Bus Incident S/o

[nicolewi]

So do you think I should tell the parents???

My instinct was to let it go; DS & kid don't interact outside of the bus and the year is almost over. I think the mom is stretched thin. She's a family physician and is the breadwinner--her husband was either hardly working, or maybe was going to quit and take the summer off before looking for another job. They have the kindergartener, a 3 year old, and a kid who turns one at end of summer. I kind of wonder where the kid got the "You deserved that" comment and if it's something he got from home.  

BUT...if I should be saying something, I could. Am not sure what to do. I might see her next Wednesday at the school, or I could message her. 

[nowa]

I don't know what I'd do but my gut is if it gets physical, I'd tell the other parent. Name calling I might let go to a certain point. But if the name calling is incessant and then actually results in a physical situation, I'd tell the parents. I might tell the school and have them tell the parents if I didn't want to confront them directly for some reason.

ETA and I'd most definitely want to know if my kid was ever name calling or hitting people. That shit will not fly in my house ever. Unless it's legitimate self defense.

[lala]

Like I said, call the school. And don't read into their situation. Their kid hit yours. There are consequences for that.

[cjcouple]

I agree with lala, just make sure the school knows. They will handle notifying the parents.

[dizzycooks]

I'd notify the school for sure. Around here bussing is a privilege, not a right and if you can't behave you lose that privilege.

[nicolewi]

Okay, I talked to the school and they said to let the bus company know, so I did. They will make sure the message gets to the afternoon driver, too.

[lala]

May 24, 2017 14:35:18 GMT -5 nicolewi said:

Okay, I talked to the school and they said to let the bus company know, so I did. They will make sure the message gets to the afternoon driver, too.

Nope. That is not good enough - at least for our school district the bus company works for the district and it's a partnership for discipline issues. What do they expect a driver to do when s/he is driving 50 kids around?

[court26]

I am so sorry that happened to your DS! Not okay at all! I know at both the school I work at, and the school my kids go to (different districts), the principals deal with bus issues. They "pull the tapes" or interview other kids who saw....whatever it takes. My DD was on the bus from school across the street to aftercare and a big kid shoved her into a bus seat. Her earring ripped out and she was bleeding. She didn't even report it because she was mostly freaking out that she lost her earring and was searching the bus. I got her in the car and she was like, oh, see this blood on my caot and my glove.....tough kid. The principal dealt with it and then called aftercare and they worked together to punish him. I was so impressed!

I would probably say something to the parent if I knew them.  I just think the school should be taking care of all that!