If a guys asks you out and you don't want to go...

[blackkitty]

If a guys asks you out and you don't want to go out with him but you don't want to be rude or leave the door open for the future.
And you don't mind being friends with him but you don't have any interest in dating him. And you know you will likely see him again (because he goes to your church).

What do you say?

[naeljun]

I wish I knew. I have a guy who is always asking me out. I have already told him he isn't my type at all but he isn't getting the hint.

[doriswe]

I'd just say "I'm flattered, but I see us hanging out on the friend level"

[livinitup]

No, thank you.

[Deleted]

I lie a little and say "I'm flattered by the invite but I'm just not dating right now."

[blackkitty]

Sept 17, 2012 14:26:20 GMT -5 naeljun said:

I have already told him he isn't my type at all but he isn't getting the hint.

OMG, I am seriously laughing out loud, I can't imagine myself having the balls to say that to someone.
I think I am way too nice. This guy actually asked me out in the middle of the service too. Sat next to me and everything. I'm like dude, at least wait until the service is over.

[bullygirl979]

I would say "Thank you for the offer but I don't see us as a match in the romantic sense"

[blackkitty]

Sept 17, 2012 14:34:09 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

What about not shitting where you eat or something like that? "Sorry I don't fuck where I worship" ??

OMG
I'm dying

[doriswe]

Sept 17, 2012 14:34:09 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

What about not shitting where you eat or something like that? "Sorry I don't fuck where I worship" ??

Holy Christ! This is awesome...and bad, equally!!

[blackkitty]

I'm too nice
I just said that I recently broke up with someone and I'm not really interested in dating right now. And I know he's totally not done with me. He even said that he came on strong. Back off dude. Can't even pray in peace.

[gozf]

Sept 17, 2012 14:26:46 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I lie a little and say "I'm flattered by the invite but I'm just not dating right now."

I've pulled this a few times.

[bullygirl979]

Sept 17, 2012 14:58:59 GMT -5 gozf said:

Sept 17, 2012 14:26:46 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I lie a little and say "I'm flattered by the invite but I'm just not dating right now."

I've pulled this a few times.

My only issue with this is that it could give him hope that down the road, when you ARE dating, that you would be interested in him.

I would rather cut it off at the chase.

[Bernadine]

Sept 17, 2012 15:01:48 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Sept 17, 2012 14:58:59 GMT -5 gozf said:

I've pulled this a few times.

My only issue with this is that it could give him hope that down the road, when you ARE dating, that you would be interested in him.

I would rather cut it off at the chase.

Exactly. I like what doris suggested.

[Deleted]

Sept 17, 2012 15:01:48 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Sept 17, 2012 14:58:59 GMT -5 gozf said:

I've pulled this a few times.

My only issue with this is that it could give him hope that down the road, when you ARE dating, that you would be interested in him.

I would rather cut it off at the chase.

No one has ever been that persistent with me. Ha!

[blackkitty]

Yea I have a feeling I haven't heard the last from this guy.
He's all... Have you been to the "single's bible study" Oy, that sounds like such a meat market to me!

[turtle1120]

Sept 17, 2012 15:01:48 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Sept 17, 2012 14:58:59 GMT -5 gozf said:

I've pulled this a few times.

My only issue with this is that it could give him hope that down the road, when you ARE dating, that you would be interested in him.

I would rather cut it off at the chase.

I agree with this. Don't leave the door open. Doris' suggestion was good.

And singles' bible study? Hmmmm....I think you should go and report back to us.

[bullygirl979]

Sept 17, 2012 15:28:34 GMT -5 turtle1120 said:

Sept 17, 2012 15:01:48 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

My only issue with this is that it could give him hope that down the road, when you ARE dating, that you would be interested in him.

I would rather cut it off at the chase.

I agree with this. Don't leave the door open. Doris' suggestion was good.

And singles' bible study? Hmmmm....I think you should go and report back to us.

Disagree! Given she is still mourning her last relationship I think she should avoid men at all cost!

[turtle1120]

Sept 17, 2012 15:29:47 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Sept 17, 2012 15:28:34 GMT -5 turtle1120 said:

I agree with this. Don't leave the door open. Doris' suggestion was good.

And singles' bible study? Hmmmm....I think you should go and report back to us.

Disagree! Given she is still mourning her last relationship I think she should avoid men at all cost!

I didn't mean that she should go to seriously try to find someone. I wanted her to go for the entertainment factor and report back with details. For some reason a singles' bible study sounds amusing to me.

[blackkitty]

Sept 18, 2012 0:21:15 GMT -5 dynamoo said:

I used to go to a singles bible study and it was primarily reading the bible with a bit of fellowship at the end. My experience was that all of the guys were socially awkward, LOL. Definitely NMS!

This is what I imagine it would be like...
I gotta tell you though, there are some seriously good looking single guys at my church. But I'm thinking they skip the "single's bible study!"

[heavenly]

I would just be honest. What if you later date a different guy that also goes to the same church. I think better to say that you don't see the two of you in a romantic way and just friendship.

[blackkitty]

Sept 18, 2012 12:49:51 GMT -5 FormerlyRR said:

I just can't get past the part about it happening DURING the service. WTF?

I know, I'm like STFU I am trying to praise Jesus here. Geez