About to make some cookies. I cried last night when both my kids refused to help bake, so today I’m protecting myself by just making them myself. The kids are free to join in, but I’m not going to frame it as a family Christmas activity, setting myself up for disappointment.
Teenagers, man. They’ll break your heart.
My 6 and 8 year olds denied me they were also super blasé about the Charlie Brown musical we went to yesterday.
My cousin’s sons are in 7th and 9th grade. My aunt tries to do fun minute to win it games for the kids and they refused to participate as did all of the other parents there besides me. So it was my kids and my other cousin’s girls. I wanted to fucking yell at everyone. You only have so many times to do fun shit in your life like open hershey kisses with work gloves on. You can sit on a barstool and have a beer when you are home alone. It was so sad how few of them came over to even see the kids having fun (my H and parents included).
I'm jealous. This sounds like an amazing way to spend Christmas! About 10 years ago, we flew out to Vegas the day after Christmas, and all the hotels were so beautifully decorated!
Post by killercupcake on Dec 24, 2017 13:41:58 GMT -5
We’re laying in bed watching H’s uncle’s Christmas Eve service on FB live.
We’re also on the tail end of a cold so we’re coughing and gross. My teeth hurt from sinus pressure. I’m finally coughing so I know it’s almost over but yuck.
About to make some cookies. I cried last night when both my kids refused to help bake, so today I’m protecting myself by just making them myself. The kids are free to join in, but I’m not going to frame it as a family Christmas activity, setting myself up for disappointment.
Teenagers, man. They’ll break your heart.
My 6 and 8 year olds denied me they were also super blasé about the Charlie Brown musical we went to yesterday.
My cousin’s sons are in 7th and 9th grade. My aunt tries to do fun minute to win it games for the kids and they refused to participate as did all of the other parents there besides me. So it was my kids and my other cousin’s girls. I wanted to fucking yell at everyone. You only have so many times to do fun shit in your life like open hershey kisses with work gloves on. You can sit on a barstool and have a beer when you are home alone. It was so sad how few of them came over to even see the kids having fun (my H and parents included).
I got batteries at the store this morning along with my 7 bottles of wine (I got 10% off for buying 6 or more!) and after getting the batteries I got a $5 off next purchase. I rarely ever shop at that store since it’s not close to my house so I gave it to the guy behind me and told him Merry Christmas. He grumbled “Thanks” and stuffed it in his pocket. Bah humbug, dude. My kids have been watching movies and playing on the Xbox all morning. I should really end that.
Post by cabbagecabbage on Dec 24, 2017 14:18:12 GMT -5
There’s a young man (20s) who has been posting on our village Facebook for a few months. He’s homeless and asks for food or odd jobs to earn money. People have tried to hook him up with shelters and programs but he insists that he has no ID and no address so he cannot get an ID and is rejected by all those programs when he tries. I have no idea how true it is but I hate that my cynical self doesn’t believe him and worries about the people opening their homes and wallets. I mean, he is homeless in the cold no matter what he is doing with the help he receives. I wish I had the faith in people that some have. I always operate from my “The Gift of Fear” place.
Post by goldengirlz on Dec 24, 2017 14:25:19 GMT -5
My kid is bonkers and we don’t even celebrate Christmas. Ha!
We’re going to spend the day in the city and hit a museum or two. And then Thai food for dinner.
I was originally thinking about taking her to get her nails done, which is something she’s been asking about and you know, we need something to waste time today. I found a place with chemical-free polish that does mommy & me mani/pedis. Of course when I was googling for salons, I learned that taking your kid for a kiddie nail service is apparently super-judgeworthy because you’re raising an entitled whatever something. Go figure.
I have a pretty busy day ahead. We're only having my parents over tomorrow because the il's (well, mil) refuse to come *eyeroll*. H is pretty pissed about it, but I'm relieved. Not having them over means I can actually relax and enjoy christmas, lol. I feel bad for h, because I get that he wants to spend time with his dad, but because mil is a snatch, fil can't show up without having to listen to her scream about it for the next 10 years. It's stupid as fuck.
Anyway, I plan to do some cleaning today,food prep, and we still haven't wrapped gifts. I'd like to get whatever I can finished up today, so that I have to worry about as little food prep tomorrow as possible.
She’s just awkward and when it’s time to go she will be moody we aren’t spending the whole day with her or going over tomorrow. Plus she refuses to childproof and gets annoyed when the kids pull out more than one toy at a time.
I have an insane, awful cold but am willing myself into some freaking holiday cheer by putting out sleeping bags for the kids, starting a fire in the fireplace, putting on Elf, and spiking my egg nog. Ho ho ho!
Post by cabbagecabbage on Dec 24, 2017 15:31:31 GMT -5
VillainV it’s his insistence that no social programs can or will help him after months of posts. His grammar is not great so I’m guessinh he isn’t well educated or able to advocate for himself in the system and people keep offering to help him get an ID but he fights back saying it won’t work but he takes their gifts of money and food. I don’t think homelessness makes anyone a liar but he sets off my BS detector. I feel bad that I go there immediately though. I wish I could have more faith in strangers than I have in his stories.
There’s a young man (20s) who has been posting on our village Facebook for a few months. He’s homeless and asks for food or odd jobs to earn money. People have tried to hook him up with shelters and programs but he insists that he has no ID and no address so he cannot get an ID and is rejected by all those programs when he tries. I have no idea how true it is but I hate that my cynical self doesn’t believe him and worries about the people opening their homes and wallets. I mean, he is homeless in the cold no matter what he is doing with the help he receives. I wish I had the faith in people that some have. I always operate from my “The Gift of Fear” place.
What? The “gift of fear” is what keeps you safe. If it sounds weird to you (and it does) don’t feel bad. People aren’t worthy of your trust by the simple fact that they are humans. You can offer help like the address of a shelter without putting your self in physical or financial danger. If he doesn’t take it for whatever reason, that is on him. He has access to Facebook so he seems to be able connect into the greater world somehow. The library can help him procure an ID.
My kid is bonkers and we don’t even celebrate Christmas. Ha!
We’re going to spend the day in the city and hit a museum or two. And then Thai food for dinner.
I was originally thinking about taking her to get her nails done, which is something she’s been asking about and you know, we need something to waste time today. I found a place with chemical-free polish that does mommy & me mani/pedis. Of course when I was googling for salons, I learned that taking your kid for a kiddie nail service is apparently super-judgeworthy because you’re raising an entitled whatever something. Go figure.
You should totally get your nails done with your daughter! Haters gonna hate, F them.
I had to go to the grocery store this morning. I was surprised at how it was NOT busy. I in and out in 10 minutes.
I had to run a few errands earlier and was fully prepared for some serious crowds. I was shocked how quiet everywhere was.
BUT now I am at Starbucks trying to finish up some homework and this place is packed. Who would have thought the coffee shop would be the hopping place on Xmas eve?
Ugh! David has the flu. He was feeling much better this afternoon then I gave him his first dose of Tamiflu and his fever spiked. He also said he’s feeling dizzy. I saw dizziness is a side effect but the fever spike is a total fluke, right? None of us have been on Tamiflu before.
VillainV it’s his insistence that no social programs can or will help him after months of posts. His grammar is not great so I’m guessinh he isn’t well educated or able to advocate for himself in the system and people keep offering to help him get an ID but he fights back saying it won’t work but he takes their gifts of money and food. I don’t think homelessness makes anyone a liar but he sets off my BS detector. I feel bad that I go there immediately though. I wish I could have more faith in strangers than I have in his stories.
ETA you deleted your comment?
Yeah, sorry, I decided I didn’t want to hijack the thread with my foul mood. Sorry. But thanks for clarifying. I got in a huge Facebook fight the other day with people who refuse to give homeless panhandlers cash because “you know they’re all just going to buy drugs and booze, right?” So I’m a little sensitive about the topic :-(
6 days at my parents house in [south] san francisco and its so national lampoon. Tons of food, family drama, booze, weed, people. It's so exhausting but oddly fun.
This sounds pretty amazing actually. My mom is in town so that’s a new thing for us, but usually it’s just us and the kids and pretty boring.
Post by 1confused1 on Dec 24, 2017 20:04:27 GMT -5
Hugs jezebel, my kids go tomorrow to their dad's for almost the whole day. Just thinking about it makes me cry. I hope you can find a way to have an enjoyable evening regardless.
Plus she refuses to childproof and gets annoyed when the kids pull out more than one toy at a time.
Wtf is that all about?! My mil has an effing teddy bear collection and she gets pissed when the grandkids touch them. Maybe don’t have teddy bears on every surface of your house if you don’t want toddlers to touch them.
Post by lilafowler on Dec 24, 2017 20:24:04 GMT -5
I did a whole bunch of shit today. All the laundry, finished wrapping, cleaned, ran dishwasher and put them away AND made sugar cookies for Santa from scratch.
I just ordered Die Hard on Amazon for $2.99. Baby I’m worth it.
Plus she refuses to childproof and gets annoyed when the kids pull out more than one toy at a time.
Wtf is that all about?! My mil has an effing teddy bear collection and she gets pissed when the grandkids touch them. Maybe don’t have teddy bears on every surface of your house if you don’t want toddlers to touch them.
I know! So many little things she doesn’t want them to touch.
She barely talked to them because she was busy talking to her kids. Why insist on grandkids coming and SAY you will make it fun when you basically ignore them.
So my MIL whines to DH about her sons not being friends, etc. She just posted on FB she had BIL and all his various children at her house. Fuck you bitch. I see that you can make time for him, but our invite must have been lost.
Post by litebright on Dec 24, 2017 21:34:31 GMT -5
I am sick. Sick enough that I went to a walk-in clinic to get a flu test just to make sure I don't have it -- I got the flu shot last month, but I have a bad track record of getting the flu even when I get the shot.
Almost all of the wrapping is done. The girls are in bed in new Christmas jammies and they exchanged one gift with each other, which is part of our Christmas Eve traditions. They each got each other rocks, lol -- aquamarine, some manufactured sparkly things, and what look like opals but I'm pretty sure are glass. They were so excited and grateful, and so sweet to each other. God, I love these ages so much.
Post by mrsukyankee on Dec 24, 2017 21:46:13 GMT -5
Jet lag is kicking my H's butt this time - he was almost asleep at the dining table at 8:30 (Polish Christmas Eve as my Step-mother's family is Polish), went to the couch and was in and out a bit. I'm drinking a bit of 20 yr old port and then I'll head to bed.
Post by cabbagecabbage on Dec 24, 2017 22:43:27 GMT -5
We did ancestry.com tests and expected results in 2 to 4 weeks per their updates. My husband’s results arrived via email at 5pm today.
He had an absentee dad and his mom was adopted. He had only the faintest ideas of his heritage, so this was a wonderful surprise. We mailed them together but only his arrived. It’s our own tiny Christmas miracle!