If sparks don't fly for me by the second date (or they seem to be on a different page or insert other reason here) I think I'm done. Do you have a date limit for dropping a guy? I mean if a first date is disastrous, forget it... But if the first date is meh...and then you go from there how much time do you let it linger? Just curious.
If there are no red flags and I could see myself kissing a guy, I would give him a second date. Usually after date 2 I can tell if there is a shot at compatibility or not, so I would say 2 to 3 dates for the most part, unless it is a no from the gate.
I'll usually go to a second date even if the first was meh, because of possible nerves and all. But if the second date is still meh then that's it. Not that I have much experience with that, but life is too short to waste time if there's no spark.
I'll usually go to a second date even if the first was meh, because of possible nerves and all. But if the second date is still meh then that's it. Not that I have much experience with that, but life is too short to waste time if there's no spark.
This. I usually go 2-3 dates unless I start chugging my martini on the first date (i.e. desperate to get out of there).
Are you asking because you went out with work dude again??
Well, not really, I was just asking in general....he basically turned into a ghost, so I'm done. We had one real date and then the lunch together and after that he called me once after i had texted him a friendly, hi how are you. Since then he hasn't been popping by at work, or contacting me. In a situation like this, he had ample time to contact me and plan another get together if he was interested. So, I feel he wasn't interested, or got scared off when he asked if I want children in the future and I said yes. Oh well, nothing lost, nothing gained on that one...
Well, better now that months down the line. Good for you for putting yourself out there! His loss![/quote] Thanks, yeah...it's better not to waste time..
It's funny, I thought I gave guys chances but not really. I have had great first dates with guys who were really nice but I never even considered calling them back or planning a second date. If there isn't a spark, no matter how great it is, I usually don't have the motivation to pursue it. Even with nerves, I can tell if I click with someone or not and if they are my type of person. It's so easy to tell IMO.
Sometimes, I give it a 2nd date if the guy is nice enough but my instincts are always right when it comes to who I can click with and who I don't. I am an oddball and goofy and I talk fast and am all over the place and I approach life in a very specific way so it's pretty easy to tell which guys fit right into that and which don't.
Post by achase123 on Sept 17, 2012 11:10:18 GMT -5
I think a second date is a good gage of things. The first date things can be awkward, people are nervous, etc. Sometimes I've had "good" first dates that basically were just not terrible, so I went on a second date and realized quickly that there was nothing there. Third date would definitely be pushing it.
I'll usually go to a second date even if the first was meh, because of possible nerves and all. But if the second date is still meh then that's it. Not that I have much experience with that, but life is too short to waste time if there's no spark.