I just swapped out R's 3-6 mo clothes for his 6-12. It was sad but also fun to get new stuff out. Also realized we have tons of clothes and need nearly nothing. Still won't stop me from buying Valentines outfits for the kids... matching if possible. Lol.
R starts swimming lessons tonight, they are at the same time as DDs so it will be a family affair. I think H is going to swim with R, maybe we will take turns in the future though. I hope the pool isn't too cold for him, I know they run warm water into the baby section, hope it's enough.
I just swapped out R's 3-6 mo clothes for his 6-12. It was sad but also fun to get new stuff out. Also realized we have tons of clothes and need nearly nothing. Still won't stop me from buying Valentines outfits for the kids... matching if possible. Lol.
I need to swap out Cal's newborn clothes for 0-3 months and I'm irrationally sad about it, even though I have a ton of cute 0-3s. MY BAYBEE!!
I can't remember how much (if any) I've shared on here so this will be long...
When we started solids with Z, he had an intolerance/allergy to rice and oats. Projectile vomiting leading to being borderline lethargic. Scariest thing ever the first time it happened, I almost took him to the ER. After researching and talking with the pedi, we assume he has FPIES and have avoided all grains since. Thankfully, it's something many kids outgrow after a few years.
At his 1 year check up, they drew blood and tested his sensitivity to wheat, rice, and oats. He came back negative to wheat and rice, positive to oats. So the plan of attack is to reintroduce wheat and rice and see how he responds, and avoid oats and retest that one at the 2 year check up.
I know those tests can give false negatives, so I've been putting off reintroducing them for the last couple months. I finally this week decided I need to start, because we have his 15 month appt in a few weeks and I want to be able to tell the pedi where we are with them.
I started with wheat since he's never actually reacted to it, he's had 2 previous reactions to rice so I'm even more nervous about giving that again. I gave him a small bite of wheat cereal on Saturday, no reaction! This morning I gave him 2 bites of banana bread, no reaction!
I know I should be thrilled, but I can't relax yet because Z was able to eat rice cereal for 2 weeks before he had his first reaction. So I'm worried even though he's passed the 2 times I've given him wheat this week, that we aren't fully in the clear yet.
I need my appointment on Thursday to hurry up and get here. It's my 8 week u/s and Ill feel so much better if things look good then. Otherwise, I'm just getting ready to go on my trip Friday. I hate that my H can't come with me but I'm really looking forward to getting warm! It's been so cold here!
Not much going on here. We should find out in a few days the sex, so that's exciting!! I feel really weird, I'd like to see ultrasound pictures and stuff, but this isn't MY kid, so I feel weird asking. I'd love to hear a heartbeat, but that's like the ultrasound photos...how do you ask to hear that, you know? I thought once we got matched all those feeling of "loss" would go away, but I'm still being reminded of all the things that will never be just ours.
Sorry for the down post, totally unintended. Everything is ok, honestly, just sometimes a bit of a struggle.
I just swapped out A's 12 month for 18 month sizes. She is now officially wearing a size above her age. She still doesn't fill them out, but she's a fairly tall baby so needs the length.
G22, I hope Z manages okay with the wheat from now on!
oneslybookworm, I agree with spearmintleaf. I don't think it would hurt your relationship to say something like 'we'd love any updates (visual or otherwise) that you're comfortable sharing with us". I'm sorry, I imagine it's still a struggle. You are mourning the loss of the pregnancy experience you'd hoped to have. I think all of us understand that. Don't ever worry about being a downer or voicing your fears. We are here for you.
oneslybookworm I think it's reasonable to ask. When one of my cousins adopted her first child, she talked to the biomom and biomom created a pw protected blog where she could post stuff if she wanted. She posted a few ultrasounds and blurbs after dr appointments and then she ended up writing a letter to the baby before and after their daughter was born. They followed suit and post updates of the little girl and biomom is the only one with a password.
Well.... I wasn't sure about posting over here but loira recommended it and I will always feel so connected to you all that it felt weird not to.
So, I got a bfp on Friday night. We went to a clinic today because I was desperate and since we have switched insurance, I haven't found a new OB yet. I measured 5 weeks 5 days and we saw a gestational sac, fetal pole, and a rhythmic flicker but it wasn't measurable yet. I go back in 2 weeks.
I have no idea how far along I should be to know if the growth is on track. I haven't cycled since having L and they've been so strange and unpredictable. If everything keeps growing and progressing, baby llama #2 is due September 6 and they'll be about 19 months apart.
Post by cactuscookie on Jan 10, 2017 0:24:29 GMT -5
dollyllama , so this is a post-IF no-treatment miracle baby?! Yay! I'm hoping for one of those myself.
oneslybookworm , it's a tough situation. It seems clear that you'd want to know as much as possible - ultrasound pictures, details of doctor's appointment, each kick - but you're trying to respect the birth mom's feelings too. I hope she's at a place where she'll share everything she can, because you guys definitely deserve it.
G22 , how scary. Oatmeal on its own would be annoying but not a constant worry. Hopefully it's nothing more than that.
King26 , I'm counting down to all of your appointments. Sorry to be stalkery, but about what time Thursday?!
dellabear , scm1011 , loira - H has worn a size below her age for all of her life until, basically, now. It's throwing me for a loop.
Thanks for letting me vent ladies! I haven't really talked about it much outside of our families. I do hope he has outgrown some of the grain allergies, it will make life so much easier for him (and us right now.)
@dollylama congrats! I hope things look good at your next appt!
Z has always been a size above his age in clothing. He's solidly in 18months right now. I'm putting away the last of his 9-12 month currently.
Post by oneslybookworm on Jan 10, 2017 8:15:28 GMT -5
Thanks ladies! To be fair to our expecting mother, she would probably share the scans in a hot second if I asked. I just feel hesitant to ask for them, because I feel like I'm overstepping somehow. I don't want her to feel like we only care about her because of the baby, or that we already think of the baby as OURS. Basically, I'm just worried that I'll somehow offend her.
Tomorrow is her anatomy scan, so we will hopefully hear more then. I think I'll shoot her a text tomorrow morning, asking how she's doing and seeing if her nausea has let up any. The agency director I've been in contact said that they would ask for scan images after this appointment so that I didn't have to.
Overall, I think I'll feel better when the relationship is more established. Right now, it's all so new and tenuous, I just don't want to be an ass.
I cannot tell you how nice it is to be on this board and see all of these success stories. Women who have gone through so much but are now mamas. Sometimes it is really hard for me to just see the problems other women keep having because I latch onto that and focus on it and always assume the worst.
King26, REALLY jealous of your upcoming trip! oneslybookworm, you are so incredibly kind and empathetic. I agree, this is all new, for both of you guys and the birth mom. This will take some time to flush out and feel comfortable. I personally communicate everything, so I would honestly just tell her that. Say "this is all new to me and I do not want to overwhelm you nor make you feel unsupported. We care about you as much as we care about baby and this might be awkward for a bit. Please tell me if I am rubbing you the wrong way or what you need from me so I can make this as smooth as possible" or something like that. dollyllama, !!!!!!
Nothing much going on here. Just impatiently waiting for the results of our testing to come back. The stress and anxiety level at our home is really high, not just baby related, but some personal stuff as well. I feel like I am drowning but just trying to get through the day being as positive as possible.
I'm glad your agency is going to ask for pictures for you oneslybookworm. I can imagine communication is difficult to navigate right now; hopefully as you get more comfortable with each other it comes more naturally.
Post by oneslybookworm on Jan 10, 2017 10:08:14 GMT -5
Thanks so much, shauni27, that might be EXACTLY what I text her. Huge hugs coming your way regarding the tests, hang in there...and I hope things settle down for you soon!
Post by dollyllama on Jan 10, 2017 10:31:24 GMT -5
cactuscookie it is. The IF in me rolls my eyes every time I refer to it as a suprise. I mentioned to DH after my last cycle that since DS has dropped a couple nursing sessions and I was cycling again it might be time to start being more cautious but apparently our efforts were too little too late lol.
The shock quickly moved to excitement and now I am back to same anxious pregnant self lol. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you!
Hugs @osb! I think one of the strangest things with IF is that being PG / matched with a child / even having a child does not cure the heartache of IF. It's always different for us. Not to make it sound bleak, it's not all bad, it's different in a good way, too. Obviously expecting it having a kiddo is amazing, but there's always a part of you that is still IF and it changes your perspective so much. It's okay to continue to mourn what IF or loss has taken from you, and it doesn't make you ungrateful for what you have or are expecting to have.
cactuscookie it's not until 340 because it's on my way to my parents (where I'm flying out of Friday morning) and I couldn't miss anymore work. Thursday will be a long day!
This week is DRAGGING ASS for me. We are transitioning into new teams at work and it is just really tedious, mind numbing work right now. In the long run it will be great, but for example, I just looked at the clock SURE I had been here for half the day already and it is only 11. 6 more hours to go!
oneslybookworm , what time is the appointment today!? I CAN'T WAIT!!!!
AFM, just over 17 weeks now. I feel like I look huge but I think that's just because I know what I normally look like. When I take a picture, it's still just a wee little bump. Feeling good, although I'm having a lot of trouble sleeping. Plus, I'm feeling pressure on/in my tummy and that pinching/pulling that's way low.. which is what happened right before I popped, so I foresee this belly getting bigger soon.
A friend bought us the CUTEST little gift yesterday. It's a personalized Steelers jersey (Dh is a huge football fan) and the back has the number 17 and says "McBaby." Our last name is a Mc name, so we've been calling the baby that. haha It's SO TINY AND CUTE. That tiny AND it's 18m so it can be worn the following season when they're running around. haha I love it.
Post by oneslybookworm on Jan 11, 2017 11:18:09 GMT -5
knx9211, no idea, I forgot to ask when I talked to her last week. I texted her this morning letting her know we were thinking of her and asking if her morning sickness had gotten any better (she's been having trouble with it still, nearly halfway through), but I haven't heard back yet. This waiting is hard!
We've been referring to baby as "Little Artichoke" because we were matched at the time when those comparison charts show the size comparable to an artichoke. Obviously bigger now, but the name stuck!
oneslybookworm, oh no! I hope she feels better soon. That must be so awful.
I've referred to baby as McBaby to others, but DH and I just haven't come up with anything that we actually refer to her/him as at home. We did with our first pregnancy (I have no idea where Taco Chip came from, but that was #1's nickname) and we just haven't done it this time. Probably a bummer, but he's been hesitant to do so many cutesy things this time around because he's so scared of another loss like with #1. But I wish we had come up with a cutesy nickname again.
For those with toddlers, when did you start brushing teeth? I occasionally swipe A's teeth and gums with a washcloth, but should I be doing more at this point? She has 4 teeth and 2 more on the way. cactuscookieboiler717G22Muddled
For those with toddlers, when did you start brushing teeth? I occasionally swipe A's teeth and gums with a washcloth, but should I be doing more at this point? She has 4 teeth and 2 more on the way. cactuscookieboiler717G22Muddled
We started as soon as Z popped his first teeth, which was around 4 months. Lucky us. We use a kids toothbrush and a kids fluoride toothpaste now. I took him to the dentist a few months ago, because the base did a kids clinic and at that time he had 8 teeth. They told me he's old enough for a fluoride toothpaste, we just do barely smear. I try to "brush" his teeth for about 20-30 seconds, but some nights the fight isn't worth it and I just let him chew on it. I figure its better than nothing, and when we first started using a toothbrush I'd just let him kind of naw on it to get used to it rather than brush anyways.
He's now cutting molars, dear Lord. Send wine. All the wine.
A friend bought us the CUTEST little gift yesterday. It's a personalized Steelers jersey (Dh is a huge football fan) and the back has the number 17 and says "McBaby." Our last name is a Mc name, so we've been calling the baby that. haha It's SO TINY AND CUTE. That tiny AND it's 18m so it can be worn the following season when they're running around. haha I love it.
When we got pregnant in 2015, we told FIL by getting him a Dolphins onesie and matching hats. I could care less about sports, but my in laws are dolphin's fanatics. The onesie says "littlest (or maybe it says cutest?) fan" and is so small and adorable, especially with the matching hat.
The thing I call baby most is baby or little bug. H just says "the baby." I think again, until it starts to feel more real and we have PROOF OF LIFE in there after 20 weeks or so, we might come up with something else, but it still feels like something that will just be taken away at any moment, you know?
A friend bought us the CUTEST little gift yesterday. It's a personalized Steelers jersey (Dh is a huge football fan) and the back has the number 17 and says "McBaby." Our last name is a Mc name, so we've been calling the baby that. haha It's SO TINY AND CUTE. That tiny AND it's 18m so it can be worn the following season when they're running around. haha I love it.
When we got pregnant in 2015, we told FIL by getting him a Dolphins onesie and matching hats. I could care less about sports, but my in laws are dolphin's fanatics. The onesie says "littlest (or maybe it says cutest?) fan" and is so small and adorable, especially with the matching hat.
The thing I call baby most is baby or little bug. H just says "the baby." I think again, until it starts to feel more real and we have PROOF OF LIFE in there after 20 weeks or so, we might come up with something else, but it still feels like something that will just be taken away at any moment, you know?
Totally get it. DH has been a little more excited now that I'm showing, but he's still SO CAUTIOUS and closed off. I really hope that he'll get more excited after our 20 week scan. I think he'll regret not getting more excited. We'll see.