grammar and they fuck up their own grammar in the process.
My favorite!!

You talking to me? You wanna fight?

Funny. "Wanna" doesn't bother me. "Ur" makes me want to beat kittens with a baseball bat. Hmm...maybe I am not so picky after all.

[blackkitty]

Sept 11, 2012 13:39:53 GMT -5 gozf said:

Sept 11, 2012 13:34:13 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

I love these posts so much when people are criticizing other people's grammar and they fuck up their own grammar in the process.
My favorite!!

You talking to me? You wanna fight?

Haha, didn't notice your grammar errors... I'll have to go back again with my red pen and take a look

ETA: Everything is not always about YOUUUUUUUUUUUUU

[gozf]

I'm often posting in a hurried fashion here, so I know they're not always perfect. I'm ok with that. I think it's pretty clear that I have a good grasp of the English language, despite the occasional typo or error or what have you.

Additionally, I'm cranky and defensive and grumpy today, so no one should pay too much attention to me.

[heavenly]

Sept 11, 2012 12:16:56 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

Sept 11, 2012 11:51:36 GMT -5 heavenly said:

Awww you gals! You made my day. Though, I have to give you all credit for my list of vocabulary that has grown from reading your posts on here lol!

I guess there's nothing in ASL for "micro-peen" huh?

There totally is! Just wiggle your pinky finger.

[GilliC]

Sept 11, 2012 14:36:35 GMT -5 heavenly said:

Sept 11, 2012 12:16:56 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

I guess there's nothing in ASL for "micro-peen" huh?

There totally is! Just wiggle your pinky finger.

That is awesome! :Y: My day is now complete!
Thank you for that!

[starburst604]

Sept 11, 2012 14:36:35 GMT -5 heavenly said:

Sept 11, 2012 12:16:56 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

I guess there's nothing in ASL for "micro-peen" huh?

There totally is! Just wiggle your pinky finger.

DOH!!! I should have known that!! Hilarious.

[bowies]

Oh man, I remember getting emails from potential matches that were so bad I would have to read them out loud to try to understand them. I've also spent a large part of my professional career as a writer/editor (I've received reports without a single form of punctuation), so I get the pet peeve. If I had to deal with bad grammar in my personal life too I'd stab myself in the eyeballs.

Ironically, while I am the grammar queen when it comes to writing, I'm lazy when I speak it. XH used to correct me on my use of "I" vs. "me" all the time. I guess I made him want to stab his eardrums out, which kinda makes me smile.

There is absolutely no excuse for text speak though. I never, ever use it. Right after I met my best friend, she announced her displeasure for it, and that's how I knew we'd be the greatest of friends.