Re: rocknruin's post about meeting the X's gf

[sweetchix]

I saw some responses that said something to the effect of putting it in the divorce document that neither party can introduce a new SO to the children until the X meets that person first. Is that really something that can be documented? Is it recommended? If so, how is it handled? I never thought of that until her post.

[doriswe]

I didn't put this in writing with XH but we both agreed that we would let the other parent know about significant others once they were serious and before DS would meet them. We didn't talk about when the other parent would meet the SO, so we use our best judgment. XH respected my wishes and waited to introduce DS to his g/f until they were publicly dating for 6 months or so. I met her, in passing, a few weeks ago (a few months after DS met her). It wasn't handled terribly well, by XH, and that makes me more aware of how I will manage it when I have a SO, if that makes sense.

Thing is, I trust XH as a parent to know that he wouldn't have DS around a questionable g/f. He gave me the information on his relationship so I could help reassure DS if he had questions about it when he was with me.

I also realize my situation isn't the norm around these parts!

[sweetchix]

I think verbal will work. Things are getting ugly here but I know he wouldn't date anyone who was not responsible or who would be a bad influence on the girls.

[BlueBayou]

I honestly dont even see how its enforceable in a court doc. I mean if its not followed, what are u going to do? Call the police? They would laugh i bet. Go to court? And do what? Change visitation because one half did not get to meet the new gf/bf? This just seems silly. It wouldnt be basis for changing or removing custody, so what's the point? Court games??