Intro and Q

[noodleoo]

Hi All!  I don't go here but we're almost ready to start TTC #2 and I have a question I need advice on, so I figured I'd jump in!  I have one DD who is a little over 2.  We had planned to start TTC in May around her 2nd birthday, but I had some traumatic family stuff happen and we ended up delaying.  We were planning to start on my next cycle in Sept.  Two weeks ago my BIL got engaged (yay!).  They are already wedding planning and looks like they are trying to nail down a date next year.  This would be a destination wedding for us, few hours flight plus driving.  They already asked DD to be a flower girl and H will be a groomsman if not the best man.  We talked to them last night and they are tentatively looking at June 2018.  If we got pg on this cycle, we'd be due then.  If they can't get June to work, it will probably be the fall.    I don't know what to do!  They haven't finalized a date and probably won't for at least a month or 2 while they figure out the budget, etc.  I don't really want to put off TTC, but I'm also don't want to miss their wedding if I'm too pg.  And if it is around my due date, I wouldn't want H to leave me.  I know it could take a while to get pg (especially since I am AMA), but I got pg on the first cycle last time, so it also could be quick.  I don't know what to do.  H doesn't overthink these things like I do so he is no help.  So WWYD?

[HoneySpider]

Welcome!

I would not delay TTC/plan it around the wedding especially since they don't have a date.

[RITS]

I agree with honeyspider.

[larzhope]

My brother is getting married in Oct 2018 in AZ (I live in WA). I am in the wedding. we are not changing our ttc plans. I will be so bummed if I have to miss his wedding, but not willing to take 3 months off ttc (just in case I'm super early or super late w/ having a baby)

[melsamoony]

I wouldn't delay TTC. Like previous posters stated.

[Jalapeñomel]

You never know how long it will take, so KOKO and worry about it after you get PG.

[nellgirl]

Like others have said, I wouldn't change my plans for that. Worst comes to worst, H and DD go and you see it via Skype. Not ideal, but so many ifs.

[noodleoo]

Crap. I wasn't planning on delaying, but they just booked the wedding AND asked both me and H to be in the wedding. I was not expecting that. I guess we will wait 1 month just to be safe. I'm bummed about waiting as I was just getting psyched up about it. I'll be back next month!