OKC-Is this what its like???

[emma245]

At least I posted a profile at my friends' coaxing on OKC. Im totally not into dating seriously but want to casually date. I emailed 2 guys and neither responded but Im getting all kinds of creeches emailing me with absolutely nothing genuine ("I dont know if you are real but I hope you are" type stuff). I think I may quit after 1 day on it. So much for my adventure in online dating............

[Deleted]

YES! I'm having the exact same issue. I just started one last night. Although I wouldn't say it's any different from the other sites I was on before.

I figure I'll keep my profile up for a bit and if someone awesome messages me, cool. If not, no harm no foul.

[achase123]

I know it's hard but try not to get discouraged. I just look at it as one more way to possibly meet someone. If you think too much about it will get you down. There are creepers on there I'm sure but there are definitely a lot IRL too! Just stay positive and lighthearted as best you can.

[bullygirl979]

LMAO!!! A day?! Give it time! (and yes, I mean that nicely! I am not being snarky)

Yes, there are creepers on there but there are also some good ones.

Didn't you recently break up with your SO?

[emma245]

Yep I did. About a month ago. I was totally wishy washy about the relationship for a while so I feel like I had checked out in around May-June.

I dont think casual dating would hurt but Im not looking to get into a serious relationship. I talked to my therapist and she thinks it would actually be good for me to casually date because Ive NEVER done it.

I just want to know there is some talent out there......

[emma245]

Sept 18, 2012 13:38:27 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

YES! I'm having the exact same issue. I just started one last night. Although I wouldn't say it's any different from the other sites I was on before.

I figure I'll keep my profile up for a bit and if someone awesome messages me, cool. If not, no harm no foul.

Thats what I figure......PS are you still in for Portland plans? Im still coming up next weekend!

[achase123]

Sept 18, 2012 13:46:08 GMT -5 emma245 said:

Yep I did. About a month ago. I was totally wishy washy about the relationship for a while so I feel like I had checked out in around May-June.

I dont think casual dating would hurt but Im not looking to get into a serious relationship. I talked to my therapist and she thinks it would actually be good for me to casually date because Ive NEVER done it.

I just want to know there is some talent out there......

I think a good reminder is something I always tell myself because (as most of you know) I've been casually dating for about three years now and have kissed a ton of frogs. It gets discouraging but what I tell myself is "there's only going to be one in the end anyways". It makes me realize that no matter if someone is really awful, mediocre, or pretty good, it really doesn't matter. Only the BEST one will be the person I wind up with in the long run, kwim?

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Sept 18, 2012 13:46:47 GMT -5 emma245 said:

Sept 18, 2012 13:38:27 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

YES! I'm having the exact same issue. I just started one last night. Although I wouldn't say it's any different from the other sites I was on before.

I figure I'll keep my profile up for a bit and if someone awesome messages me, cool. If not, no harm no foul.

Thats what I figure......PS are you still in for Portland plans? Im still coming up next weekend!

Of course!

[leahmel]

There are creepers on every dating site, especially the free ones. I had to deal with a LOT of them before I met my current bf on POF. My friend who is getting married in NOvember met her fiance on OKC after dating there for a year. Hang in there and try not to take it too seriously.

[turtle1120]

Sept 18, 2012 13:54:12 GMT -5 leahmel said:

There are creepers on every dating site, especially the free ones. I had to deal with a LOT of them before I met my current bf on POF. My friend who is getting married in NOvember met her fiance on OKC after dating there for a year. Hang in there and try not to take it too seriously.

A year? That sounds exhausting! So I guess my one week stint about a month ago probably wasn't long enough....

[emma245]

Sept 18, 2012 13:49:40 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

POF has some creepers. Apparently there are also a lot of spambots which is the reason for the "are you real" messages. Give it time. I met some nice people on there.

ETA: Someone told me that for really pretty girls, they often think it's a spambot. You're beautiful, blonde and well endowed so it's not hard for someone to think you're too good to be true

A spambot. Clearly Im not online savvy yet

Thanks for the compliments. I feel better now with these weirdos messaging me.... :heart: :heart:

[chrissie3416]

I was not a fan of OKC....just wasn't meeting guys who were my cup of tea so to speak.
I did match and POF each for awhile as well....you do need to wade through the creepers sadly but I met my current BF on POF and hes awesome (well so far lol). Give it time...be patient and have fun with it! If anything, its entertaining comic relief.

[achase123]

Sept 18, 2012 13:54:12 GMT -5 leahmel said:

There are creepers on every dating site, especially the free ones. I had to deal with a LOT of them before I met my current bf on POF. My friend who is getting married in NOvember met her fiance on OKC after dating there for a year. Hang in there and try not to take it too seriously.

I like this attitude AND I like hearing stories about people who had success with online dating. I'm trying to change my mindset around it too.