This article is just peak 2018

[heyjude]

www.google.com/amp/s/www.washingtonpost.com/amphtml/news/post-nation/wp/2018/05/22/a-30-year-old-demanded-six-month-notice-for-eviction-from-his-parents-house-a-judge-called-that-outrageous/

[One Girl In All The World]

This guy could be my brother.

[Deleted]

“My business is my business” truly says it all.

[heyjude]

I really thought I was reading a parody WaPo article.

[pugz]

Those poor parents. I bet they have some stooooorieees.

[downtoearth]

WTH? Can you imagine bringing that douche up and then him not knowing when to leave at age 30?!?!

[goldengirlz]

“The letter doesn’t provide a reason as to why the parents want their son out, but suggest he get a job, move his broken car and sell some of his belongings — like his stereo and weapons — to make money in the interim.”

Yes, this definitely sounds like someone who should have weapons.

[heyjude]

May 22, 2018 23:13:59 GMT -5 pugz said:

Those poor parents. I bet they have some stooooorieees.

I mean. They raised him.

[mishy]

As Rotondo’s parents sat quietly in the court gallery, Rotondo appeared to crave the spotlight. At one point, the judge called Rotondo up to the bench. Rotondo noted that microphones placed by the media were on the lawyer’s podium. He tried to take the podium up with him.

LOLOLOL

[miniroller]

May 23, 2018 0:35:24 GMT -5 mishy said:

As Rotondo’s parents sat quietly in the court gallery, Rotondo appeared to crave the spotlight. At one point, the judge called Rotondo up to the bench. Rotondo noted that microphones placed by the media were on the lawyer’s podium. He tried to take the podium up with him.

LOLOLOL

Self-important much?? “I need EVERYONE in this courtroom to hear every word I choose to utter! Even if that means trying (& failing) to pull the podium up!”

[shauni27]

watching the video made me REAL uncomfortable. This guy is the worst.

[krystee]

I am slightly afraid his parents are going to turn up dead because he hates them and loves media attention. And jail will give him a place to stay where he doesn't have to pay rent.

This guy gives me really bad vibes.

[punisher]

"Rotondo told the judge that his parents did not support him by providing him with meals or by doing his laundry for him."

Ok so now I want to know a bit more about how Mr. Preshus was raised. Though... nm. I bet my instincts are right.

[underwaterrhymes]

May 23, 2018 6:34:02 GMT -5 krystee said:

I am slightly afraid his parents are going to turn up dead because he hates them and loves media attention. And jail will give him a place to stay where he doesn't have to pay rent.

This guy gives me really bad vibes.

Yeah, I think he’s dangerous. It doesn’t shock me he has weapons because we suck, but this is someone who definitely should not have them.

[georgeglass]

May 23, 2018 6:34:02 GMT -5 krystee said:

I am slightly afraid his parents are going to turn up dead because he hates them and loves media attention. And jail will give him a place to stay where he doesn't have to pay rent.

This guy gives me really bad vibes.

Seems like the judge agrees - 

"He also ordered adult protective services to investigate, expressing concern about what was going on."


www.syracuse.com/crime/index.ssf/2018/05/judge_praises_adult_sons_legal_research_boots_him_from_parents_house_anyway.html

[meowmaps]

WTF is up with this generation of boys and their parents? My brother couldn't wait to be an adult and get out of our parents' house and start supporting himself. He's a 1980 baby and he moved out days after graduating from college.

I find it interesting that these stories are never about daughters even though most (all?) societies treat women like they're burdens on their families.

[lightbulbsun]

May 23, 2018 7:32:27 GMT -5 meowmaps said:

WTF is up with this generation of boys and their parents? My brother couldn't wait to be an adult and get out of our parents' house and start supporting himself. He's a 1980 baby and he moved out days after graduating from college.

I find it interesting that these stories are never about daughters even though most (all?) societies treat women like they're burdens on their families.

I wonder if that's because women are more likely to be independent, or if parents are more likely to tolerate their daughter living at home than their son.  

[heyjude]

Erm. My elderly neighbors are currently trying to evict their lazy no job having messy adult daughter.

[meowmaps]

May 23, 2018 7:40:19 GMT -5 lightbulbsun said:

May 23, 2018 7:32:27 GMT -5 meowmaps said:

WTF is up with this generation of boys and their parents? My brother couldn't wait to be an adult and get out of our parents' house and start supporting himself. He's a 1980 baby and he moved out days after graduating from college.

I find it interesting that these stories are never about daughters even though most (all?) societies treat women like they're burdens on their families.

I wonder if that's because women are more likely to be independent, or if parents are more likely to tolerate their daughter living at home than their son.  

I'm sure there are plenty of daughters who won't leave home like in heyjude 's example.  I shouldn't have generalized.  It does seem like the a lot of the news stories are about sons and their bad/potentially dangerous behavior.  

I had a hard time getting a full-time job right out of college and so I didn't move out until I was 24. My dad had a pretty serious conversation with me that lit a fire under my ass.  

[aurora]

That is an absurd sense of entitlement.

I agree the weapons part is scary.

[lightbulbsun]

May 23, 2018 7:50:07 GMT -5 meowmaps said:

May 23, 2018 7:40:19 GMT -5 lightbulbsun said:

I wonder if that's because women are more likely to be independent, or if parents are more likely to tolerate their daughter living at home than their son.  

I'm sure there are plenty of daughters who won't leave home like in heyjude 's example.  I shouldn't have generalized.  It does seem like the a lot of the news stories are about sons and their bad/potentially dangerous behavior.  

I had a hard time getting a full-time job right out of college and so I didn't move out until I was 24. My dad had a pretty serious conversation with me that lit a fire under my ass.  

I would guess it probably has more to do with birth order than sex.  H and I are both the oldest, and we both moved out within a year of graduating college (it took me a little longer because I graduated in 2009 and had a really hard time finding stable work).  

His sister and my brother both lived at home for much longer, with my brother just moving out a couple of months ago at 29.  But this is all anecdotal and I don't have any real stats, lol.  

I'm also wondering if this trend is much different than any other generation.  I know my mom lived at home until she got married, and I don't think that was super unusual for baby boomers.  

Anyway, the guy in the article is a douche.

[heyjude]

May 23, 2018 7:50:07 GMT -5 meowmaps said:

May 23, 2018 7:40:19 GMT -5 lightbulbsun said:

I wonder if that's because women are more likely to be independent, or if parents are more likely to tolerate their daughter living at home than their son.  

I'm sure there are plenty of daughters who won't leave home like in heyjude 's example.  I shouldn't have generalized.  It does seem like the a lot of the news stories are about sons and their bad/potentially dangerous behavior.  

I had a hard time getting a full-time job right out of college and so I didn't move out until I was 24. My dad had a pretty serious conversation with me that lit a fire under my ass.  

I wonder if the bigger commonality is race? These stories all involve white people.

(I have to say though the weapons piece seems uniquely male/white male; our neighbors are going through this with their adult daughter and even though the situation is escalating I have never once thought she was stockpiling weapons.)

[mbcdefg]

Barring mental illness, this sounds like the parents are "We've tried nothing and we're all out of ideas!" The son is being a prick, but they raised him that way. 

How'd the son get the money to hire a lawyer? Are Mommy and Daddy paying for that as well?

Re: sons vs. daughters staying home, haven't we talked in the past about how in many cultures there's an expectation for daughters to be the ones to care for aging parents?

And, anecdote, my 31 year-old college dropout sister still lives with our (widowed) mom, despite having a decent job and a boyfriend with an even better job (who also lives with his (widowed and disabled) mom). My mom's expressed frustration at Sis not really getting her shit together, and I told her to just tell her to move out, but Mom's excuse is that our late father made her promise not to kick Sis out. Now, Mom could very well be making that deathbed promise up or stretching the truth like she's prone to doing, but at least Sis is a pleasant person who helps take care of the house and contributes to some of the bills. 

[Deleted]

Whatever. If I had a dollar for every time one of my family members bitched and whined about their adult kid living them.

Grandma/Auntie/MIL/Olds: I really wish he would get it together and find a job and his own place. I just can't afford to pay his bills anymore.

Me: Throw his shit on the lawn and let him sleep in his car.

Grandma/Auntie/MIL/Olds: Oh no, I couldn't do that, he's a good boy, he just can't seem to catch a break!

And so it goes, we have an entire generation of old folks bitching about lazy ass kids while enabling lazy ass kids, because their jobless adult child isn't a piece of shit like all the other jobless adult men, oh no, not their little Billy, he just can't catch a break.

I hope the best for this couple, but in my experience, they can probably blame themselves.

[aliciabella]

May 23, 2018 7:32:27 GMT -5 meowmaps said:

WTF is up with this generation of boys and their parents? My brother couldn't wait to be an adult and get out of our parents' house and start supporting himself. He's a 1980 baby and he moved out days after graduating from college.

I find it interesting that these stories are never about daughters even though most (all?) societies treat women like they're burdens on their families.

This not anything magically with "this generation" though we all like to say, " well, in my day you had to get a job" ( shakes cane). Every generation believes the next generation is entitled and spoiled. Every.

[aspentosh]

This does not compute. Like, at all.

[msmerymac]

May 23, 2018 8:00:40 GMT -5 lightbulbsun said:

May 23, 2018 7:50:07 GMT -5 meowmaps said:

I'm sure there are plenty of daughters who won't leave home like in heyjude 's example.  I shouldn't have generalized.  It does seem like the a lot of the news stories are about sons and their bad/potentially dangerous behavior.  

I had a hard time getting a full-time job right out of college and so I didn't move out until I was 24. My dad had a pretty serious conversation with me that lit a fire under my ass.  

I would guess it probably has more to do with birth order than sex.  H and I are both the oldest, and we both moved out within a year of graduating college (it took me a little longer because I graduated in 2009 and had a really hard time finding stable work).  

His sister and my brother both lived at home for much longer, with my brother just moving out a couple of months ago at 29.  But this is all anecdotal and I don't have any real stats, lol.  

I'm also wondering if this trend is much different than any other generation.  I know my mom lived at home until she got married, and I don't think that was super unusual for baby boomers.  

Anyway, the guy in the article is a douche.

Mostly, I think parents just make it too comfortable. 

I was lucky that I moved across the country for my last semester of college and found a job while I was there (thanks, 2003). It was HARD, yo, since I did have to find a place to live in a HCOL city and start paying my own bills right away (I was on my parents' car insurance, and pretty much as soon as I got a job, my dad said, "So yeah, let me know when you find your own insurance!"). But I was also at the tail end of when that was kind of expectation, I guess. It seemed like that's what you do - you get a job right after college and get your own place. I LIKED the independence. 

My brother took his sweet time getting through school. Community college, then a 4 year college, but it took him like 6.5 years. He bounced back and forth between living on campus, in an apartment with roommates, and at home/taking online classes. But our parents divorced when he was 20, so that pretty much encouraged him to move out right quick. 

My dad lived at home until he got married, but he got married a few months before turning 23. My grandparents had a 4 bedroom cape cod, and used a first floor bedroom, so my dad used the large upstairs bedroom and had his own bathroom and space up there, so it was pretty private and comfortable. (My mom moved out when she went to college because of a shitty home life situation.) He was also working full time AND going to school. And I think he was even paying a little rent. So my parents also set an expectation that adult children wouldn't be left on the street, but it would be expected that you have a job, contribute to the house, and pay something, even if it wasn't market rent.

[msmerymac]

May 23, 2018 8:08:51 GMT -5 mbcdefg said:

Barring mental illness, this sounds like the parents are "We've tried nothing and we're all out of ideas!" The son is being a prick, but they raised him that way. 

"Homer, remember what you promised the kids."
"When you're 18, you're out of the house!"

[msmerymac]

Also, how did he get the money for the weapons or the car in the first place?

[mbcdefg]

May 23, 2018 8:48:17 GMT -5 msmerymac said:

May 23, 2018 8:00:40 GMT -5 lightbulbsun said:

I would guess it probably has more to do with birth order than sex.  H and I are both the oldest, and we both moved out within a year of graduating college (it took me a little longer because I graduated in 2009 and had a really hard time finding stable work).  

His sister and my brother both lived at home for much longer, with my brother just moving out a couple of months ago at 29.  But this is all anecdotal and I don't have any real stats, lol.  

I'm also wondering if this trend is much different than any other generation.  I know my mom lived at home until she got married, and I don't think that was super unusual for baby boomers.  

Anyway, the guy in the article is a douche.

Mostly, I think parents just make it too comfortable. 

I was lucky that I moved across the country for my last semester of college and found a job while I was there (thanks, 2003). It was HARD, yo, since I did have to find a place to live in a HCOL city and start paying my own bills right away (I was on my parents' car insurance, and pretty much as soon as I got a job, my dad said, "So yeah, let me know when you find your own insurance!"). But I was also at the tail end of when that was kind of expectation, I guess. It seemed like that's what you do - you get a job right after college and get your own place. I LIKED the independence. 

My brother took his sweet time getting through school. Community college, then a 4 year college, but it took him like 6.5 years. He bounced back and forth between living on campus, in an apartment with roommates, and at home/taking online classes. But our parents divorced when he was 20, so that pretty much encouraged him to move out right quick. 

My dad lived at home until he got married, but he got married a few months before turning 23. My grandparents had a 4 bedroom cape cod, and used a first floor bedroom, so my dad used the large upstairs bedroom and had his own bathroom and space up there, so it was pretty private and comfortable. (My mom moved out when she went to college because of a shitty home life situation.) He was also working full time AND going to school. And I think he was even paying a little rent. So my parents also set an expectation that adult children wouldn't be left on the street, but it would be expected that you have a job, contribute to the house, and pay something, even if it wasn't market rent.

My dad always used to say that we could live at home as long as we wanted, as long as we were in school and/or had a job. 

I wanted to move out ASAP - as the oldest I was held to higher expectations and always forced to share everything with the younger two (still pisses me off that I was treated like a nun, meanwhile Sis and Bro got to sleep over their SOs' houses at the same age as I was). I commuted to a local college, though, so I didn't get time away in a dorm. I finally got an apartment across town, by myself, at 23. I think my brother moved out around age 25, and had roommates in both places - now he's getting married to a girl from another state and IDK what their plans are for a home.

I really don't know how my mom feels about my sister still living there. Like I said, she feels like she needs to honor my late father's wishes, and plus as a widow I'm sure she enjoys the company (even though half the time I call her and ask if Sis is home she'll reply that she has no idea where she is at the moment). But then she'll bitch that Sis dropped out of college to be a bartender and only pays her half of the cell phone bill and comes home drunk at 4 a.m. half the week. She's very contradictory. Meanwhile I just stay the hell out of it.