awick14, we'll be back on the island in May - just in time for the election haha. I'm a bit jealous of your SIL. I know their situation wasn't ideal, but I would have loved to have just found out I was 25 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby, and all the first tri worry/sickness etc over with.
Me too. I was telling DH last night that I'm so jealous. If all I had to worry about was from weeks 25-40 I would be so happy. (But I couldn't imagine only having 15ish weeks to digest the news.
I had a great ultrasound today. Two babies on track with hb of 161 and 170. They were SO much bigger than last time. It is still a little crazy! Thanks for all of support re: progesterone.
I had a great ultrasound today. Two babies on track with hb of 161 and 170. They were SO much bigger than last time. It is still a little crazy! Thanks for all of support re: progesterone.
YAY! I've been stalking for an update since I got off my flight. So happy for you!
Love of my life baby boy born 11/11. One and done not by choice; 3 years of TTC yielded 4 MMC and 2 CPs, through 4 IUIs and 2 IVFs. Focusing on making the world a better place instead...and running.
awick14 I am SO jealous of your SIL haha. I would be so relieved to have only 15 weeks to prepare for baby--I am right behind your SIL and it feels like time is DRAGGING. 15 weeks seems so much more manageable than 17. konapoppy YAY! I am so excited for you! I remember the difference between 7 and 10 weeks--at 7 he was a little blob and at 10 he looked like a little lizard! It was so cool.
Post by oneslybookworm on Mar 24, 2017 9:13:41 GMT -5
Well, we're back from NOLA. Overall, the trip was really good! There were some hiccups, of course, because nothing in my life goes smoothly. A recap:
Sunday, we get in late...in time for an AMAZING dinner and time for bed.
Monday, wake up and get the rental car. Start the drive to Baton Rouge to meet with EM for lunch. Had a wonderful lunch, got to talk with her and hang out...she loved her quilt! We bailed and she did a counseling session with the social worker, but got a few hugs from her and made plans to meet up Tuesday or Wednesday. Texted later that evening and she mentioned how much she liked meeting with us, and we told her we had a great time as well...things sound great!
Tuesday, I wake up and walk around the French Quarter some. Text EM to see if she wants to meet up for lunch. Don't hear back...proceed to do our own thing. Text again later in the evening because we got permission to do a hospital tour...don't hear back.
Wednesday, wake up and grab rental car. Go meet with the lawyer to discuss logistics. Find out that we have to come back to Louisiana to finalize the adoption, and baby needs to be born by 5/31 to reach a cut-off date for finalization in 2017. Text EM to let her know we're heading to Baton Rouge, wondering if she wants to grab lunch or go to the hospital with us. Nada. Go to the hospital tour, which was less than stellar. The nurse was nice, but informed us that it was a baby friendly hospital, so no nursery, and we would NOT be given a room to stay in while EM was in the hospital (which was fine, I wasn't even planning on asking...we planned to stay in a hotel, but thanks). Then proceeded to inform us that the baby will stay in EM's room under her care. If she doesn't want to care for the baby, the baby will be moved to another room and a "sitter" (someone provided by the hospital) will be taking care of the baby. We were told we would NOT be able to care for the baby until papers are signed. After that, I spoke with the agency, who had never heard of this, so they're going to do some more digging. I'm really hoping it's one of those where we're just supervised the whole time (which is fine), but that we'll be able to hold/feed her. If not, I'm going to be PISSED.
Finally heard from EM on Wednesday night. She had lost her phone and it had died, she had only just found and charged it. So...that sucks. We only got to see her for about an hour, the hospital tour was about 15 minutes (and I nearly shanked someone), and the visit with the lawyer was pretty uninformative (though she's HILARIOUS).
That said...we had a good time. Explored NOLA, ate a TON of amazing food, and got the lay of the land. Now late May/early June just needs to get here ASAP!
oneslybookworm, I am glad you had an overall good trip--NOLA is amazing so just getting to explore that and hopefully relax a bit was nice. And I am glad you met EM (dumb question--I always say birth mom and have no idea what EM is...can you tell me?) and that overall you guys got along despite her being flaky.
I hope the agency is able to work with the hospital a bit so you and H can care for baby when she gets here. Please keep us posted on that. I would be upset too.
Depends how short LOL. You have really long hair, so it seems like it won't be a true mom bob.
So maybe I need some pictures of what no to do, lol. I was planning on going above the shoulders.
I think that should be perfect. I'm the wrong person to ask about mom hair, because (TRUE STORY) my last haircut was one I gave myself after my kid gave me head lice and my hair was too long to reasonably nit comb.
I was thinking about you this weekend oneslybookworm! I'm glad you got to meet EM. That's good that she showed up for lunch I think. Sorry about the hospital though, that sounds frustrating. I hope it can all get straightened out.
Glad you had a good visit, oneslybookworm, although I hope you get the hospital issue resolved.
I think I'm going to have to push A's nap back again. Tried to put her down at noon today and she screamed for 45 minutes before conking out for only 35.
Post by thoseareradishes on Mar 24, 2017 20:38:27 GMT -5
I'm glad you had a good visit oneslybookworm, that's a bummer you couldn't see EM more. I hope the hospital is willing to work with you so you can spend time with baby.
I got to hold E again today, it was so nice. She is on a CPAP (external oxygen support) so it was so much easier than when she was on the vent. She was crying a little at first but then she settled down and took a nap.
thoseareradishes, I get so excited when I see you post. Sending continued growing thoughts! I can't wait for her to come home!
This morning I had a tiny bit of pink discharge. Ugh. TMI I am hoping it was either my cervix being irritated by the endometrin or finally having a bm. I have more bw tomorrow and then an ultrasound on Thursday, so I will just sit tight. The general internet is not my friend right now lol.
Post by cherryvalance on Mar 26, 2017 20:32:42 GMT -5
konapoppy, I'm so happy to read about your good ultrasound! After my big bleeding scare, I kept getting random spotting (and not even pink discharge, seriously red), but I was scratching myself with the Endometrin. Fx this is the case for you!
oneslybookworm, glad you enjoyed the trip, but sorry it's such a back and forth mindfuck. I'm continually praying that everything goes smoothly for you.
Well, we're back from NOLA. Overall, the trip was really good! There were some hiccups, of course, because nothing in my life goes smoothly. A recap:
Sunday, we get in late...in time for an AMAZING dinner and time for bed.
Monday, wake up and get the rental car. Start the drive to Baton Rouge to meet with EM for lunch. Had a wonderful lunch, got to talk with her and hang out...she loved her quilt! We bailed and she did a counseling session with the social worker, but got a few hugs from her and made plans to meet up Tuesday or Wednesday. Texted later that evening and she mentioned how much she liked meeting with us, and we told her we had a great time as well...things sound great!
Tuesday, I wake up and walk around the French Quarter some. Text EM to see if she wants to meet up for lunch. Don't hear back...proceed to do our own thing. Text again later in the evening because we got permission to do a hospital tour...don't hear back.
Wednesday, wake up and grab rental car. Go meet with the lawyer to discuss logistics. Find out that we have to come back to Louisiana to finalize the adoption, and baby needs to be born by 5/31 to reach a cut-off date for finalization in 2017. Text EM to let her know we're heading to Baton Rouge, wondering if she wants to grab lunch or go to the hospital with us. Nada. Go to the hospital tour, which was less than stellar. The nurse was nice, but informed us that it was a baby friendly hospital, so no nursery, and we would NOT be given a room to stay in while EM was in the hospital (which was fine, I wasn't even planning on asking...we planned to stay in a hotel, but thanks). Then proceeded to inform us that the baby will stay in EM's room under her care. If she doesn't want to care for the baby, the baby will be moved to another room and a "sitter" (someone provided by the hospital) will be taking care of the baby. We were told we would NOT be able to care for the baby until papers are signed. After that, I spoke with the agency, who had never heard of this, so they're going to do some more digging. I'm really hoping it's one of those where we're just supervised the whole time (which is fine), but that we'll be able to hold/feed her. If not, I'm going to be PISSED.
Finally heard from EM on Wednesday night. She had lost her phone and it had died, she had only just found and charged it. So...that sucks. We only got to see her for about an hour, the hospital tour was about 15 minutes (and I nearly shanked someone), and the visit with the lawyer was pretty uninformative (though she's HILARIOUS).
That said...we had a good time. Explored NOLA, ate a TON of amazing food, and got the lay of the land. Now late May/early June just needs to get here ASAP!
I just now saw this. That is so odd! As a baby nurse, one of my responsibilities is to make sure that whoever is taking care of the baby, be it the birth mom, adoptive parents, etc, actually know how to do so. How am I supposed to teach you, the parents, how to take care of the baby if you're not actually there, you know, taking care of the baby? I'm pissed for you! I hope that will not be the case.
Granted, my old hospital is not baby-friendly, and my new one is and I'll figure out the differences, and I'm in Texas not Louisiana so maybe laws are different, but from the agency's reaction, I don't think that's the case.
Post by oneslybookworm on Mar 27, 2017 11:00:24 GMT -5
pooh8402, yeah, I have no idea. I hope the nurse was just on her high horse at the moment, but who knows. Maybe it'll work out better than I'm anticipating?
pooh8402 , yeah, I have no idea. I hope the nurse was just on her high horse at the moment, but who knows. Maybe it'll work out better than I'm anticipating?
I'm thinking it will. I usually go above and beyond for the adoption cases.
oneslybookworm , what is your sense of EM? Is she a flake? Is she really young? Struggling with the whole thing (understandable)? What's her deal?
Yes...yes...yes...all of it. LOL. She is flakey, has been from the beginning. A lot of it is she's young (25), but also she doesn't really have the social/coping skills normally learned in the teen/early adult years. She's had a less than stable home life growing up, and this was very much an unplanned pregnancy. She has two other children, and a third is really just too much for her.
She truly is a lovely person. She's sweet, caring, and takes care of her kids as best she can, but the "follow through" isn't always there, if that makes sense.
We haven't heard from her since Wednesday night. The agency hasn't either. It's not uncommon for expecting mothers to go in and out of contact throughout the pregnancy as they deal with the emotions of placing a child. I'm trying to give her space as best I can...I texted last Friday and probably won't text again until next week, if she hasn't texted first. It's hard, because I want to make sure she's doing ok, but I also want to respect her need for space.