@ advice needed

[mkate710]

This week didn't need to get any worse, but it did.

We found out this afternoon that my favorite coworker, whose second baby girl was due a week from today, had the baby this afternoon, and she was stillborn

I'm so incredibly sad for her. The whole department was in tears when we found out. I didn't realize this kind of stuff happened when a baby was full term, especially since baby was moving like crazy a couple days ago.

So, of course we want to do something for her. Flowers seem so generic, although I'm sure it's a starting point. Would a gift card for a spa day, for when she's recovered a bit, be appropriate? Should we fix them some dinners? We don't know much about what happened, I know this will partially depend on how she is doing physically. But in general, assuming she's ok and just needs to recover from giving birth to a full term baby, WWSND in a situation like this?

[karebear219]

Hmm... This is a tough one. I can even fathom how heart breaking this would be. I'm thinking dinners or spa day would be good.

[Deleted]

I asked a girl from my anniversary board who has been in a similar situation and she said the best thing they got was a Whole Foods gift card that our board came together and bought for them. They were able to buy premade meals for themselves. Also a journal.

Her brother also got them a tree to plant in their yard in honor of their triplets. Which she thinks is really special.

[jennlin]

Ditto jennuinne. I would be in no condition to go to a spa. Food and house cleaning seems like a safe bet.

[mkate710]

Thanks ladies. Food and housecleaning is a great idea.

[Deleted]

Wow this is awful. I can't even imagine!!! I would be completely broken. So I definitely agree with food and housecleaning....because I would probably be in bed for weeks.... My heart really goes out to her. Such a horrible thing to go through!

[picksthemusic]

This absolutely breaks my heart. We could have been in that position, and I can't even imagine the heartbreak.

I agree with everyone else, food, housecleaning, a journal, and something to help them commemorate their lost baby would be very helpful.

:-(

[Deleted]

This is so incredibly sad!

[emyinpink]

that's horribly sad . I'd probably go with flowers and a whole foods gift card. while housekeeping would be appreciated, you don't know if she has a housekeeper already, etc.