Post by eponinepontmercy on Oct 16, 2017 8:06:08 GMT -5
DD went to her first sleepover at a friend's house on Friday. According to the girl's mom, they went to bed around 10:30 and were up for the day at 3:45. I showed up at 11:00 am, because we were invited to the family party that day, and the girls looked like the walking dead. I ended up taking her home, where she took a 3 hour nap that afternoon.
But, she had a blast and the mom said she was welcome back anytime.
The combination of teething and the 10 month sleep regression is going to kill me. I was hoping we wouldn't have to Ferber or anything as she was a really good sleeper up until recently, but it's looking more like the only option as this can't go on indefinitely. We all need more/better sleep. If anyone has any tips I'm all ears.
DS picked up mono of all things, and of course while DH is OOT. It's apparently fairly common in little kids, but milder. The acutely sick/feverish part lasted about four days, and he was pretty much back to normal by yesterday afternoon but still wears out easily, so we're staying home one more day today. I can't wait to drop him off at school and go to work tomorrow, lol.
DH of course gets back tomorrow night after six weeks away.
I think DD may finally be teething. Maybe? I don't feel anything in her mouth but they have to show up sometime. Anecdotally I hear that 16 months is teething time for IUGR babies and she's coming up on 15.
MH and I have been arguing for months on whether to baptize DD. He's flipped back and forth between "I don't want to do it" and "It would be a nice thing to do" about a dozen times. A couple days ago he agreed with me that we should do it - so I called a restaurant to inquire about dates, and I told my mom (who is super-Catholic and keeps dropping not-so-subtle hints/guilt trips) that we were starting to plan it.
I asked him yesterday which of two dates he'd prefer, and he hemmed and hawed and (as usual) didn't give me an answer, then I asked him if his aunt would be available to attend and brought up that a week or two ago he'd mentioned maybe asking her to be a godmother. And then he started whining about paying for it and how he doesn't want to include his family, so I just abruptly ended the conversation and said we wouldn't do it at all. And then he was somehow all confused as to why I was pissy for the rest of the day.
It drives me insane that he can never just give me a straight answer on anything. Again, days ago he was saying it was OK to do, then when I ask him to actually make some decisions he gets all indignant and, "I SAID I didn't want to do this." Yeah, but you ALSO said you DID think we should do it ... so you're just going to throw several opinions out there and then in an argument you're going to pick one according to your mood and then get mad at me for not knowing what you wanted?
He's not religious - neither am I, really, but I still view it as a traditional/family event - so he's saying that's why he doesn't want to do it. But it's 90% because he just doesn't want to spend money. If it's something he doesn't want to do himself, then he starts crying about the budget. Meanwhile if I have to hear one more time about the next bottle of craft beer he's going to buy and just store in our basement for years, along with the dozens and dozens of other bottles in the damn basement and in our regular fridge, I'm going to throw the damn beer out a window.
I think DD may finally be teething. Maybe? I don't feel anything in her mouth but they have to show up sometime. Anecdotally I hear that 16 months is teething time for IUGR babies and she's coming up on 15.
My son didn’t have any teeth until almost 18 months, and then he got 5 at once. 😫
I have four weeks of maternity leave left. I AM NOT READY. babyharpy actually sleeps well enough that I could go back today if I had to. I’m just not ready. I need more snuggle time.
Also, my dad is visiting and is annoying me. If I say that we’re lucky that babyharpy is such a good sleeper, he insists that we’re not lucky, we’re blessed. No, Dad, that’s not how it works. We are blessed with a baby. We are lucky that she’s a great sleeper. I am pretty sure people with babies who don’t sleep great are still blessed. I swear my dad is like the embodiment of #blessed.
My 10 year old seems to be having anxiety and/or depression. She worries a lot about people dying and things on her body like little bumps and stuff. She wasn't this way before she passed out. I don't know if it's the new school, hormones, a combo of everything. I had anxiety as a kid and still suffer as an adult.
I called the pedi and got recommendations for few counselors and called one and left a message to make an appointment. I hope I'm doing the right thing.
Dd has started giving un-prompted thank you's when she's handed things. OTOH, she's also now figured out how to make fart sounds by blowing on the back of her hand.
Post by 5kcandlesinthewind on Oct 16, 2017 9:57:47 GMT -5
My husband and I got in a kerfluffle the other day about a Halloween costume for our son that made me realize just how much being a kid in the early 80s warped me. I found this Super Why tshirt with a cape and the cuffs (which will last 2 seconds because the kid hates anything that isn't just a shirt and pants - he won't even keep a hoodie on for more than 2 seconds without trying to unzip it), and I decided to order it. But they make you personalize the cape, so I started yelling about how I don't want my kid's name on a shirt, and my husband looked at me like I'm nuts.
Me: "That's how the kidnappers know what to call you! DID YOU NOT WATCH 80s CARTOONS AND AFTERSCHOOL SPECIALS?!!?" Him: "umm, if there are kidnappers at a toddler Halloween party, them knowing Ben's name is the least of our problems." Me, staring at the order page: "Wait, now they charge you MORE for personalizing this shirt? WHAT THE HELL?" Him (smugly): "Why don't you send them an email and yell at them for charging you to more to aid a kidnapper?" Me: "MAYBE I WILL! And then when our kid DOESN'T get kidnapped because I took a stand, you can thank me." Him: "Yeah, because THAT will be the deciding factor in him not getting kidnapped AT A TODDLER HALLOWEEN PARTY."
Turns out the upcharge was because I was looking at a 3T instead of a 2T, not the forced aiding of a kidnapper. But my no names on shirts/apparel/backpacks policy stands. Any potential kidnapper is just going to have to do the damn work.
I also saw a Mickey Mouse sticker on the ground a while back, and thought, "Oh man, Ben would love that!" And then immediately thought, "OH! but there's probably LSD on it!!" (Sidenote: I would not have taken trash off the ground to bring home to my kid, I swear.)
Post by debatethis on Oct 16, 2017 10:13:38 GMT -5
The Grandparents have arrived for DS's 4th birthday so naturally he's hyper and wound up and showing off for them and I am DONE with the crazy hyper kiddo.
Also we got Panorama results back and #2 is a healthy baby GIRL. I'm a little overwhelmed by my plan for the next few months re: valley fever, though. MFM/ID/OB are all in agreement that I can't be on high doses of fluconazole for months to prevent dissemination so the plan for now is a PICC line being placed by the end of December and starting amphotericin in January. The side effects are supposed to be pretty gnarly though so this should be fun. :/
Me: "That's how the kidnappers know what to call you! DID YOU NOT WATCH 80s CARTOONS AND AFTERSCHOOL SPECIALS?!!?"
I forget which cartoon it was, and Google isn't helping (Good Lord, I hope my search history doesn't get me into trouble here) ...
but I distinctly remember one where a little boy was wearing a t-shirt that said "HANK" across it, and a potential kidnapper called to him and he was all, "*gasp* YOU KNOW MY NAME! OK, I'll go with you!" ... even though the hero of the cartoon had JUST warned this kid about the same scenario.
Even as a kid I remember thinking, "Who the hell wears a t-shirt with their name on it in giant letters?"
Grandparents are asking for Christmas lists (whut) and I haven't the foggiest. We have so many toys and none of them hold our kids' interest. I'm asking for an ABC Mouse subscription for DS and museum memberships but what else?
Grandparents are asking for Christmas lists (whut)
My mom is asking for ours as well. I don't have too much that I want, MH keeps insisting that he wants nothing, and DD will be 6 months old ... all she's interested in right now is shoving burp rags in her mouth.
Grandparents are asking for Christmas lists (whut) and I haven't the foggiest. We have so many toys and none of them hold our kids' interest. I'm asking for an ABC Mouse subscription for DS and museum memberships but what else?
What does your 3.5 yo and 18 mo old play with?
Playdoh. Art supplies. Legos. Matchbox cars. Blocks.
This reminds me of the story out recently of a boy getting kidnapped and the kidnappers dropped him off somewhere because he was so annoying. I swear I read this recently.
We babysat a kid last week that my husband would have paid money to get rid of. I forgot how annoying he was when it was just my kids this weekend. H finally took mercy on my nerves and took them to the park for a couple hours.
I spent a small fortune on Halloween and All Saint Day costumes for DS1 and DS2. This morning I was telling DS1 about all the awesome stuff going on this week (bake sale, dress down day, half day, Friday off, our own Halloween party with a face painter at our house) and mentioned it’s also my birthday Friday. Tears and drama. Why is it my birthday, why isn’t it his birthday? OMG no you ungrateful shit!
Grandparents are asking for Christmas lists (whut) and I haven't the foggiest. We have so many toys and none of them hold our kids' interest. I'm asking for an ABC Mouse subscription for DS and museum memberships but what else?
What does your 3.5 yo and 18 mo old play with?
18 months was Duplos and Little People.
3.5 was when DS2 started asking for Miles from Tomorrowland stuff. He didn’t get it until 4.5 which was too old really.
I have four weeks of maternity leave left. I AM NOT READY. babyharpy actually sleeps well enough that I could go back today if I had to. I’m just not ready. I need more snuggle time.
Also, my dad is visiting and is annoying me. If I say that we’re lucky that babyharpy is such a good sleeper, he insists that we’re not lucky, we’re blessed. No, Dad, that’s not how it works. We are blessed with a baby. We are lucky that she’s a great sleeper. I am pretty sure people with babies who don’t sleep great are still blessed. I swear my dad is like the embodiment of #blessed.
Hugs.
I wasn't ready till I was already back at work for like 3-4 months.
Grandparents are asking for Christmas lists (whut) and I haven't the foggiest. We have so many toys and none of them hold our kids' interest. I'm asking for an ABC Mouse subscription for DS and museum memberships but what else?
What does your 3.5 yo and 18 mo old play with?
DD will be 18 mo around Christmas. I am definitely going to get her a play kitchen. I'm also considering a Little People house, and a baby doll and some accessories. I feel like I'm going to go way overboard.
Grandparents are asking for Christmas lists (whut) and I haven't the foggiest. We have so many toys and none of them hold our kids' interest. I'm asking for an ABC Mouse subscription for DS and museum memberships but what else?
What does your 3.5 yo and 18 mo old play with?
DD will be 18 mo around Christmas. I am definitely going to get her a play kitchen. I'm also considering a Little People house, and a baby doll and some accessories. I feel like I'm going to go way overboard.
My mom gave me my "collector's edition" Barbies, still in the box. My daughter's getting one for Christmas.
This reminds me of the story out recently of a boy getting kidnapped and the kidnappers dropped him off somewhere because he was so annoying. I swear I read this recently.
We babysat a kid last week that my husband would have paid money to get rid of. I forgot how annoying he was when it was just my kids this weekend. H finally took mercy on my nerves and took them to the park for a couple hours.
I spent a small fortune on Halloween and All Saint Day costumes for DS1 and DS2. This morning I was telling DS1 about all the awesome stuff going on this week (bake sale, dress down day, half day, Friday off, our own Halloween party with a face painter at our house) and mentioned it’s also my birthday Friday. Tears and drama. Why is it my birthday, why isn’t it his birthday? OMG no you ungrateful shit!
We made the mistake of telling DD that my birthday is her half-birthday. When we went out, she had to tell every single person at the restaurant that wished me a happy birthday that it was her half-birthday. (And it was a Brazilian steakhouse, so there were a lot of servers involved.) Then she insisted on blowing out the candle in my dessert. I tried to pull that on her birthday, but she was NOT amused.
MH and I have been arguing for months on whether to baptize DD. He's flipped back and forth between "I don't want to do it" and "It would be a nice thing to do" about a dozen times. A couple days ago he agreed with me that we should do it - so I called a restaurant to inquire about dates, and I told my mom (who is super-Catholic and keeps dropping not-so-subtle hints/guilt trips) that we were starting to plan it.
I asked him yesterday which of two dates he'd prefer, and he hemmed and hawed and (as usual) didn't give me an answer, then I asked him if his aunt would be available to attend and brought up that a week or two ago he'd mentioned maybe asking her to be a godmother. And then he started whining about paying for it and how he doesn't want to include his family, so I just abruptly ended the conversation and said we wouldn't do it at all. And then he was somehow all confused as to why I was pissy for the rest of the day.
It drives me insane that he can never just give me a straight answer on anything. Again, days ago he was saying it was OK to do, then when I ask him to actually make some decisions he gets all indignant and, "I SAID I didn't want to do this." Yeah, but you ALSO said you DID think we should do it ... so you're just going to throw several opinions out there and then in an argument you're going to pick one according to your mood and then get mad at me for not knowing what you wanted?
He's not religious - neither am I, really, but I still view it as a traditional/family event - so he's saying that's why he doesn't want to do it. But it's 90% because he just doesn't want to spend money. If it's something he doesn't want to do himself, then he starts crying about the budget. Meanwhile if I have to hear one more time about the next bottle of craft beer he's going to buy and just store in our basement for years, along with the dozens and dozens of other bottles in the damn basement and in our regular fridge, I'm going to throw the damn beer out a window.
I'm just wondering why you'd bother with a baptism if you aren't religious. No judgement, but what would be your reasoning?
Post by Velar Fricative on Oct 16, 2017 12:35:01 GMT -5
DD1 just turned 4, and over the last year she has liked lots of arts & crafts stuff, Legos, puzzles, and she really likes the Picasso Tiles we got her for her birthday a couple of weeks ago.
At 1.5, she just seemed to like toys that made music. I'm thinking the standard Fisher-Price and other common toy brands.
MH and I have been arguing for months on whether to baptize DD. He's flipped back and forth between "I don't want to do it" and "It would be a nice thing to do" about a dozen times. A couple days ago he agreed with me that we should do it - so I called a restaurant to inquire about dates, and I told my mom (who is super-Catholic and keeps dropping not-so-subtle hints/guilt trips) that we were starting to plan it.
I asked him yesterday which of two dates he'd prefer, and he hemmed and hawed and (as usual) didn't give me an answer, then I asked him if his aunt would be available to attend and brought up that a week or two ago he'd mentioned maybe asking her to be a godmother. And then he started whining about paying for it and how he doesn't want to include his family, so I just abruptly ended the conversation and said we wouldn't do it at all. And then he was somehow all confused as to why I was pissy for the rest of the day.
It drives me insane that he can never just give me a straight answer on anything. Again, days ago he was saying it was OK to do, then when I ask him to actually make some decisions he gets all indignant and, "I SAID I didn't want to do this." Yeah, but you ALSO said you DID think we should do it ... so you're just going to throw several opinions out there and then in an argument you're going to pick one according to your mood and then get mad at me for not knowing what you wanted?
He's not religious - neither am I, really, but I still view it as a traditional/family event - so he's saying that's why he doesn't want to do it. But it's 90% because he just doesn't want to spend money. If it's something he doesn't want to do himself, then he starts crying about the budget. Meanwhile if I have to hear one more time about the next bottle of craft beer he's going to buy and just store in our basement for years, along with the dozens and dozens of other bottles in the damn basement and in our regular fridge, I'm going to throw the damn beer out a window.
I'm just wondering why you'd bother with a baptism if you aren't religious. No judgement, but what would be your reasoning?
I feel like being Catholic is a big part of my upbringing, and it feels like "the right thing to do." I wouldn't be devastated if we didn't do it, but I think I'd also feel a little weird for skipping it. It just feels like it's one of those things you just DO, know what I mean? I also feel like it'd be a nice welcome into the world for DD and a nice excuse to have a little party, but I don't want it enough to fight him on it.
And I know my mom is going to be disappointed and pissed off, especially since I already said we are doing it. I mean, it's not her baby and she knows I don't go to church anymore, and she'll eventually get over it (at least enough to not fight me on it, although I'm sure she'd be disappointed for the rest of her life) so whatever ... but she holds grudges over really stupid shit so I am not looking forward to the tension. My grandma boycotted my two uncles' civil weddings, so frankly it'd be a huge step forward in our family if she didn't completely cut me from her life over not baptizing DD.
I'll get over it, too, but I feel like I'm the one who most often needs to compromise in our relationship because MH gets stressed more easily than I do. A big part of why he doesn't want to do this is because both his parents are dead and he's an only child, and he's been very down about that fact especially since DD was born. He's got other very nice relatives but he keeps acting like nobody loves him. I'm trying to be sympathetic but I also feel like he's wallowing on purpose.
I'm just disappointed that he can't just suck it up and do this for me, as I feel I've done it a lot for him. It's more that than anything else. All that piled on with the stress of being new parents and I've just lost a lot of patience. And I can't express it because then that comes across as "attacking" him and then we get nowhere. These are separate and serious issues all together, I realize.
Post by simpsongal on Oct 16, 2017 14:04:26 GMT -5
mbcdefg, I'm sorry your DH is being annoying about the baptism. I mean, make a call and go with it, right? Would it help to tradeoff and say no first birthday party? Just a baptism gathering? I mean, get a Costco sheetcake and call it a day right?
bowies, I'd put some maganatiles on the list. It's early still, but you can use them to teach colors & shapes, and my DD loves smashing them. DD loves DS's little tv chair (like an anywhere chair but a little smaller and not as nice). And a battat truck - those are great.
mbcdefg , I'm sorry your DH is being annoying about the baptism. I mean, make a call and go with it, right? Would it help to tradeoff and say no first birthday party? Just a baptism gathering? I mean, get a Costco sheetcake and call it a day right?
I don't think the birthday tradeoff would sweeten the deal, and if I had to pick one I'd rather do a birthday party anyway.
I'm not really even gung-ho about the baptism itself ... just the feeling that I'm usually the one who needs to back down or compromise. And, yes, the "make a call and go with it" crap is annoying because he's waffled on this for months. We're both guilty of the "I dunno, you pick" thing, and we can't seem to get it right no matter how much we work on it.
I've just felt very tense and bummed out lately, so this is becoming a bigger deal than it needs to be.
So apparently DD has been walking at daycare. She won't do it at home. When H picked her up she dropped to the floor and Gollum crawled to him. She's hiding it from us. Little stinker.