"Bob" is a mousy guy, I have about 2 inches and 40 lbs on him. He is generally friendly, and I've never had a problem with him. He doesn't have much of a personality, but is nice enough. Just real quiet. Me - I laugh and joke around a lot, maybe sometimes too much. But I also call thing as I see them.
I was doing some work on something that was half assembled, and I needed to do it without Bob's help.
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Bob just seems a tad strange. His response sounds like he lacks social skills.
Good call. Funny, he was on travel in the same location and me (and 2 other coworkers) last week. We didn't see him once.
Really, I don't think he meant any harm by it. But dude... after being called out on something, who on earth repeats it twice more?!
What really bugs me is that in about 3 months, my department is moving to that building full time, and will have to share the lab space. And I honestly wonder how pervasive that attitude is (its a very male dominated lab area, and my group is 8 women and 1 male).
Odd is a better word. I'm not really "offended" much. But I do call men out when they treat me like someone being a woman makes me different at work.
I spent most of the just perplexed by it, but then I was relaying the story to someone else (as part of a "OMG, this move is going to be terrible b/c of some other crap that happened when I was just trying to work today"), and my coworker (another guy) was so taken aback by the conversation.
Post by spiderspray on May 17, 2012 20:39:00 GMT -5
It probably doesn't help that I read Bob's voice as an overly calm, creepy serial killer voice.
Especially the "Okay, I've helped you" part.
If he's otherwise normally functioning, then I vote offensive. If he always acts like this, I'm thinking just a general lack of social skills is at play.
It probably doesn't help that I read Bob's voice as an overly calm, creepy serial killer voice.
Especially the "Okay, I've helped you" part.
If he's otherwise normally functioning, then I vote offensive. If he always acts like this, I'm thinking just a general lack of social skills is at play.
Post by dr.girlfriend on May 18, 2012 8:07:26 GMT -5
Do you think the third time was him trying (not successfully) to make a joke of it, realizing he said something stupid? Because, obviously he didn't do anything to help. In general, though, I agree with this being more of a cluelessness/social skills problem. Is he single?
I would be tempted to say, "Bob, I could benchpress you. There's nothing about my uterus that requires you to step in here." But that probably would be offensive. :-)