Post by bullygirl979 on Sept 18, 2012 12:23:44 GMT -5
Long story short.
Dude asks me out on date. We plan for lunch on Friday. He cancels due to work conflicts and asks to reschedule for this week.
We do NOT communicate everyday. He texts me on Friday to chat. I respond Friday and don't hear from him until 10 pm Saturday night. I don't respond because I am out. He texts me again on Sunday. I get a migraine and am totally useless for the rest of the day and don't respond. He calls me yesterday and I can't answer because I am at work. I literally leave work, go home to take care of the dogs, have my riding lesson, go home and make something for my recipe swap tonight.
He just texted me again this morning. I am feeling very annoyed by this. Granted, it was rude of me to not take 2 seconds to respond to him but I don't think he needs to text/call me every.damn.day because I don't respond right away.
Post by turtle1120 on Sept 18, 2012 12:27:12 GMT -5
Text him back already! How long does it take to send a text? A couple seconds. You're being rude, and if you're not interested then say so and send him on his way so he stops texting you.
you're not interested then say so and send him on his way so he stops texting you.
Honestly in the beginning I was interested but because he often took 24 hours to respond back to me, I felt this wasn't inappropriate that I didn't respond right away. Then I just sick/busy. Now I am losing interest because I feel he is being a bit clingy.
I will be totally honest and say I was being rude in the beginning. I own that.
Post by starburst604 on Sept 18, 2012 12:30:50 GMT -5
He started it!! I'm feeling juvenile today. Are you not interested? Yeah if I were him I probably wouldn't text again if I hadn't received a response, but you not responding makes me think you aren't interested and are therefore gonna find any text from him annoying.
ETA just saw your response above. Slow responses to texts usually get me off on the wrong foot with someone too.
I think you need to tell him that! It sounded like he is trying to make effort to show he is still interested in meeting up when he had to canceled the original plans. If I were him and did not hear back, I would think you are not that into me based on the last conversation was talking about rescheduling and figuring out when to meet up again. But that just me.
My level of being annoyed would depend on the nature of the texts. If he was being pushy about you not responding or seemed mad about it, I wouldn't like that. But if it's more of a - "Hey, you ok over there?" type deal I could be more forgiving.
I do agree that a quick text might satisfy him until you have more time to chat further.
But I also don't send multiple texts when someone doesn't respond. If I do, I wait at least a few days.
My level of being annoyed would depend on the nature of the texts. If he was being pushy about you not responding or seemed mad about it, I wouldn't like that. But if it's more of a - "Hey, you ok over there?" type deal I could be more forgiving.
All of this. I can't decide if you're being petty or should be annoyed.
My level of being annoyed would depend on the nature of the texts. If he was being pushy about you not responding or seemed mad about it, I wouldn't like that. But if it's more of a - "Hey, you ok over there?" type deal I could be more forgiving.
All of this. I can't decide if you're being petty or should be annoyed.
Post by moolarkey on Sept 18, 2012 12:49:07 GMT -5
Am I missing something - it took him 24 hours to respond to your text yet you've taken days and you think he's rude/wrong - whatever? And it takes a few SECONDS to send a text - I'm busy, I'll be in touch as soon as I can. I'm busy, will be a few days before I can respond.
All of this. I can't decide if you're being petty or should be annoyed.
His text today just said this:
*poke*
But what did his text Sunday say? And his call yesterday? If those were just general "hey, how you doing" and this is the first "poke", I wouldn't be annoyed.
The way you explain it - HE contacts you, you respond. Then a few days pass, HE contacts you, you respond. If that is how it usually goes... In all fairness, if I hadn't heard from you at all since Friday, I'd probably be wondering if I wasn't being blown off!
Am I missing something - it took him 24 hours to respond to your text yet you've taken days and you think he's rude/wrong - whatever? And it takes a few SECONDS to send a text - I'm busy, I'll be in touch as soon as I can. I'm busy, will be a few days before I can respond.
I never said I thought he was rude. I said I was annoyed because he is texting/calling every day.
And I fully admit I was rude by not texting him yesterday.
Am I missing something - it took him 24 hours to respond to your text yet you've taken days and you think he's rude/wrong - whatever? And it takes a few SECONDS to send a text - I'm busy, I'll be in touch as soon as I can. I'm busy, will be a few days before I can respond.
Agreed. IMO I think you are being rude. If you're interested, at least send him a quick text back. If not, let him know. He's probably wondering what the hell happened to you, since you were interested and then all of a sudden vanished. It seriously takes a half a second to send a text.. being busy is no excuse.
But what did his text Sunday say? And his call yesterday? If those were just general "hey, how you doing" and this is the first "poke", I wouldn't be annoyed.
The way you explain it - HE contacts you, you respond. Then a few days pass, HE contacts you, you respond. If that is how it usually goes... In all fairness, if I hadn't heard from you at all since Friday, I'd probably be wondering if I wasn't being blown off!
Very good point. And yes, his other texts weren't "pokes".
Okay: Bully is in the wrong and is being rude.
/gavel.
I will take the stick out of my ass and I will text him back. Thanks, ladies.
You're behaving like all the guys on here who we say are so rude for not telling us they just aren't that into us. Sure he's following up more than my pride would allow me to, but geeze you're being VERY rude. It sounds like you just aren't into him, so tell him that and save everyone some time.
Agreed. IMO I think you are being rude. If you're interested, at least send him a quick text back. If not, let him know. He's probably wondering what the hell happened to you, since you were interested and then all of a sudden vanished. It seriously takes a half a second to send a text.. being busy is no excuse.
I agree... you could have easily sent a quick text in the time it took to write all these posts about it.
Redvelvet for the win!
And I just texted him to say apologize and say I was MIA due to being ill/busy.