traveltheworld,I totally get it! DD2 started K on Tuesday and it got to me more than when DD1 started. Maybe because she's my baby? I got teary when I dropped her off for preschool for the last time and we are still going to the same place for before and after care. I cried the night before when I was putting her to bed and we were talking about K. I got all teary when we were taking back to school pictures. I was surprisingly fine at K drop-off though. She was so excited and happy and ready for me to leave. I hope your son reacts to K in the same way.
Post by erinshelley21 on Aug 24, 2017 14:49:21 GMT -5
Okay, I do have an update. We told the buyers that we are not ready to walk away at the offered price and what it would take. They do not want to buy for at price at this time.
Now, to figure out how I'm getting the Asshole out of here and where we'll be working out of.
twinmomma , I am sure they checked for strep already? Not to throw more ideas at you.
Nothing much new here. Kids have been back to school for a week. I think I made the right choice moving them at least from an aftercare POV. At the daycare it was 1 small room and 1 outside space with grass and a basketball, one teacher. They did OK, played soccer and mandala etc. But have a new probably inexperienced teacher.
At new aftercare since it is at the school, it has a large playground, gymnasium, and the room is much bigger. I picked him up and he was on the playground one time the other time he was playing chess- wow. He has 3-4 teachers.
DD was adjusting really well to pre-K until daddy messed up the routine. Usually we wait at the bus stop with DS, but since DH was home he did the bus stop while I took her and then she was clingy. She knows a couple of kids in the class and has seen some older kids that she knows around the halls. Her adjustment has been much better than it was at camp where she whined a lot that she didn't get to do what the older kids were doing.
phdmomma - there is a lab called igenex that tests for hundreds of different Lyme strains and other tick-Bourne illnesses and infections. Most labs just test for a handful of strains, and Lyme goes undiagnosed.
A good friend of mine struggled for a year before getting her Lyme diagnosis, and has one of those rare cases with lasting effects - Lyme arthritis, memory loss, etc. She's done a ton of research and told me about this lab when my Dad got Lyme and I pulled 2 ticks off of DH.
Okay, I do have an update. We told the buyers that we are not ready to walk away at the offered price and what it would take. They do not want to buy for at price at this time.
Now, to figure out how I'm getting the Asshole out of here and where we'll be working out of.
"Asshole, we will be ending our professional relationship with you no later than (pick a date). If you would like to talk about an earlier departure, we are certainly willing to work with you on that."
Then go buy a better building with an easy commute! Yay!
My update: DD has been working really hard to get her pull over on the bar at gymnastics. The only skill that is holding her back from moving up a level. She got it twice last night on the preschool bar!!! The class got to use the standard bar and she wasn't successful in getting it there but everyone was so excited that she finally got over the hump. If all goes well she will be tested to move up in December!
waverly, they did check for strep at the beginning of all of this, and did a culture, which both came back negative. Strep was one of my first guesses too.
mae0111, I will have to ask about that one. We didn't see a tick on her, but the timeline of when she got sick lines up with when we were camping. And we live in a part of the country where ticks are pretty common
2chatter, What did the immunologist do? I think if we don't get any answers from the set of tests that is where we will be heading (or where the infectious disease doc at the hospital think we might be heading). There are some fairly prevalent autoimmune disorders on my husband's side of the family, which we may need to investigate.
phdmomma - I think the nature of their work makes them super super curious about cases like this that haven't gotten successfully diagnosed. Ours ran a blood panel, talked about food trials and did a RAST. A theory at one point was celiac, but he ruled that out. He was going to be our next stop (again) when the GI did the biopsies and ended up finding the enzyme deficiency. That didn't solve for everything, so this Spring the immunologist was our next stop if the cardiologist didn't have an answer. The cardiologist diagnosed autonomic dysfunction, so we didn't have to pursue auto immune with the immunologist in the end. But he was by far the most engaged and inquisitive, and I can say the same for the first ped imm we saw for her dairy allergy years ago. May be worth a shot to run in parallel.
That was the feedback I provided the ped - for parents with good insurance/people who have met their deductible/families with the means maybe don't be so dang linear. Infectious can run parallel to immunology, possibly, in your case. In our I wish we would have done ENT, Imm, GI and cardio together or in rapid succession, instead of wasting years.
Okay, I do have an update. We told the buyers that we are not ready to walk away at the offered price and what it would take. They do not want to buy for at price at this time.
Now, to figure out how I'm getting the Asshole out of here and where we'll be working out of.
"Asshole, we will be ending our professional relationship with you no later than (pick a date). If you would like to talk about an earlier departure, we are certainly willing to work with you on that."
Then go buy a better building with an easy commute! Yay!
We already know when he is done (12/10) it's just a matter of when to tell him. I just need to remind myself that this is *hopefully* the last fight I have. I really just need to prepare myself to treat him the same way I do my 3 year old and ignore the tantrum or patiently tell him "whining won't change my answer"
As for the commute, doesn't get much easier than it is now lol. I can see MIL's house from my parking lot, the school the kids will go to is halfway between our house and the office and literally right on the way. Oh and my office is a 5 minute drive. I'm really hoping we can make working out of our houses work. That's the only way the commute gets easier lol
As a new SAHM in a town with a lot of SAHMs or very part-time working moms, I'm trying to find a way in to the social circles, for me and my kid. But I'm so awkward. So, so awkward.
My sister, who is less awkward and has been a SAHM or PT working mom for 17 years, encouraged me to have an end of summer pool party for DD, with little notice (next Tues, sent email invite this AM). Invited 12 kids that DD likes, and I like most of the parents. Have only heard back from 2. So now my anxiety has taken over - 75% is anxiety for DD, 25% is anxiety for me. What if they don't like me/DD/us??
Rationally, this week and next are huge vacation weeks, so I should not be surprised by delayed responses or declines, but my social anxiety is screaming "NO ONE LIKES YOU!!!"
As a new SAHM in a town with a lot of SAHMs or very part-time working moms, I'm trying to find a way in to the social circles, for me and my kid. But I'm so awkward. So, so awkward.
My sister, who is less awkward and has been a SAHM or PT working mom for 17 years, encouraged me to have an end of summer pool party for DD, with little notice (next Tues, sent email invite this AM). Invited 12 kids that DD likes, and I like most of the parents. Have only heard back from 2. So now my anxiety has taken over - 75% is anxiety for DD, 25% is anxiety for me. What if they don't like me/DD/us??
Rationally, this week and next are huge vacation weeks, so I should not be surprised by delayed responses or declines, but my social anxiety is screaming "NO ONE LIKES YOU!!!"
I actually hate hosting. So while part of me would be screaming no one likes me the other part of me is thanking a higher power that the party will be small! Good luck and we like you so you must be like able!
mae0111 - I would call two a total win! Just treat it like a play date and don't go crazy - just have fun. Ten is fine too, but don't take a lower number to mean a thing.
Post by traveltheworld on Aug 24, 2017 21:20:23 GMT -5
mae0111, I think 2 is pretty great for day 1! I bet more will come; and if not, I find smaller gatherings work very well in getting to know people better. And 3 kids is a good number. And kudos for reaching out.
justcheckingin73, that's a good question, her inflammation levels (ESR) score were off the charts high. But she was super sick first, so the question right now is wether the inflammation is part of her being super sick or something else altogether. When you get the joint issues, is it localized or systemic? With DD it seems like its all of her joints, but she starts to feel better with some advil. Right now I feel like I am grasping at the fringes of what things could be?
My issues spread all over but knees and fingers are the worst. My fingers will get stiff too. I can tell when I've missed my daily Zyrtec in spring and summer if I've been bitten my I'm stiff and my knees and hands are sore. When the flare up gets really bad everything swells but the knees have always been the largest swelling joint for me. My Dr. Attributed the knees swelling the most because more bug bites are on the legs.
As a new SAHM in a town with a lot of SAHMs or very part-time working moms, I'm trying to find a way in to the social circles, for me and my kid. But I'm so awkward. So, so awkward.
My sister, who is less awkward and has been a SAHM or PT working mom for 17 years, encouraged me to have an end of summer pool party for DD, with little notice (next Tues, sent email invite this AM). Invited 12 kids that DD likes, and I like most of the parents. Have only heard back from 2. So now my anxiety has taken over - 75% is anxiety for DD, 25% is anxiety for me. What if they don't like me/DD/us??
Rationally, this week and next are huge vacation weeks, so I should not be surprised by delayed responses or declines, but my social anxiety is screaming "NO ONE LIKES YOU!!!"
2 sounds perfect to me! I tried this approach with DD's bday this July. I gave a week and a half notice thinking 1-2 kids would be good. Nope, they all came. But it was only for a few hours and it was fun to watch the girls play and swim.
I totally get the social anxiety. I have to do a lot of self-talk in my head to convince myself that it's not me, it's them.
Post by erinshelley21 on Aug 25, 2017 8:49:29 GMT -5
MIL gave me a great idea on how to start the convo with the Asshole. Tell him we want to host a retirement party/open house for him in october or November. I think I love it.
MIL gave me a great idea on how to start the convo with the Asshole. Tell him we want to host a retirement party/open house for him in october or November. I think I love it.
MIL gave me a great idea on how to start the convo with the Asshole. Tell him we want to host a retirement party/open house for him in october or November. I think I love it.
Another TWERK - when I left my job, they said that they were going to replace me with a Chief WhatIdid Officer - someone with my experience, but for likely much more money. It looks like my job is finally posted to their website, and they've downgraded it significantly. It's my job description, but they only want someone with 7 years experience (I had 20 in the industry, 15 in my specialty). My direct reports all had way more than 7 years experience, and since they made it clear that they would not fill the role internally, that should go over really well....
I've been alternating between laughing at what a disaster it's going to be if this happens, and feeling like crap that the higher ups think I did so little that they can get away with this level of experience in my old position. Oh well.
mae0111, this likely has nothing to do with you. They are just trying to save a few bucks, which will cost them dearly in the end. More evidence that they are stupid and you were right to get out.
mae0111- maybe it's not your job. Maybe they are adding to your old team. At our company, a position at that level would never, ever be advertised. It would go to someone internal who had been chosen already or to a recruiter.