Ok I've never in my life been groped or harassed. There is no Me Too happening here. I'm starting to get a bit of a complex. I guess my RBF is Oscar level.
I was against a railing at a show, H next to me, and neither I nor the guy behind me that kept leaning in me so far I was leaning over the rail, were dancing. He just kept rubbing against me. I asked him to stop repeatedly, he didn't, so I punched him in the stomach. I was called a bitch but he then went elsewhere and left me alone.
I'm sorry this happened to you but I love that you punched him.
Ok I've never in my life been groped or harassed. There is no Me Too happening here. I'm starting to get a bit of a complex. I guess my RBF is Oscar level.
Ha. I'm with you. Or should I say #metoo. I am not sure if it's because I'm that hideous or if I just give off a really awful vibe.
It pisses me off that other people have to deal with this, though. Concerts and sporting events are some of my favorite things to do. I hate that women would have to think twice about attending because they are afraid of what some douche thinks he's allowed to do.
I was against a railing at a show, H next to me, and neither I nor the guy behind me that kept leaning in me so far I was leaning over the rail, were dancing. He just kept rubbing against me. I asked him to stop repeatedly, he didn't, so I punched him in the stomach. I was called a bitch but he then went elsewhere and left me alone.
I'm sorry this happened to you but I love that you punched him.
Barnacle is the perfect term for these guys.
This was so long ago, too. 2005 so I was like 19? H and I weren't even married. Now I think I just project anger half the time.
I still don't get why no one cares that the owner of Coachella is a bigot. I mean I get it but.....
Who is the owner? Honestly I have never heard of Coachella until Beyonce broke it with her awesomeness. I still don’t know what it is or what it was before Beychella
I still don't get why no one cares that the owner of Coachella is a bigot. I mean I get it but.....
Who is the owner? Honestly I have never heard of Coachella until Beyonce broke it with her awesomeness. I still don’t know what it is or what it was before Beychella
Post by alleinesein on Apr 20, 2018 16:44:51 GMT -5
I was at an OMD concert last month at the HOB in Anaheim and got stuck next to 2 IE maga dbags. One of them kept going on and on about how much he loved GA shows b/c he could grope and fondle lots of girls and they wouldn't know do did it. The universe decided to surround those two idiots with lots of men and 2 overweight middle-aged women (myself and a new friend) who told them to eff off and to take their drunk asses outside. No one in my group was groped but someone did get barfed on; we become vicious when we are on the rail and have no issues telling people that if they keep getting up on our asses they will get hurt and it wont be accidental.
The few times someone has inadvertently touched me at a show end up with an apology because it is someone who ended up being shoved into me. I either have a really scary RBF or give off scary vibes when I am at concerts.
Post by lexxasaurus on Apr 20, 2018 17:20:26 GMT -5
I've been rubbed against, groped, shoved.. I used to shy away and accept it because I thought "this is just what happens", but I've gotten pretty aggressive nowadays, and once put my hand on a dudes chest and threw him to the ground, I've punched a guy. I'm there for the music. Don't touch me.
I've never been groped, but I always get the barnacle creeper that stands waaaaay too close, so you rub up against them if you dance. Which is hazardous to their health because I dance like I'm having a seizure. But anyway, I've gotten good at slamming insteps, throwing elbows, and the like but a lot of times it just doesn't help.
Also, my husband and I had an argument because I got pissed when he wouldn't stand behind me to deter a particularly persistent barnacle. He just didn't understand what was happening until I pulled him completely out of the crowd and explained. He couldn't see what was happening right next to him.
I get this guy too.
We saw Digital Underground at a tiny venue, and the dude behind me kept rubbing up against me with his boner. 🤢
It hasn’t happened to me in a long time, but the time period in my life when I was most sexually harassed was between 11-18. And really, mostly 11-15. I went to a lot of local punk shows during my late middle school/high school days (and now) and it was always a battle of “I want to crowd surf to the front, but do I like this band enough to have my chest and ass grabbed by 15 different guys to get there.” Like other posters, I thought it was totally normal.
The only time I left a show because of how uncomfortable I felt I was 14 or 15 and went to the bathroom and an older guy was standing around outside. I guess I cursed? Like “this place is fucking gross” and he told me I shouldn’t use such language, then told me I looked like his daughter, then leaned in open mouthed. I had just enough time to turn my head and felt his open mouth and tongue trying to kiss my cheek. I reacted with a “Omg! Uhhhhhh k, bye” and then ran out. So ducking gross.
Post by RoxMonster on Apr 21, 2018 16:22:24 GMT -5
I have experienced these things at some concerts but mostly at Warped Tour. I went twice in college--once with a group of people and once with DH (boyfriend then). Usually guys rubbing up against my butt, brushing their hands on my butt, etc. while in the crowd. A few lewd comments from guys.
Post by lyssbobiss, Command, B613 on Apr 21, 2018 19:49:33 GMT -5
This has absolutely happened to me although in my 20s I often would read the situation as “someone is too enthusiastic and doesn’t know we aren’t friends” instead of “someone is touching me and they best not” and I would often freeze and not know how to handle it. It has even happened when I’ve been at events with other males as dates, and the handsy dudes around me are never deterred. In my 30s I have no time and space for this shit. If I rolled off the couch and am staying out past my bedtime for this show you better not fucking get in my space and touch my ass or my shoulders or whatever the fuck else you’re trying to do, I will elbow you and pretend it’s cause I have no rhythm. It is infuriating to me that so many men see these open-air spaces as a place to just do whatever the fuck they want and because it can be chaotic and confusing at times, and there are people everywhere and women don’t always know there’s been an offense and who the offender was, there’s little to no consequence.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
Ok I've never in my life been groped or harassed. There is no Me Too happening here. I'm starting to get a bit of a complex. I guess my RBF is Oscar level.
Ha. I'm with you. Or should I say #metoo. I am not sure if it's because I'm that hideous or if I just give off a really awful vibe.
It pisses me off that other people have to deal with this, though. Concerts and sporting events are some of my favorite things to do. I hate that women would have to think twice about attending because they are afraid of what some douche thinks he's allowed to do.
This is me as well. It never happened to me, probably because I shoot daggers just by looking at anyone who thinks it’s a good idea to invade my personal space.
Ha. I'm with you. Or should I say #metoo. I am not sure if it's because I'm that hideous or if I just give off a really awful vibe.
It pisses me off that other people have to deal with this, though. Concerts and sporting events are some of my favorite things to do. I hate that women would have to think twice about attending because they are afraid of what some douche thinks he's allowed to do.
This is me as well. It never happened to me, probably because I shoot daggers just by looking at anyone who thinks it’s a good idea to invade my personal space.
I am not singling you or anyone else out here, and I know a lot of the “I must just have amazing RBF” comments are in jest, but the reality is that if you haven’t been groped or harassed, you’ve just been fortunate. Let’s not perpetuate the idea that there is a look or vibe that a woman does or doesn’t give that gives rise to these situations, because it will only be used against us at some point in reverse. How many times have we heard it? “She didn’t look upset”, and the like.
Who is the owner? Honestly I have never heard of Coachella until Beyonce broke it with her awesomeness. I still don’t know what it is or what it was before Beychella
I only just learned this. It threw me off a little in part because Lady Gaga subbed in for Beyoncé last year. (Beyoncé had been announced as a headliner but then pulled out, presumably because of her pregnancy.) Beyond Gaga and Bey, most of the artists at Coachella seem to promote world views different than those supported by its owner.
The only time I was groped at a concert was when I crowd surfed at a Blue October concert in college station in 1999 or so. When I got back to my friends and expressed surprise that guys were literally penetrating me with their hands through my pants I got the question, “That surprises you?” Um, yeah. I figured a few boob grabs were inevitable but not that.
Other than that part the crowd surfing was awesome. Leave it to men to ruin shit.
I realize now I probably escaped groping at other concerts because I was big into the Lilith Fair and female artists. Sigh.