last night...

[achase123]

Sounds like a lot of fun! I'd just go with it and see what happens. If it felt right then it was the right thing to do.

[wrathofkuus]

Well, considering that he's not exclusive with you, and he was pushing you to have sex with him, I'd say that he absolutely does sleep around.

[stephbfan]

I actually like his response. He is getting to know you more before considering an exclusive relationship.

Im glad you had fun!

[bullygirl979]

Sept 17, 2012 11:35:22 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

Well, considering that he's not exclusive with you, and he was pushing you to have sex with him, I'd say that he absolutely does sleep around.

Yeah. Personally I would be annoyed if someone said it was "too soon" to be exclusive but not too soon for sleepovers and having sex. But that is just me.

Bottom line, if you are happy with your decision that is what matters. Keep us updated!

[jade28]

Sept 17, 2012 11:55:48 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Sept 17, 2012 11:35:22 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

Well, considering that he's not exclusive with you, and he was pushing you to have sex with him, I'd say that he absolutely does sleep around.

Yeah. Personally I would be annoyed if someone said it was "too soon" to be exclusive but not too soon for sleepovers and having sex. But that is just me.

Bottom line, if you are happy with your decision that is what matters. Keep us updated!

Sorry I am in this boat too just b/c of my own personal experiences. I think it's odd he pushed the sleeping together but not being exclusive. I made the decision to only sleep with people I am exclusive with and it has gone so much better for me since doing that.

[jade28]

But I should add if you are honestly okay with everything than it doesn't matter but your post seems to hint that you do want more exclusivity and you deserve that.

[Deleted]

eh I think it's a personal preference when you decide to have sex with someone. If it felt right I think it's fine. I think the question you have to ask yourself is are you okay with the idea of him sleeping with other people.

[stephbfan]

Sept 17, 2012 12:26:23 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

eh I think it's a personal preference when you decide to have sex with someone. If it felt right I think it's fine. I think the question you have to ask yourself is are you okay with the idea of him sleeping with other people.

:Y:

[wrathofkuus]

She said that she didn't want to sleep with someone who was still active on Match, and then he said he didn't want to be exclusive (presumably that he is, in fact, still active on Match), and then they had sex. That doesn't sound like she's okay with it.

I don't know, this doesn't smell right to me. You said straight out that you weren't comfortable having sex while he was still dating around, and then he didn't back off completely, and you ended up having sex anyway even though you said you weren't comfy with it?

[bullygirl979]

Sept 17, 2012 12:37:38 GMT -5 stephbfan said:

Sept 17, 2012 12:26:23 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

eh I think it's a personal preference when you decide to have sex with someone. If it felt right I think it's fine. I think the question you have to ask yourself is are you okay with the idea of him sleeping with other people.

I am not saying that they shouldn't have had sex. I always advertise that there is nothing wrong with 2 consenting adults having fun as long as they are on the same page and being safe.

I am just saying that PERSONALLY I would be annoyed if a guy said he didn't want to be exclusive but then tried to get me to sleep with him. I (ME, PERSONALLY) would feel like he wants his cake and to eat it too. ETA: unless we were both on the same page about having sex which initially it didn't seem like it.

Andplusalso, Kuus has a good point that OP initially said that she didn't want to have sex with anyone who was active on Match and then it seems like she backed down as soon as he said he didn't want to be exclusive.

[wrathofkuus]

Huh. He reminded you of your earlier conversation and asked if you were sure, I hope?

[wrathofkuus]

Okay. I guess play it by ear.

[bullygirl979]

Sept 17, 2012 13:15:46 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Sept 17, 2012 12:46:52 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

I am not saying that they shouldn't have had sex. I always advertise that there is nothing wrong with 2 consenting adults having fun as long as they are on the same page and being safe.

I am just saying that PERSONALLY I would be annoyed if a guy said he didn't want to be exclusive but then tried to get me to sleep with him. I (ME, PERSONALLY) would feel like he wants his cake and to eat it too. ETA: unless we were both on the same page about having sex which initially it didn't seem like it.

Andplusalso, Kuus has a good point that OP initially said that she didn't want to have sex with anyone who was active on Match and then it seems like she backed down as soon as he said he didn't want to be exclusive.

Perhaps I worded it wrongly but I didn't feel like he was pushing to have sex. He told me it made sense to get to know each other better and agreed it was the right decision to wait. However in the middle of the night I went for it after feeling that I should have just done it earlier and would end up regreting not doing it. I also haven't had sex since early July so I am sure my lack of sex was playing into my decision making process as well.

Like I said before it might not be the best decision I have made but I enjoyed it and we will see what happens

Gotcha. Well enjoy it and see where it goes!

[missbetty1]

Sept 17, 2012 11:31:00 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

So over the weekend I went camping with two friends and this guy I am seeing was nice enough to give me a bunch of his gear and invited me over to his place Sunday night. I went and returned his things, we ordered pizza and watched a movie.

We have plans to hang out on Wed. He is super fun in bed and very strong! The last guy I was with was super skinny and made me feel huge.. this guy is like 6 foot 2 and has really stong muscles

Overall he is a very interesting, kind, nice, smart person and I feel very comftorable around him. It was really nice to watch a movie on the couch and relax with someone rather than go to a bar/restaurant,etc. I rarely spend the night at people's houses because I can't fall asleep and I need my own pillow, like to be in my own place, etc. I fell asleep very easily and it was really nice to sleep next to him. I guess I will just continue to date him and see how it goes.

I am not sure sleeping with him was the best descision I have ever made but when I was laying next to him and we had decided we weren't going to I felt a big sense of regret actually.. because I really wanted to do it so I am glad I did.. I have not slept with men before and had no regrets but I was super attracted to him and I know I would have regreted not doing it.

Mars is 6'1" I've never dated someone as tall as him before and I LOVE it ( I'm 5'5"). If you are totally secure in your decision to sleep with him without a relationship then I think you are fine...Hopefully it works out