Week of 3/20

[shauni27]

Morning all, and happy spring! It was beautiful new england March spring weather over the weekend, but the high on Wednesday is 20 degrees. WTF.

Had lots of movement over the weekend and am 22 weeks today. Still not much of a bump--kind of depends on what I am wearing! Sometimes it looks like a small bump, otherwise just chub.

Anyone have exciting plans or anything for this week?

[mpc]

I have less than a month to go now. woo! I have another OB appt and monitoring this afternoon. I've been feeling a lot better these past couple days than I was last week. Hopefully everything keeps trucking along just fine. No big plans this week. My MIL's birthday is coming up and apparently she wants to do karaoke. Uh, no. I think I might be too sick to go out that night, haha.

[thoseareradishes]

E's hole in her heart is closed up, so now we are working on strengthening her lungs. She's eating like a champ (through a feeding tube) and gaining weight. I'm worried I may not be able to keep up with her eventually - I'm only producing about 200ml of milk a day right now. I need to talk to the lactation consultant today.

[mpc]

Did I tell y'all that my BIL and SIL just found out they are having a boy? They are about 3 months behind us. We have so many boy clothes and other things packed away from my son. I've been going through it to see what we can use with this baby, but now I'm wondering if I should just pass it all along to SIL. But then I don't know if we might try to have another baby or not. I really am not ready to decide either way at this point. My H said we should just pass it all along and ask for it back when they are done, but one thing I've learned on these boards is not to expect to get anything back. Anyway, it's weird, letting go of stuff.

[scm1011]

C rolled over yesterday and we both missed it! I ran out to the store, and DH was doing a crossword puzzle while DS played on his playmat. At one point DH looked over and Cal was on his tummy. We tried unsuccessfully all afternoon to get him to do it again, lol.

I hear you on letting go of stuff, mpc. We very well may be one and done, but I still have a hard time giving clothes away. I've been saving all my favorites, which is pretty much half of his clothes, ha. I agree that you shouldn't expect to get back any clothes that you give to SIL.

[mpc]

scm1011 I thought surely I could just go through and divide the clothes in 2 piles, half to keep and half to give away. But then every stupid onesie I was like awwww I remember this one, I need this. lol. It was kind of ridiculous. I had an easier time parting with the newer looking stuff that DS never really got around to wearing. A couple months ago I went through his 3T clothes and my donate pile was bigger than the keep pile, so maybe the secret is to do it right away before everything becomes too sentimental.

[grover]

I'm having a baby this week!!!!
We go in at 6 pm on Wednesday to start the cervidil.

[G22]

I never thought I'd be attached to my child's hair, but Z has the most adorable curls and I'm not ready to cut them. Buuuut he's starting to have a curl mullet and his hair is so long in the front, it's in his eyes half the time. I'm on the fence about what to do with it. I don't know if he'll even sit still for a haircut, but something needs done and I don't dare trim it myself.

[shauni27]

AHHH! That is so exciting, grover!

I am so, so happy to hear that baby girl is thriving, thoseareradishes. I think of you guys daily <3

[starryfish]

It's my first day back at work from ML. I have mixed emotions but have been doing good. I know I can't be a SAHM so I'm mostly ok with it. Daycare uses an app and uploaded this pic of her.

[mrsgoontz]

thoseareradishes so glad to hear she's doing well!!

grover!! So exciting, I can't believe it's finally time.

starryfish she's precious.

My birthday is in 2 weeks and I will also be just over 12 weeks then. We were thinking of doing a baby announcement when we have family over for my bday. I want to announce but there is that voice that says "don't do it...your daughter died at 20 weeks and you thought everything was fine." Ugh, MIND FUCK. Only my mom and best friend know at this point and I know H wants to tell his family. I think I just need to lighten up a bit.

I don't plan on telling work until 16 weeks, 20 if I can hide my bump for that long.

I am having a headshot taken in a few minutes for work. So many people have complimented my makeup and hair today. I guess I normally look like a slob. Oh well.

[grover]

mrsgoontz , I normally look like a slob I guess too. I don't wear makeup to work, and usually throw my wet hair up into a ponytail. I'm not trying to impress the middle school students I teach
I'm not sure what I would do if in your shoes. Maybe wait and see how you feel when the day comes?

[shauni27]

mrsgoontz, that is SO tough. Having a loss nearly the same time as you we waited to tell the majority of our friends and family until we had our anatomy scan. We did tell a few loved ones around 12-15 weeks, but for the most part we waited until that "all clear" scan. I sometimes STILL get nervous that we "jinxed" it, you know?

[mrsgoontz]

Mar 20, 2017 13:27:50 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

mrsgoontz , that is SO tough. Having a loss nearly the same time as you we waited to tell the majority of our friends and family until we had our anatomy scan. We did tell a few loved ones around 12-15 weeks, but for the most part we waited until that "all clear" scan. I sometimes STILL get nervous that we "jinxed" it, you know?

Yeah, I probably should have been more clear. At 12 weeks we would be telling both sets of parents and my brother. No extended family or friends. So, I am comfortable with it I'm just a bit ancy. 

We are waiting until after anatomy scan to tell everyone/work. I'm thankful you guys get my brand of crazy  (heart)

[shauni27]

mrsgoontz, in that case I 100% think you should tell them if you want to, but also understand your hesitation. I think it is ok to wait and see how you are feeling that day, you know?

[FastHands]

Mar 20, 2017 9:07:54 GMT -5 grover said:

I'm having a baby this week!!!!
We go in at 6 pm on Wednesday to start the cervidil.

Just in case they didn't tell you this -- you can't eat a big meal right before you go in. I assumed it was NBD and that nothing would get started till the next morning, and I hadn't eaten all day (it wasn't pre-planned; I was officially pre-e at my 37wk appt and they told me to go to the hospital and start the party), so I ate a big mac on my way to the hospital since lord knows when I would eat real food again.... Welllll when I got there, they said they couldn't start the cervidil with that in my stomach, because there are some cases when just cervidil is enough to get labor started, and they couldn't do that in good conscience with all of that in my stomach in case I ended up needing surgery. NOW you tell me... lol.

[grover]

Mar 20, 2017 15:11:56 GMT -5 FastHands said:

Mar 20, 2017 9:07:54 GMT -5 grover said:

I'm having a baby this week!!!!
We go in at 6 pm on Wednesday to start the cervidil.

Just in case they didn't tell you this -- you can't eat a big meal right before you go in. I assumed it was NBD and that nothing would get started till the next morning, and I hadn't eaten all day (it wasn't pre-planned; I was officially pre-e at my 37wk appt and they told me to go to the hospital and start the party), so I ate a big mac on my way to the hospital since lord knows when I would eat real food again.... Welllll when I got there, they said they couldn't start the cervidil with that in my stomach, because there are some cases when just cervidil is enough to get labor started, and they couldn't do that in good conscience with all of that in my stomach in case I ended up needing surgery. NOW you tell me... lol.

My OB told me to eat dinner before going in, but I'm waiting for the hospital to call back as I was napping when they tried calling me a little bit ago. It's on my list to double check with them.

I know the hospital policy is no snacks on cervidil either, though my one OB told me to sneak something if I get hungry. Lol for days.

[FastHands]

Mar 20, 2017 15:19:38 GMT -5 grover said:

Mar 20, 2017 15:11:56 GMT -5 FastHands said:

Just in case they didn't tell you this -- you can't eat a big meal right before you go in. I assumed it was NBD and that nothing would get started till the next morning, and I hadn't eaten all day (it wasn't pre-planned; I was officially pre-e at my 37wk appt and they told me to go to the hospital and start the party), so I ate a big mac on my way to the hospital since lord knows when I would eat real food again.... Welllll when I got there, they said they couldn't start the cervidil with that in my stomach, because there are some cases when just cervidil is enough to get labor started, and they couldn't do that in good conscience with all of that in my stomach in case I ended up needing surgery. NOW you tell me... lol.

My OB told me to eat dinner before going in, but I'm waiting for the hospital to call back as I was napping when they tried calling me a little bit ago. It's on my list to double check with them.

I know the hospital policy is no snacks on cervidil either, though my one OB told me to sneak something if I get hungry. Lol for days.

Yeah, I don't think it was that I ATE, it was that... I gorged. lol

[grover]

Mar 20, 2017 15:29:08 GMT -5 FastHands said:

Mar 20, 2017 15:19:38 GMT -5 grover said:

My OB told me to eat dinner before going in, but I'm waiting for the hospital to call back as I was napping when they tried calling me a little bit ago. It's on my list to double check with them.

I know the hospital policy is no snacks on cervidil either, though my one OB told me to sneak something if I get hungry. Lol for days.

Yeah, I don't think it was that I ATE, it was that... I gorged. lol

I have to pick H up at the train on the way to L&D.....We pass a five guys and a burger King, and one of those was going to be our dinner plan lol

[awkwardpenguin]

grover, good luck! I don't remember why you're inducing - do you mind me asking?

I have an OB appointment in a half hour. I'm nervous! I both don't want to get checked and am insanely curious if I've made any progress.

[loira]

G22, A has these horrible little wisps that don't stay tucked behind her ears. I really need to trim them... but baby hair! Also, she's still pretty bald, so I feel indignant that I even have to take scissors to it this early when it's so thin on top.

[loira]

mrsgoontz, my parents knew all along but we only told my in-laws after good CVS results at around 15 weeks. I wouldn't have minded them knowing earlier, but my MIL can't keep a secret to save her life. I'm not close with my H's siblings and didn't want them knowing until we knew everything looked okay. If it were up to me, we would have announced a birth and that's it. We never announced my pregnancy to friends, we let the bump speak for itself. My Canadian friends were surprised when we moved back from the UK and I was very pregnant, but everyone understood.

[grover]

FastHands, Not only can I eat before going in, the L&D pre-admit nurse specifically told me to bring snacks, that I can snack til midnight.

This knowledge makes me much happier! LOL

[grover]

awkwardpenguin, my proteins have been high, though my blood pressure has been fairy low. Also had some swelling before they wrote me out of work on the 10th. Not officially diagnosed pre-e, but between the proteins and my anxiety, they offered an induction any time after 39 weeks.

With H a minimum of 1-2 hours commute away thanks to public transportation, it has definitely helped my anxiety having it scheducled. And honestly, this pregnancy hasn't been as easy as I would have hoped (don't we all, especially given IF), and to be honest, I'm over being pregnant. My doctors also don't like going past 41 weeks in general, but I don't know if I would have made it that long anyway.

[awick14]

shauni27- the movement is so reassuring! It was my favorite part of being pregnant.

thoseareradishes- I'm glad E us doing so well! And you are doing awesome by feeding her what you have. Your exclusively pumping right? I hope a lactation consultant is able to help you increase your milk production.

We are moving and don't want to store her clothing but I can't seem to part with them. My MIL has offered us storage of all the clothing we want. so I'm trying to just keep my favorites but like scm1011 that's like half of her stuff. Lol

Eek! grover!!!

G22- is there a kids salon there? My DD doesn't have hair yet, lol, but I know we have kids salons here that are supposed to be amazing with kids.

@startyfish- so cute!

((mrsgoontz)) figuring out the right time to tell people is hard. We only told immediate family and only a few friends until after our 20 week ultrasound. And the people that knew were only people who were supportive during previous losses.

awkwardpenguin- I loved the idea of the checks but when everyweek was the same thing "no more progress" it was frustrating. I was 2cm forever. (Even when I went to L&D in labour. Urg)

**unplanned pregnancy mentioned below, NOT mine. (Not sure if I need a warning but just in case)
My SIL (brothers wife) has been having medical problems since about October (I believe). They did a pregnancy test at the very beginning of her tests and it was negative. Fast forward to now when she still has no answers and she is still suffering from exhaustion, stomach troubles, among other things. Her doctors never retested her for pregnancy. But she took a test the other day just because. She's pregnant! (She has endometriosis and doesn't ovulate regularly so no period is not unusual for her)

She saw her doctor and they think she is closer to 4-5 months along. (Not sure how/why they think that) She is so anxious about this, they weren't preventing a pregnancy but she's always been told she would need treatment to get pregnant, she wasn't expecting it to happen so quickly. She is terrified that something is going to be wrong with the baby as she hasn't had any prenatal care. (But taking prenatals) She is an anxious person normally so this is just throwing her into overdrive.

DH and I have reached out and told both of them that we are here if they need us. DH also works with my brother and yesterday they talked and my brother said he's worried about his wife. We are fairly close, so I think I'm going to reach out and see if she wants to do coffee or something as she works for the school district and they are on spring break right now. I wish I could help her anxiety, but I know that the only thing that helped me was delivering DD.

[G22]

awick14 no strictly kids salons in our area I have found. I wish there was though. I've found a few recommendations on places that are good for younger kids, so I'm contemplating taking him to one of those. Eventually. Lol

[daisyfay25]

I'm so weird about my kids hair, he's had multiple haircuts but still every time he has an appointment I get sad all over again! Lol! He has very straight, soft hair though so it looks messy when it's too long.

[konapoppy]

mrsgoontz, deciding when to tell is always so tricky. I bet everyone will be as thrilled for you as we are when you do share.
awick14, that is crazy! I hope they can move past the anxiety and into excitement soon.

[mpc]

my appointment/monitoring went great. Now my doc is saying maybe I don't really have pre-e, maybe I just have a little higher level of proteins normally. So she recommended I do a 24 hr collection with my PCP 6 months or so after delivery, just to know. Either way, they are still going to keep watching me closely, just in case.

awkwardpenguin, how was your appointment yesterday? did they do a cervical check?
that picture is so cute starryfish. How was your first day back at work?

now that my kid is 4 I love how he looks after a haircut. Those early ones cutting off the wispy curls were a lot harder.

[awkwardpenguin]

grover, I'm so excited for you! Glad you got the food options sorted out - every hospital has a different policy about food with inductions, which is weird. I'm glad you are excited and reassured about having an induction scheduled - I'm sure it's nice to know you'll have a baby in your arms soon!

My appointment went pretty well. They did check my cervix - not dilated, but soft and 50% effaced. I was hoping for more but it's okay, it's not like I can will this to happen any sooner than it will. I'll be induced at 40 weeks if he doesn't come on his own because of GD and needing insulin. I'm nervous about an induction but I think it will be okay.