1. We have a bunch of megablocks. Is there a natural progression to duplo, or is this an either/or toy? 2. Last Friday DD slept until 2:00pm (we woke her, Saturday she woke at 10:00am and Sunday we woke her at 10:30am. We thought it was just teething (canines) maybe fighting a cold or traveling (foe the day) for Thanksgiving. This weekend we woke her around 10:30am and 1:30pm. What gives? The teething is real, and she has a slight runny nose, but no fever or major illness. Is happy and aware while awake and is going to bed around 8:00pm. Is she dying? Do I wake her up? Let her sleep? My husband ate a peaceful lunch and watched an entire non-cartoon movie. Someone tell me to let her sleep.
Like she slept overnight until 2pm? or that was a long nap?
That doesn't seem normal, but does seem nice. If it happened more, I would probably want to find out more.
lacey DS often will sleep 14 hours on the weekends PLUS 2-3 hour nap later so 8pm-10am doesn't seem weird, but sleeping till 2 seems like a lot and if it happened more than just once I would see a doctor. My kid just likes to catch up on sleep on the weekends like his mama.
Susie, we haven't PTd our DD yet, who is slightly older than yours. But we are trying to avoid any partial training and do the 3-day weekend training, either over New Years or MLK. I have a lot of friends who had success with this and it just seems "easier" to me than taking steps over several weeks/months. So maybe just do the bootcamp if you have time coming up? We would do it now because DD is ready but we don't have the time yet.
starryfish, I couldn't really imagine a #2 until recently. Because of our IF issues and age, we just went for it before we were probably really ready and fortunately it worked out that I am PG with #2. And our DD will be 2.5 at that point. In the last few months, things have gotten easier and I can sort of see the light. DD will play with certain toys on her own, she is fine being off in the living room while I am in the kitchen. We have started using a Kindle for her sometimes to get 15-30 minutes of time to get something done. She loves playing with her cousins and other kids, so I am hoping/thinking that once we are past the baby stage with #2, then they really can entertain each other a bit. I am probably naive!
1. We have a bunch of megablocks. Is there a natural progression to duplo, or is this an either/or toy? 2. Last Friday DD slept until 2:00pm (we woke her, Saturday she woke at 10:00am and Sunday we woke her at 10:30am. We thought it was just teething (canines) maybe fighting a cold or traveling (foe the day) for Thanksgiving. This weekend we woke her around 10:30am and 1:30pm. What gives? The teething is real, and she has a slight runny nose, but no fever or major illness. Is happy and aware while awake and is going to bed around 8:00pm. Is she dying? Do I wake her up? Let her sleep? My husband ate a peaceful lunch and watched an entire non-cartoon movie. Someone tell me to let her sleep.
DD, also 21 months, did this a few weeks ago. I woke her up at 11:30 because it just didn't seem right. Maybe it's a thing at this age? I know my DD woke up at like 10, but when I went to get her, she had already fallen asleep again.
I have a few, all relating to toddler transitions:
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We have these outlet covers in a couple places and like them a lot. We have 2 things plugged into each outlet they cover:
dcn , at age 2 or 3, are they able to play independently or at least not have to hover and watch them like a hawk compared to a crawling baby?
Speaking for my DD, yes. For us, 12-18 months was one of the hardest phases. Dd was mobile, but not independent and it was so frustrating, for both of us. Things started to improve around 18 months as her language improved and things are a lot better after 2. Now at 2.5, she’s starting to get stubborn and throw more tantrums, but it is still easier to deal with than the 12-18 month phase. We both want 2 kids and I couldn’t even think about it until she was over 2. We just started trying recently. Dd is still a handful, but she’s also very helpful and can play by herself for short periods of time so things just feel easier.
Thank you SO much for this. Up until a few weeks ago I was 1000% that I wanted a second child but OMG is this phase draining. At least if we get PG soon, she will be out of this phase by then but OMG am I glad we didn't get knocked up quickly bc I could NOT imagine having a second child right now.
midwest07, thank you. We had IF for our first and I got retested again and got worse, so we have to deal with IF again. So We need to just go for it soon with treatment, but even if I get PG in Jan/Feb, she will be 2 when the baby is born. So yea, we are in the same boat that we have to just GO FOR it now.
Ladies I all really appreciate the honesty and help. Makes me feel better than its NOT Just me, that this is a hard stage/phase.
starryfish, LOL, I know a few people who got pg with #2 around 12 months and I seriously thought they were insane! Then again, some kids are easier than others. My DD is definitely a handful and always has been, so I think a 3 year age difference will be better for us. She’s so much easier and more fun now. And even when she’s being a PITA, she’s still pretty cute when she yells “No!!” at me and pouts (which she’s been doing all day!). Sometimes I have to stop myself for laughing at her stubborn personality!
starryfish, LOL, I know a few people who got pg with #2 around 12 months and I seriously thought they were insane! Then again, some kids are easier than others. My DD is definitely a handful and always has been, so I think a 3 year age difference will be better for us. She’s so much easier and more fun now. And even when she’s being a PITA, she’s still pretty cute when she yells “No!!” at me and pouts (which she’s been doing all day!). Sometimes I have to stop myself for laughing at her stubborn personality!
I was 20 weeks by S’s first birthday, lol.
To answer the original question I think 1 to 2 was easier, even with them 16 months apart. And now at 26 months S is much more independent when playing and now that P can walk they are playing together more too. It’s hard as hell, don’t get me wrong, but but I think there are perks and pits to any age gap:)
Should I be layering a onesie under DD’s pajamas? My mom just mentioned it and said I ought to do it to keep her warm. She usually sleeps all night without a problem so I don’t want to rock the boat if I don’t have to.
Should I be layering a onesie under DD’s pajamas? My mom just mentioned it and said I ought to do it to keep her warm. She usually sleeps all night without a problem so I don’t want to rock the boat if I don’t have to.
How old, and what temp do you keep the house at overnight?
Should I be layering a onesie under DD’s pajamas? My mom just mentioned it and said I ought to do it to keep her warm. She usually sleeps all night without a problem so I don’t want to rock the boat if I don’t have to.
I never did.
One thing I've noticed in 4.5 years of newborn nursing... grandmas ALWAYS think their grandbabies are too cold. If your kid is sleeping fine, then leave it be.
Should I be layering a onesie under DD’s pajamas? My mom just mentioned it and said I ought to do it to keep her warm. She usually sleeps all night without a problem so I don’t want to rock the boat if I don’t have to.
How old, and what temp do you keep the house at overnight?
She's almost six months.
It's usually around 65 I think. I also have some sleep sacks for her, but she always seems to fall/stay asleep without a problem so I guess she's comfortable enough?
How old, and what temp do you keep the house at overnight?
She's almost six months.
It's usually around 65 I think. I also have some sleep sacks for her, but she always seems to fall/stay asleep without a problem so I guess she's comfortable enough?
If she falls asleep and stays asleep, and she isn't cold to the touch when you take her out of her jammies, then sounds fine to me. That said, at 65 I'd personally probably have a second layer on her, but both of mine were low-weight babies who had a hard time regulating their body temperature. Sounds like in your case, though, no need to rock the boat.
Daycare called me to pick up DD ... 102 temp, congested, rapid breathing (but no chest retractions), only wanted half her bottle. I’m at home with her now ... called the pedi and they can see her in about two hours. They said I could give her Tylenol in the meantime. She’s sleeping in my arms now and is breathing a tiny bit quick but doesn’t appear to be struggling. Sniffs and coughs every once in a while.
Poor baby. I don’t know why she doesn’t seem to be getting better. She’s on antibiotics already. We did a nebulizer Treatment this morning. She was happy as a clam when I dropped her off at daycare. I don’t get it. Idk if this is just “little baby + winter = constant sick” or something more serious.
mbcdefg oh no! I am sorry to hear! It's been about a month since RSV? Then the ear infection? It could just be awful timing but I would definitely ask when you take her in. The first year in daycare was really rough and it did feel like back to back colds/illness.
mbcdefg oh no! I am sorry to hear! It's been about a month since RSV? Then the ear infection? It could just be awful timing but I would definitely ask when you take her in. The first year in daycare was really rough and it did feel like back to back colds/illness.
Ask if the RSV could be back? I definitely will. They said last time it’s a possibility.
Me again: MH is Home with DD today. She woke up this morning with a very snotty nose and eyes, and temps around 99-100. We gave her Tylenol, her antibiotics for her ear infection, and a nebulizer Treatment. She drank her whole bottle (but had a big spit up) and was happily playing with MH when I left. She’s had another bottle and nap since then.
I called to ask how she’s doing and he said she’s napping ... breathing rapidly but it doesn’t seem like she’s having chest retractions. Her temp is 101-102 so he gave her more Tylenol.
He’s pissy and wants to switch doctors because he feels like she shouldn’t be getting a fever while on abx (and is questioning why abx were prescribed for an ear infection in the first place). I took DD to walk in yesterday and they said call back today with an update, and he’s mad that the pedi didn’t return his call yet. He’s probably going to take her to walk in hours again in a little bit.
He’s a hypochondriac so I’m trying to calm him down, but I’m also wondering if it’s common for high temps to last a couple days even with abx and Tylenol. Also annoyed that he’s blaming this on the doctors but whatever, I’m also pissy that they misdiagnosed her with an ear infection in October when she actually had RSV.
I dunno. I’m worried about DD and also at my wits’ end listening to MH complaining about everything/everyone and convincing himself that DD is at death’s door. Someone please tell me if this is just how it is with a little baby in daycare in the winter, or if something is wrong?
ETA: now he’s calling me saying her temp is down to 100, still pissy that the doc hasn’t called back, she wasn’t wetting diapers before but is now, should I take her in? She’s probably fine at home right? She’s breathing hard but she’s not really. OMG I’m really about to lose it on him. I’m at the point where I want her to get better just so he’ll be quiet.
mbcdefg, I'm so sorry. I probably wouldn't rush her to the doctor with everything you've described.
It does sound like normal daycare illness to me. We're also dealing with illness. DS has had a terrible cold (we all caught it) and was sent home last week for pink eye. Fine. 24 hours on antibiotic ointment and we sent him back. Yesterday they sent him home for a fever of 100.4 so he has to be home today. He's totally fine today. I'm nervous about sending him tomorrow because he obviously still has a horrible cold, but I can't keep him home all winter for a cold. You have my sympathies!
mbcdefg I always questioned why abx were used for an ear infection as well, but I was told that there is no real way to be able to tell if the ear infection is viral or bacterial, so they give abx as a catch all. It's possible that C isn't responding well to the abx that she has been prescribed. How long as she been on it?
I think some of it is just bad luck (the back to back illnesses) and just being in a daycare setting. Last year BB's fall / winter was: first bad cold that earned her a nebulizer that we used often that winter, ear infection, cold, stomach virus, RSV, pink eye, ear infection, etc. I think there were like 3 or 4 ear infections in total and countless colds. It was literally something every month. But if your gut is telling you to get a second opinion, then follow your instincts. Or if your H is taking her back as for the RSV swab/test for a piece of mind.
Big hugs. It's so hard to help your tiny babe feel good and even harder to manage any anxieties (either yours or your spouses) surrounding it.
mbcdefg, I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Your DD sounds like she is having the same kind of winter that my DD had when she was an infant. It seemed like she was spiking fevers every other week with just a constant barage of illnesses. She just kept catching every little thing. I remember being really worried that something was wrong with her immune system but her pedi kept reassuring me that it was normal. FWIW, the subsequent winters have been much, MUCH better.
When did she start the antibiotics? My DD usually improved in the 48 hour window. The few times she did not (once a stubborn ear infection, and once pneumonia that was misdiagnosed) she required a stronger antibiotic. It wasn't until she started the second antibiotic that she began to show improvement.
mbcdefg, I'm sorry your baby is still sick and that your DH isn't handling it well. I wouldn't rush her back to the doctor yet either, but I might give them a call if she's been on the abx for 48 hours with no sign of improvement. Definitely call if she's worsening.
Couple things: A) it could be viral, in which case abx aren't going to help and things just have to run their course. B) it could be that wrong abx for whatever bug she has. E has never had fewer than 2 abx for any ear infections he's had. His first one last for 3 weeks and we changed the abx twice. It was the third one that knocked it out. C) it does generally take about 48 hours on abx to see improvement.
icedcoffeeraangoliBlue Moonpooh8402, Thank you so much. I appreciate the reassurance. That's what I've been thinking too, that we just need to ride this out, but MH always assumes the worst and it makes me second-guess myself. I know I'm becoming That Mom on here asking all these questions (her doctors probably think so too, lol). I've tried asking my mom but she always just says IDK, and my MIL is gone, and I don't have many IRL parent friends to ask (raangoli can probably testify that I obsessively text with insignificant problems lol). I'm grateful for you weighing in and talking me down <3
Re: the abx, she's been on it since 11/28. When I took her in yesterday after picking her up from daycare the pedi initially said maybe it's not working and she needs something better ... then looked in her records and saw DD is getting Cefdiner and said that's the best one so she wouldn't change it.
I've also been feeling crappy this whole time as well, so my patience is very thin.
Re: the abx, she's been on it since 11/28. When I took her in yesterday after picking her up from daycare the pedi initially said maybe it's not working and she needs something better ... then looked in her records and saw DD is getting Cefdiner and said that's the best one so she wouldn't change it. .
She's been on the same abx for 9 days? With no improvement? I don't care if cefdinir is the "best" (though it is very strong), it's apparently not working.
When's the last time she was swabbed for RSV? (I apologize if you've already answered this)
Re: the abx, she's been on it since 11/28. When I took her in yesterday after picking her up from daycare the pedi initially said maybe it's not working and she needs something better ... then looked in her records and saw DD is getting Cefdiner and said that's the best one so she wouldn't change it. .
She's been on the same abx for 9 days? With no improvement? I don't care if cefdinir is the "best" (though it is very strong), it's apparently not working.
When's the last time she was swabbed for RSV? (I apologize if you've already answered this)
They asked at the sick visit yesterday if RSV is going around daycare - I said not to my knowledge and mentioned that she was hospitalized for RSV on Halloween, and they didn't do a swab. The only time they swabbed was on 10/31 in the ER.
ETA: I fucking knew this would happen. He's been bitching all day about her not feeling well. I told him the pedi has walk-in hours from 2-4 p.m. At 1:50 he calls me and says she looks better so he won't take her in. He's been texting this whole time with updates and said he wishes they'd swab for RSV again, so I replied that he has one more hour to take her in if he wants. Calls me and starts bitching me out for "putting it on him" to make the decision.
I really just want to get in my car and drive away and not come back.
This isn't really a question as much as it is a vent, my 3.5 year old is so strong willed and is so much more defiant than my older child ever was at this age. Its exhausting. If you have a child like this, what are your tricks or tips for getting them to cooperate with anything? I threatened bedtime a lot, which I know you aren't supposed to do but its really the only thing I can think of. Sometimes I threaten to take away toys. Its for basic stuff, like me telling her not to do/touch/go in something and he doing it anyway with a big smile on her face.
3 was so awful with Ds1. It was like he was possessed by a demon I swear.
For touching something after I said not to I’d remove him or the item, natural consequences. Rinse and repeat. To cooperate I tried to make things a game or silly and fun. I had some success with a sticker chart or earning iPad time.
Ugh proboards ate my post but I do not think you text with insignificant problems mbcdefg. I was/am in the same boat when it comes to IRL friends who are also parents, so I appreciate the support. If anything, I feel like I am the annoying one who checks in <3
She's been on the same abx for 9 days? With no improvement? I don't care if cefdinir is the "best" (though it is very strong), it's apparently not working.
When's the last time she was swabbed for RSV? (I apologize if you've already answered this)
They asked at the sick visit yesterday if RSV is going around daycare - I said not to my knowledge and mentioned that she was hospitalized for RSV on Halloween, and they didn't do a swab. The only time they swabbed was on 10/31 in the ER.
ETA: I fucking knew this would happen. He's been bitching all day about her not feeling well. I told him the pedi has walk-in hours from 2-4 p.m. At 1:50 he calls me and says she looks better so he won't take her in. He's been texting this whole time with updates and said he wishes they'd swab for RSV again, so I replied that he has one more hour to take her in if he wants. Calls me and starts bitching me out for "putting it on him" to make the decision.
I really just want to get in my car and drive away and not come back.
Oh man, having a sick baby is stressful! I’m sorry. My H and I had some of our worst arguments when the kids are sick.
Did they check her ears yesterday? Was the ear infection gone? This could just be a new virus. It’s so hard to tell with little ones. If she’s breathing ok I might just wait for the dr to call.
They asked at the sick visit yesterday if RSV is going around daycare - I said not to my knowledge and mentioned that she was hospitalized for RSV on Halloween, and they didn't do a swab. The only time they swabbed was on 10/31 in the ER.
ETA: I fucking knew this would happen. He's been bitching all day about her not feeling well. I told him the pedi has walk-in hours from 2-4 p.m. At 1:50 he calls me and says she looks better so he won't take her in. He's been texting this whole time with updates and said he wishes they'd swab for RSV again, so I replied that he has one more hour to take her in if he wants. Calls me and starts bitching me out for "putting it on him" to make the decision.
I really just want to get in my car and drive away and not come back.
Oh man, having a sick baby is stressful! I’m sorry. My H and I had some of our worst arguments when the kids are sick.
Did they check her ears yesterday? Was the ear infection gone? This could just be a new virus. It’s so hard to tell with little ones. If she’s breathing ok I might just wait for the dr to call.
The pedi checked and said it's in both ears.
When MH called he said he wasn't planning on taking her in, and said she's breathing OK. And bitched for about the tenth time today that he called the doc this morning and still has not heard back.