almost the end of the week

[mpc]

Nobody has anything to say this week I guess.

Here's something completely non-baby related. My BIL is getting married next weekend. H is a groomsman and was told just to wear a light gray suit. No other instructions. So they'll probably all be a little unmatched, but I guess that's what they're going for or at least ok with. Here's my question. What color shoes would you wear with a light gray suit? I guess we both assumed black, but last night he gets a text saying to wear brown shoes. Other than the last minute annoyance of having to go buy one more thing for him, I was also surprised at the choice. But then just now I searched on pinterest for light gray suit and all the pictures have guys wearing brown shoes. So I guess that's a thing now? I had no idea. huh.

DS is the ring bearer. I bought him a suit on eBay and ordered black dress shoes from target. Bride says she doesn't care what color shoes he wears. So do I stick with the black, or return and try to find brown?

[Mushe]

mpc, that’s pretty annoying! I would have guessed black shoes too, but I know brown is in style more these days. For DS, I’d stick with what you have, since the bride says she’s fine with it.

[Mushe]

It is quiet here! I’ve been crazy busy at work, and some hiring stuff and planning for my leave is making it all more complicated. The attorney I recruited told me she’s leaving to go back to the county level, which I understand (more money at this level; it evens out more if she could have promoted to our next classification at the state). Where she’s going is going to be an awful commute from where she just bought a house, though. I wonder if she’ll find it was worth the pay raise. 🤷‍♀️

I talked to my big boss about taking the 8 weeks I’ll be on disability, then easing back a few days a week. I did that with DS too, but from home. I know that the world will still turn while I’m out, but I just don’t feel okay being away full time longer than that.

[thoseareradishes]

mpc, I'd just put him in the shoes you have.

I took E to music class for the first time today. She seemed to like it! It didn't end until 10:30 though, and her nap usually starts at 10. It's so hard to find things to take her to that work with her sleeping and eating schedule. Also, she finally started babbling - babababa! It's so stinkin' cute.

[shauni27]

mpc, funny--I instantly went with brown shoes in my mind because that is all I see--grey suits with nice brown dress shoes. We also have a wedding in a week that all three of us are in (my sister's wedding) and I am so excited. S and G have matching outfits (slim fit khakis with suspenders and a bow tie that matches my dress) and they are going to be freaking adorable.

S walked yesterday independently! He has been cruising around the house with his push cart or along the walls and furniture, but yesterday at 3 separate times he took 2 independent steps. He is also SO funny with the repeating stuff right now, lol. Uh-oh is his favorite, followed by "hiiiiii" and then of course if we clap he claps. It's the best and I am obsessed with him, lol.

[ivy]

mpc, my H is in a similar situation. His brother is getting married next month, and it took continual hounding by my H to figure out what they're wearing. BIL finally said something about a gray suit. So I emailed the bride for more details so we have time to go buy a suit if we have to (shade of gray? are they matching? Ties? Vests? details!), and she was completely unhelpful. Like, she told her fiance that maybe he and H (the only groomsman) should wear gray suits and wasn't planning on being more involved than that.

We're 6 weeks out. Nothing is planned. You need to be more involved. I love my husband and his family, but I feel like I need to sit down with her and impart my knowledge on being married into this family for 10 years. They are wonderful, but not ever in a million years can you tell one of them that maybe they should wear a gray suit for their wedding and expect them to be able to run with it. There is a reason I had to email you about this! And now maybe I need to ask about shoes too, because I would've assumed black too.

If I were you, I would get DS brown shoes but be really annoyed about it.

[ivy]

My remaining 9 eggs are being defrosted tomorrow (annoying backstory about why they weren't fertilized 3 years ago somewhere in my recent posts), and H is dropping off his part of the deal first thing in the morning. I am a ball of nerves. How many eggs will defrost? How many will fertilize? How many will we end up with? I would like to go to sleep and wake up in two weeks for my beta. And hopefully never have to think about this again. I wish I had some amount of chill right now and was calm and collected (I usually am!), but that is not happening right now.

[shauni27]

ivy , maybe it is a super casual wedding?? Weird though that she is not involved in any of it. That is very odd to me, lol. And good luck with your 2WW!! stressful for sure.

also, I keep giggling that you are all picturing grey suits with black shoes. Brown shoes is ALL I ever see anymore! (the middle picture is what the guys in my sister's wedding will be wearing but with all different bow ties)

[loira]

mpc , my H wore a light grey suit with brown shoes at our wedding. But black works too.

Sorry I've not been posting a ton. Can't believe H is taking up my precious time hanging out online!

Last night A informed me that she was in charge, so I think we may have entered the terrible threes a bit early. I told her I was proud she had leadership skills, but that her father and I were not crying out for leadership and she needed to stage a coup elsewhere. Does anyone else talk to their kids like this? No? Just me? haha

[cactuscookie]

I love the brown shoes with the grey suits, but when I googled, I saw a lot of black shoes too.

I've been single-parenting since Monday, and...it didn't go well. I'm kind of disappointed that we didn't get along better. I don't know if H was acting worse, or if I had less patience because I didn't have DH around to relieve me once in a while, or if DH often ends up dealing with most of the annoying 2YO BS.

Like washing hands before dinner. Just...go to the bathroom and wash your hands. Don't fuss about how you don't want dinner, don't stop to play with every toy along the way, don't have a tantrum. Just walk the ten steps to the bathroom and wash your hands. And don't rub your soapy hands all over the sink, that's gross.

The same with getting dressed for daycare, and then every. single. step. of bedtime. Stalling to get undressed for the bath, stalling to get into the bath, stalling to put pajamas on, stalling to get books to read, omg. Just do the thing without me having to get you back on track ten times.

Thank god DH will be back this afternoon. Also we're going on a weeklong vacation tomorrow, which is obviously good, but...I might miss daycare. Hopefully I can pawn H off on her grandparents/aunts/uncles.

[shauni27]

Jun 14, 2018 13:12:12 GMT -5 loira said:

mpc , my H wore a light grey suit with brown shoes at our wedding. But black works too.

Sorry I've not been posting a ton. Can't believe H is taking up my precious time hanging out online!

Last night A informed me that she was in charge, so I think we may have entered the terrible threes a bit early. I told her I was proud she had leadership skills, but that her father and I were not crying out for leadership and she needed to stage a coup elsewhere. Does anyone else talk to their kids like this? No? Just me? haha

lol

[pooh8402]

mpc, my H and his groomsmen wore light gray suits with black shoes at our wedding. *shrug*

loira, that's awesome.

cactuscookie, same here. I have so little patience for toddler shenanigans and hate when he goes out of town. DH is surprisingly really good at this stage. He has more patience than me and the ability to make things fun.

I barely ever post here anymore. Although I read a lot. My baby will be 3 next month, so no longer a baby I guess. Hoping I will be a TTTC grad again soon.

[loira]

cactuscookie, probably it's a combination of things. I don't have a ton of patience either, plus A seems so "big kid" already in a lot of ways that I forget she's just 2.5. I like to make up little songs about what she's supposed to be doing, which seem to help when she's getting sidetracked. But mostly I feel your pain. It sucks to do it all, especially at the end of the day when you feel done with parenting.

[ivy]

I could’ve written that cactuscookie. It’s a tough age and I hate feeling like I’m always losing patience with DD (I mean, I guess she’s doing her best?). It’s even harder on your own. Let’s cut ourselves some slack, it’s not going to go perfectly smooth all the time!

[mpc]

lol shauni27, I totally believe you that this is pretty normal, I just am completely out of the loop on these things.

thoseareradishes, what kind of music class? We've been doing Music Together for a while and I'm a big fan.

[shauni27]

mpc, had you asked me 3 years ago, before I started working exclusively with (well dressed) men, I would have said black shoes, lol.

[pandora89]

mpc - my mind would have immediately thought brown shoes but only because brown dress shoes are super trendy right now. My H is in his friends wedding and he was told the same thing (where whatever blue suit you have). The bridesmaids are all wearing different colour and style dresses so mix matched is the look they are going for. H and the other groomsmen wanted to go out and get matching suits but I told H that’s probably not the best idea because it’ll look weird if the groomsmen were all dresses the same and the bridesmaids weren’t.

ivy - thinking of you! Hopefully you have a great fert report.

Mastitis is gone and I am feeling so much better. We saw multiple lactation consultants about his latch and basically he is a lazy eater with a slight posterior tongue tie. I’m still pumping but am not as miserable anymore now that I told myself I don’t need to go for any specific amount of time and I can stop whenever I’m over it. E is 6 weeks on Monday so I’m going to try go to 2 months and I’ll have about 2 months frozen then and will re-evaluate then. I’ve also been making an effort to get out of the house which is definitely helping with my sanity.

H and I are planning a trip out west to BC (Vancouver, Victoria Island, and Okanagan County) for end of July/beginning of August with another couple and their baby. Hopefully travelling with a 3 month old won’t be awful lol. It also corresponds with our 5th anniversary!

[loira]

pandora89, what? How exciting! Want to meet up for a coffee? Are you guys flying out? Flying with an infant is honestly super easy as far as the baby goes. It's mostly all the gear that makes it annoying.

[pandora89]

Jun 15, 2018 15:56:57 GMT -5 loira said:

pandora89, what? How exciting! Want to meet up for a coffee? Are you guys flying out? Flying with an infant is honestly super easy as far as the baby goes. It's mostly all the gear that makes it annoying.

Yes, for sure! I was going to suggest the same. We are finalizing days this weekend but our first leg of the trip will be in Victoria Island (we will be staying with H’s bff for the first weekend I believe while our friends are going to stay with a friend of theirs in Surrey, then we will meet up again). I’ll let you know what days once we know for sure!

How much gear we have to bring is giving me anxiety. I already bought a travel stroller because our bugaboo is way too bulky to take on a trip. I am hoping we don’t have to buy much else for him. Lol

ETA - yes definitely flying. Will not attempt that drive with 2 under 1 lol.

[loira]

pandora89, awesome! If you're flying into Victoria and need anything, I probably have some stuff like a playpen or bassinet, plus maybe an infant carseat (gotta check the expiry date) I can give you. A is way too big for all of it now, and you could just take it on your trip (assuming you'd drive the rest of the way to the Okanagan) and leave it at the other end. I don't need it back. PM me once you've got dates worked out and tell me what you might need.

[thoseareradishes]

Jun 15, 2018 12:02:43 GMT -5 mpc said:

lol shauni27 , I totally believe you that this is pretty normal, I just am completely out of the loop on these things.

thoseareradishes , what kind of music class? We've been doing Music Together for a while and I'm a big fan.

Just a regular sing, dance, play toy instruments class, for ages 0-5.  It was only $7, which I liked because so many of the music classes are $$$!

[grover]

We had our first tot-nastics today. It was a little above A's skill set right now, but she ejoyed playing with the other kids.


I'm on CD22, and once CD1 hits, we start cycling with the RE again. Starting with IUI. I'm starting to feel all the feels again.

[Mushe]

cactuscookie, dealing with kid shenanigans on your own is exhausting! I have to admit that my DS at 6 still tries that stuff! Lol. We call him Sir Stalls a Lot.

pandora89, have a great trip! We took DS to Maui at 3 months, and it was so super easy.

[shauni27]

pandora89, I will echo everything else--the travel was pretty easy, it was just not a relaxing trip, you know? I think there have been some threads on other boards about tricks with traveling with an infant that I posted in--people had really good tips!

Just give yourself A LOT of extra time lol.