I met him in like November and we did a FWB thing but then we went out on like 2 dates and then he disappeared and reappeared recently and then disappeared and reappeared again. He's the really tall guy - he's 6'10"
The one thing that I am becoming more aware of (and annoyed with) is that in some instances we (and I mean internet strangers because it isn't just this board) is SO quick to say that it is guy's fault and to dump him. Yes, there are some things that should be non-negotiable but in other cases, who are we to decide who is in the wrong or what the root cause is.
Perfect example was Jade's question the other day. So many people were quick to assume that he wanted a "mommy" to boss him around and that his communication sucked. But how do we know if that is how it is IRL? Maybe Jade's communication skills suck. Maybe they have different styles of communication.
Yea I'm totally guilty of this. But I think usually this happens when the OP fails to accurately communicate the situation or leaves out pertinent info. If Jade had said "my boyfriend wants me to be a better motivator about his goals and not be such an enabler by encouraging him to stay in bed with me and not go run or tell him he looks great just the way he is," the replies would have been much different.
I completely agree the replies would have been different. And that is my point. Everyone was so quick to jump all over him that no one bothered to question her. KWIM?
See, I totally would have flamed you for this a bit. Okay, in my head, I was but I feel like the board bitch sometimes so I have been keeping my mouth shut a little more.
I would've deserved it though!
I'm notorious for changing my mind in a hot minute, but that's a bit extreme.
All right. Next time it is on! And I expect the same in return!
I got a friend request on FB the other day from a random guy. No big deal. We chit chatted a little bit, then he started talking about being a male dancer and getting kinda lewd.
I told the guy I'm kinda-sorta seeing about it and he thought it was hilarious. He thought it'd be funny if I could get the guy to send me a dick pic to see if he was really as endowed as he claimed to be.
Well, he did. And it scared the shit out me. Of course I don't know if it was really him, but what he sent was ginormous.
P is out of town this weekend and I'm getting DRUNK to celebrate the CFP victory! Maybe Friday AND Saturday night.
I'm going to buy the Coach purse, because dammit I deserve it. Even my mom said to DO IT!!
I just found out that Healthy Families dropped P because my income is too high. Yet another bad thing about getting a raise.
XH texted me last night saying "I luv you" and my thoughts were:
1) get the fuck over it already, it's been THREE years.
2) who spells love "l-u-v"? I cannot believe I was ever married to such a moron.
In my book, I "luv" you does not equal I "love" you. "luv" means a booty call/sex to me. I think he thought he might just try to see what you'd text back.
I'm not that much younger and I always love the advice you give!
Thanks! And I am not saying I'm leaving, just that I feel like I am not in the mix of this board as much as I once was.
But, you add your positive experiences of finding love again, it gives others hope that great love is out there. And I think you give very sensible advice.
I wish my period would just go ahead a start/get over with already I have being on the verge of frusration/crying/wanting to throw up/scream all the time. This same emotional cycle happens every month and I HATE it. It is no good for me or the people around me.
I wish my period would just go ahead a start/get over with already I have being on the verge of frusration/crying/wanting to throw up/scream all the time. This same emotional cycle happens every month and I HATE it. It is no good for me or the people around me.
From the sound of your "annoyed" thread, it's not your period, it's the douchebag you call a boyfriend.
MCC - I'm high fiving you from the land of cheese!
Post by letyourselfgo on Sept 15, 2012 10:38:58 GMT -5
Okay, I'll bite.
My past is biting me positively in the backside rather than negatively.....there is also ANOTHER guy that enjoys my company, and I've known well in the past, but lost touch when he moved and transferred to the University. I told him that I liked him a few days ago. He didn't say "I don't like you." but he did show up at a local college bar that we agreed to meet at where he bought me several drinks and took me to his favorite place on campus and we talked for hours.
(Here come the flames!)
However......he is currently dating a lady long distance who he has never met, never plans to meet, and never intends for the LDR to become serious. In his words "It is somewhat hard to explain, but the short of it is, yes. I do have someone. The long of it? The probability of it becoming a solidified, physical, short distance thing is nil." I don't know if this chick knows what he's thinking. I flat out told him: "So, if you are in a relationship, long distance or not.....I'm not one to intrude. Bad karma and general tastelessness and all of that."
His response:" I honestly... am not in the best frame of mind to be in a formal relationship anyways. My mom had a stroke last year, and been dealing with it every day of the year since." Excuses, excuses. I am more attracted to this guy than I am to the gentleman who bumped into me that I haven't seen in three years.....but I ALSO liked that guy back in the day. THIS guy is unavailable, I keep telling myself that. If he wanted to date me, he'd make it clear as day. Which he hasn't. I was willing to hang out with him, thinking it was just a friendly meeting....and he didn't do anything sexual on Thursday night. He is a good friend and always has been.
I promise that I'm not going to pursue him anymore. If he wants to hang out, I'm willing, but I'm not going THERE with him, as it is obvious that he's 'not that into me' I have feelings for him, so I need to keep my distance.
"Haven't seen in three years" guy on the other hand, seems extremely enthusiastic about me and is single. I'll see where things go with HIM!