Post by liubotflittyfud on Sept 14, 2012 9:56:28 GMT -5
I drank way too much wine last night, not even thinking about it. I got my hair cut and colored, and I went home and began to cook with a glass of wine. A girlfriend stopped over and before I knew it I was blasted. I went right to bed and slept through the night. No hang over though! Woo!
I want to tell some of my co-workers to shut the fuck up.....I don't want to play the woe-is-me card, but you're a nurse, you'll land a new job in no time and you have a husband who is working and providing your health insurance. I don't have those guarantees so fuck off!
Post by blondnearby on Sept 14, 2012 10:55:48 GMT -5
I have known this guy for two years now. On paper he is perfect. I am just not attracted to him at all. He wants me to move up near him, pay for my apartment or house, all of my bills, and he wants to date. The flameful part is I have actually considered taking him up on his offer because it would remove me from the situation with my mom (I would just disappear) and I would save me a lot of my current worry and anxiety.
I want to tell some of my co-workers to shut the fuck up.....I don't want to play the woe-is-me card, but you're a nurse, you'll land a new job in no time and you have a husband who is working and providing your health insurance. I don't have those guarantees so fuck off!
I suck at this game because I feel bad for saying this and know that other people's situations are similiar (or worse) than mine....so I take it back...mostly!
Post by jojoandleo on Sept 14, 2012 11:22:26 GMT -5
I DON'T WANT TO WORK! I WANT A MARGARITA AND QUESO AND FUN! Working is stupid. I needed that to be in all caps cause I feel like screaming it. I leave for Dallas Pride right after work and it is taking all I have to sit here and pretend to work.
I have known this guy for two years now. On paper he is perfect. I am just not attracted to him at all. He wants me to move up near him, pay for my apartment or house, all of my bills, and he wants to date. The flameful part is I have actually considered taking him up on his offer because it would remove me from the situation with my mom (I would just disappear) and I would save me a lot of my current worry and anxiety.
I would normally say "this is a bad idea" but in your case, I might say "fuck it, go for it"!
I have known this guy for two years now. On paper he is perfect. I am just not attracted to him at all. He wants me to move up near him, pay for my apartment or house, all of my bills, and he wants to date. The flameful part is I have actually considered taking him up on his offer because it would remove me from the situation with my mom (I would just disappear) and I would save me a lot of my current worry and anxiety.
I would normally say "this is a bad idea" but in your case, I might say "fuck it, go for it"!
I've thought similar things but just.don't.do it!!!
Post by blackkitty on Sept 14, 2012 14:18:38 GMT -5
Since it's slow in here... should I get it on with the Giant tonight? (dude that I've known almost a year that offered to come over and "fix my laptap")
Since it's slow in here... should I get it on with the Giant tonight? (dude that I've known almost a year that offered to come over and "fix my laptap")
Since it's slow in here... should I get it on with the Giant tonight? (dude that I've known almost a year that offered to come over and "fix my laptap")
Who is this?!?!
I met him in like November and we did a FWB thing but then we went out on like 2 dates and then he disappeared and reappeared recently and then disappeared and reappeared again. He's the really tall guy - he's 6'10"
Post by blackkitty on Sept 14, 2012 14:27:04 GMT -5
well that's the thing... he likes to take the bus downtown, but we only tried to have sex once and it was after he got out of the hospital and was on blood thinners so he had a "little" problem. So I don't really know. But he has really big hands which mean pretty much nothing.
well that's the thing... he likes to take the bus downtown, but we only tried to have sex once and it was after he got out of the hospital and was on blood thinners so he had a "little" problem. So I don't really know. But he has really big hands which mean pretty much nothing.
Anyone who takes the bus is good in my book. E took the bus last night.
Agreed! Not only does he take the bus though, he actually knows where the destination is and he stops at the right stops along the way.
Post by formerlyak on Sept 14, 2012 16:15:40 GMT -5
I feel like I don't fit in on this board anymore. Not because I am further out from my divorce than many of you or because I am getting remarried, but because I feel old compared to a lot of the ladies here. And, I remember posting some dating stories similar to things ladies post here now (about two years ago when we were still on the nest) and being told "dump him" or "he sucks" or "he's a bad match" or "you aren't ready to date." But now when I see similar stories to what I used to post, people get responses like "go get him" or "you could maybe make him a FWB." It boggles my mind.
I feel like I don't fit in on this board anymore. Not because I am further out from my divorce than many of you or because I am getting remarried, but because I feel old compared to a lot of the ladies here. And, I remember posting some dating stories similar to things ladies post here now (about two years ago when we were still on the nest) and being told "dump him" or "he sucks" or "he's a bad match" or "you aren't ready to date." But now when I see similar stories to what I used to post, people get responses like "go get him" or "you could maybe make him a FWB." It boggles my mind.
I'm not that much younger and I always love the advice you give!
I feel like I don't fit in on this board anymore. Not because I am further out from my divorce than many of you or because I am getting remarried, but because I feel old compared to a lot of the ladies here. And, I remember posting some dating stories similar to things ladies post here now (about two years ago when we were still on the nest) and being told "dump him" or "he sucks" or "he's a bad match" or "you aren't ready to date." But now when I see similar stories to what I used to post, people get responses like "go get him" or "you could maybe make him a FWB." It boggles my mind.
I'm not that much younger and I always love the advice you give!
Thanks! And I am not saying I'm leaving, just that I feel like I am not in the mix of this board as much as I once was.
I feel like I don't fit in on this board anymore. Not because I am further out from my divorce than many of you or because I am getting remarried, but because I feel old compared to a lot of the ladies here. And, I remember posting some dating stories similar to things ladies post here now (about two years ago when we were still on the nest) and being told "dump him" or "he sucks" or "he's a bad match" or "you aren't ready to date." But now when I see similar stories to what I used to post, people get responses like "go get him" or "you could maybe make him a FWB." It boggles my mind.
I feel like this board is a little too nice sometimes, especially since the shift from the nest. Not always but sometimes. I know there's things I wrote that I probably would've been flamed more for (like gushing about J and mentioning possibly moving when he had to move one week and dumping him the next-eeeek).
I feel like I don't fit in on this board anymore. Not because I am further out from my divorce than many of you or because I am getting remarried, but because I feel old compared to a lot of the ladies here. And, I remember posting some dating stories similar to things ladies post here now (about two years ago when we were still on the nest) and being told "dump him" or "he sucks" or "he's a bad match" or "you aren't ready to date." But now when I see similar stories to what I used to post, people get responses like "go get him" or "you could maybe make him a FWB." It boggles my mind.
Formerly, how old are you?
Personally, I see a lot of people being told they aren't ready to date yet. Or maybe I just say that a lot to people, haha!!
The one thing that I am becoming more aware of (and annoyed with) is that in some instances we (and I mean internet strangers because it isn't just this board) is SO quick to say that it is guy's fault and to dump him. Yes, there are some things that should be non-negotiable but in other cases, who are we to decide who is in the wrong or what the root cause is.
Perfect example was Jade's question the other day. So many people were quick to assume that he wanted a "mommy" to boss him around and that his communication sucked. But how do we know if that is how it is IRL? Maybe Jade's communication skills suck. Maybe they have different styles of communication.
There also some instances where I don't agree with stuff and I keep my mouth shut because i have said the same thing to the person 2-3 times. I am not going to harp on you.
As for the "go get him" or the "FWB" stuff. Eh...I am okay with 2 grown adults having fun as long as both parties are emotionally healthy, are honest with each other and are being safe. I know other people may disagree with me on that. And yes, I have said that stuff to people whom I think can handle it. Just because someone isn't a 100% match doesn't mean you can't enjoy their company for a while. Just my 2 cents.
But, I am curious as to how old you are because I think we may be around the same age.
I feel like I don't fit in on this board anymore. Not because I am further out from my divorce than many of you or because I am getting remarried, but because I feel old compared to a lot of the ladies here. And, I remember posting some dating stories similar to things ladies post here now (about two years ago when we were still on the nest) and being told "dump him" or "he sucks" or "he's a bad match" or "you aren't ready to date." But now when I see similar stories to what I used to post, people get responses like "go get him" or "you could maybe make him a FWB." It boggles my mind.
I feel like this board is a little too nice sometimes, especially since the shift from the nest. Not always but sometimes. I know there's things I wrote that I probably would've been flamed more for (like gushing about J and mentioning possibly moving when he had to move one week and dumping him the next-eeeek).
See, I totally would have flamed you for this a bit. Okay, in my head, I was but I feel like the board bitch sometimes so I have been keeping my mouth shut a little more.
The one thing that I am becoming more aware of (and annoyed with) is that in some instances we (and I mean internet strangers because it isn't just this board) is SO quick to say that it is guy's fault and to dump him. Yes, there are some things that should be non-negotiable but in other cases, who are we to decide who is in the wrong or what the root cause is.
Perfect example was Jade's question the other day. So many people were quick to assume that he wanted a "mommy" to boss him around and that his communication sucked. But how do we know if that is how it is IRL? Maybe Jade's communication skills suck. Maybe they have different styles of communication.
Yea I'm totally guilty of this. But I think usually this happens when the OP fails to accurately communicate the situation or leaves out pertinent info. If Jade had said "my boyfriend wants me to be a better motivator about his goals and not be such an enabler by encouraging him to stay in bed with me and not go run or tell him he looks great just the way he is," the replies would have been much different.
Having dinner with an old girlfriend who happens to be a mutual friend of my ex bf from college...(he's best friends with her cousin) Totally want the dirt on him
I feel like this board is a little too nice sometimes, especially since the shift from the nest. Not always but sometimes. I know there's things I wrote that I probably would've been flamed more for (like gushing about J and mentioning possibly moving when he had to move one week and dumping him the next-eeeek).
See, I totally would have flamed you for this a bit. Okay, in my head, I was but I feel like the board bitch sometimes so I have been keeping my mouth shut a little more.
I would've deserved it though!
I'm notorious for changing my mind in a hot minute, but that's a bit extreme.