@Kids ding dong ditching pictures posted online

[pixy0stix]

Scenario* - Kids pictures caught on Ring or the like are posted to a community group. People are upset that the kids' picture are posted. Is it cool or nah? (This is with the legality question aside.)

*scenario is hypothetical

ETA: Kids are ringing the doorbell and running away. They're caught on security cameras. Ring is a brand of camera that is built right into the doorbell and takes very clear pictures whenever someone comes up to it. Those pictures are posted on Nextdoor or a community FB group.

[cookiemdough]

I have no idea what any of this means lolol.

[krystee]

My community Facebook group is really bothering me with photos they are posting of cars that cut them off or adults who did something rude at the gas station or whatever. I do not think it's appropriate at all.

So no, I don't like this at all.

[taratru]

If they're doing it at inappropriate hours, then yes. They need to be talked to. During the day? Can't people spot them?

[rosiebear]

Hmm. If my kid was doing this, I’d want to know, but I wouldn’t need him publicly identified, if that makes sense. So I’m of two minds because I see using it for “Hey, do you know these kids? I want to talk to their parents,” but I don’t want “CRUCIFY THEM!” which is usually the tone of these posts.

[imojoebunny]

So the kids are ringing a doorbell, then running away, and people are posting photos on Nexdoor or similar? That seems overly obnoxious and I would be pissed they wasted people's time with something so trivial. If they were TPing houses, being destructive, but ringing a bell, then running away? That is annoying, but not a crime or internet worthy, unless they are doing it to the same people over and over again.

[VillainV]

Our neighborhood Nextdoor usually blurs out their faces and gives a description (like “10-12 year old blonde girl with hair in ponytail, 13-15 year old boy with short brown hair, Mets ball cap). It’s enough that parents/neighbors can usually identify who the child is (so the parents are aware) without posting a name or picture.

I would definitely not be okay with my child’s face being posted on social media.

And I’m always a little WTF about people getting their undies in a wad over ding-dong-ditching unless it’s at like 3am. We live in a safe neighborhood and kids run around outside. I’d rather they do that than stay inside and play video games all day.

[pixy0stix]

Apr 5, 2018 18:03:58 GMT -5 cookiemdough said:

I have no idea what any of this means lolol.

Ha!

Kids are ringing the doorbell and running away. They're caught on security cameras. Ring is a brand of camera that is built right into the doorbell and takes very clear pictures whenever someone comes up to it. Those pictures are posted on Nextdoor or a community FB group.

[thejackpot]

This seems like an overreach, it many be annoying but it's not worthy of a police visit. Especially as a WOC, over policing is super problematic and can be life threatening. Not excusing the kids at all.

[pixy0stix]

Apr 5, 2018 18:27:23 GMT -5 thejackpot said:

This seems like an overreach, it many be annoying but it's not worthy of a police visit. Especially as a WOC, over policing is super problematic and can be life threatening. Not excusing the kids at all.

No police, just putting the pictures online. To clarify.

[miso]

I would be immensely annoyed if kids kept ringing my doorbell and running away.

So I will say POST.

These are not innocent babies. These are people who are knowingly and purposefully coming onto my property uninvited and disrupting my quiet enjoyment of my premises.

Bring on the flames.

[aurora]

Apr 5, 2018 18:20:09 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

Apr 5, 2018 18:03:58 GMT -5 cookiemdough said:

I have no idea what any of this means lolol.

Ha!

Kids are ringing the doorbell and running away. They're caught on security cameras. Ring is a brand of camera that is built right into the doorbell and takes very clear pictures whenever someone comes up to it. Those pictures are posted on Nextdoor or a community FB group.

Thank you! I was starting to wonder if I had lost all of my literacy skills.

I wouldn't post pictures of someone else's kids on social media without their parents permission. That would include this scenario where the kids are being annoying.

[pixy0stix]

Apr 5, 2018 18:32:22 GMT -5 aurora said:

Apr 5, 2018 18:20:09 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

Ha!

Kids are ringing the doorbell and running away. They're caught on security cameras. Ring is a brand of camera that is built right into the doorbell and takes very clear pictures whenever someone comes up to it. Those pictures are posted on Nextdoor or a community FB group.

Thank you! I was starting to wonder if I had lost all of my literacy skills.

I wouldn't post pictures of someone else's kids on social media without their parents permission. That would include this scenario where the kids are being annoying.

Apparently I've lost my storytelling skills.

[aurora]

Apr 5, 2018 18:33:28 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

Apr 5, 2018 18:32:22 GMT -5 aurora said:

Thank you! I was starting to wonder if I had lost all of my literacy skills.

I wouldn't post pictures of someone else's kids on social media without their parents permission. That would include this scenario where the kids are being annoying.

Apparently I've lost my storytelling skills.

Or I'm old. A distinct possibility.

[aspentosh]

Apr 5, 2018 18:04:51 GMT -5 krystee said:

My community Facebook group is really bothering me with photos they are posting of cars that cut them off or adults who did something rude at the gas station or whatever. I do not think it's appropriate at all.

So no, I don't like this at all.

Ditto. 

[miso]

Point of clarification:

Don't you have to join Nextdoor or community Facebook groups?

I'm not a member of anything like this, so I have no idea.

[cookiemdough]

Apr 5, 2018 18:39:09 GMT -5 aurora said:

Apr 5, 2018 18:33:28 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

Apparently I've lost my storytelling skills.

Or I'm old. A distinct possibility.

I am with you lol! I was trying to figure out how the movie The Ring had to do with ding dongs and social media.

[pixy0stix]

Apr 5, 2018 18:44:15 GMT -5 miso said:

Point of clarification:

Don't you have to join Nextdoor or community Facebook groups?

I'm not a member of anything like this, so I have no idea.

Yes.

[miso]

So it's not really to the whole wide world.

It's posting to people in the neighborhood WHO CAN IDENTIFY THESE LITTLE SHITS.

[waverly]

We had this in our community group before I decided to leave the group. The kids were vandalizing a store. There was no reason to post because the police and store were involved. If the police were involved then I am sure they contacted the parents, so why put up a post to find/ notify parents?

The whole post was dumb and they eventually took the kids pictures down. I think there might be legality issues of posting pictures of minors especially in conjunction with them doing something bad, allegedly.

I think people just don't understand proper channels. In my example the person witnessed it and was worried enough to take pictures and post, so why not call the police themselves or talk to the store? It wasn't that they didn't want them to get in trouble because that was the point of the post that they should be in trouble.

[cookiemdough]

Is this because they don’t know who the offenders are or is it to shame them? I guess back in the day people would just march the kid back to their parents house.

[Captain Catnip]

Apr 5, 2018 18:29:58 GMT -5 miso said:

I would be immensely annoyed if kids kept ringing my doorbell and running away.

So I will say POST.

These are not innocent babies. These are people who are knowingly and purposefully coming onto my property uninvited and disrupting my quiet enjoyment of my premises.

Bring on the flames.

I agree with you. But I've considered doing it because there are a couple kids that come in to my (shared) fenced yard and try to lure the neighbor's dogs away.

[miso]

Apr 5, 2018 18:51:40 GMT -5 cookiemdough said:

Is this because they don’t know who the offenders are or is it to shame them? I guess back in the day people would just march the kid back to their parents house.

I am imagining a simple post with a photo stating something like, "At 4:30 p.m. today, this child rang my doorbell and ran away. This has happened on five separate occasions now. I want this to stop. If you are this child's parent, please put an end to this. Thank you."

So...both?

[imobviouslystaying]

I have no issue with these little shits being outed on a closed community website.

And if their parents are more outraged that their pics are being circulated than the fact that their kids are being toolbaskets,then I guess we know where these asses get it from.

[msmerymac]

Not cool to post pics of minors online without permission. But Nextdoor is kind of BEC to me now.

[VillainV]

Apr 5, 2018 18:44:15 GMT -5 miso said:

Point of clarification:

Don't you have to join Nextdoor or community Facebook groups?

I'm not a member of anything like this, so I have no idea.

Yes. But not everyone joins. It’s entirely possible the parents of the kids are not members (and also possible that they don’t even live in the neighborhood and will not see the post).

[miso]

Apr 5, 2018 18:59:16 GMT -5 @246baje said:

Apr 5, 2018 18:56:33 GMT -5 miso said:

I am imagining a simple post with a photo stating something like, "At 4:30 p.m. today, this child rang my doorbell and ran away. This has happened on five separate occasions now. I want this to stop. If you are this child's parent, please put an end to this. Thank you."

So...both?

In my former neighborhood the parents would become irate about someone posting their dearest’s photo and completely deflect responsibility for said shitty behavior.

How about...IF YOUR KID DIDN'T FUCKING RING MY DOORBELL AND RUN AWAY, I WOULDN'T NEED TO POST HIS DAMN PHOTO.

[mrs.jacinthe]

It depends for me. If it's a one-time thing during normal waking hours, eh, kids are jerks. If it's the little miscreants who used to ring my parents' doorbell at 11:00 at night, wait for my elderly parents to answer, see no one, shut the lights back off and go back to bed, then do it AGAIN (and FREAKING AGAIN and AGAIN, at least 4x per night, at least one night EVERY weekend), those little asshats deserve to have their photos posted on the front page of the NY Times because they are clearly sociopaths who deserve every ounce of shaming they get.

I'm not still angry about this or anything.

(FTR, the last time it happened ever was the time I was there at mom and dad's and waited behind the door, then jerked it open and screamed like a crazy person at this shocked-looking teenager who was old enough to know better. I can't remember what I said, but I'm pretty confident it was something about the police, and pressing charges, and a lawsuit, and who-the-hell-knows what else. I was ANGRY.)

[waverly]

Apr 5, 2018 18:51:40 GMT -5 cookiemdough said:

Is this because they don’t know who the offenders are or is it to shame them? I guess back in the day people would just march the kid back to their parents house.

I think a lot of those type of posts come from a place of a good heart of identifying them and their parents. Some come from a place of shame, even if the original post wasn't like that it turns that way in the comments. That was what turned me off.

Of course if my kid was doing something I would want to know, but I would appreciate being contacted by a school, library, store, my neighbor/ friend or the police etc rather than being shamed on social media if my kid were to get in trouble. We've had to make a few of those phone calls to parents at my job. It was a bit of investigating to figure out who the kid/ parent was, but we didn't put it online.

[VillainV]

Apr 5, 2018 18:48:36 GMT -5 miso said:

So it's not really to the whole wide world.

It's posting to people in the neighborhood WHO CAN IDENTIFY THESE LITTLE SHITS.

Yes, but people who see it could copy or screen shot and blast out to other people or post to larger networks.