40th birthday trip for DH

[pooh8402]

DH turns 40 in November, and he wants to take a trip. We have to delay it to January since I'm in school, looking at first week of January.

We're planning to bring our 3 yo son, and I'll be about 30 weeks pregnant. We're inviting friends and family to join us, but they'll be responsible for making their own travel plans. His BFF (and SO) and his brother (and family) have already committed to going with us wherever we decide.

DH REALLY wants Jackson Hole. I told him that I would feel left out on a ski vacation. I like skiing but I'm not good at all, I stick to the bunny slopes. Definitely will not be doing so in third tri. I feel like on a ski trip, I would be stuck at the lodge every day with our 3 yo. (Not to mention that very little of my good winter clothes will fit)

What is there to do in Jackson Hole for someone in late pregnancy with a young child?

I suggested New Orleans, but he's pretty stuck on a ski trip, so I want to make that happen. He'll do something else but I can tell he's not excited about anything else.


ETA: I did suggest he do the skiing as a boys' trip, and we have another celebration around his birthday closer to home with more people. He's considering it.

[badgergrl]

I would try to go someplace that has a kids club for your 3 year old.

[erbear]

I mean, it's his birthday. If he wants a ski trip, I'd probably make a ski trip happen, even if it wouldn't be that fun for me (I would consider leaving my 3 year old behind though...).

If it was just a family vacation, I'd feel differently.

[ribollita]

I’d send him skiing. There’s very few/no trips that would be fun for me at 30w
Not to mention with a 3yo.

[mrsukyankee]

I'd probably just send my H on his birthday ski trip with friends and stay home. Cause if I couldn't do anything, including drink, I'd be pissed off the entire trip and that would not be fun for him or me.

[jinkies]

I agree with others-- send him with friends. He will be skiing all day, not hanging out with the family, and it doesn't sound like there is much of interest for you or the 3 year old.

[emilyinchile]

I don't know about Jackson Hole, but thinking of Tahoe-area ski resorts there are several with good villages where you could sit by a cozy fire with a book, have yummy lunch, go to a spa and shop without having to leave the resort. Or you could just rent a nice house and enjoy being cozy there, although those things would be more fun if someone else on the trip is also hanging out and not going on the slopes and/or if you had childcare. Otherwise ditto the suggestion that your H make this a boys trip.

[sometimesrunner]

Do you have any interest in leaving your DS at home? I think it's be fun to go to the spa, shop, and just relax for a few days while your H skis.

[pooh8402]

Aug 20, 2018 10:12:31 GMT -5 sometimesrunner said:

Do you have any interest in leaving your DS at home? I think it's be fun to go to the spa, shop, and just relax for a few days while your H skis.

I do, DH does not. He is very family oriented and wants his whole family with him to celebrate his birthday (us, his parents, his brother, etc).

[goldengirlz]

Is the 3-year-old old enough for ski school? That would give you some alone time at least.

There will be things to do for non-skiers (I don’t ski but H does) but whether you’ll be happy being “left behind” the entire time depends on you. The activities include things like riding the gondola, shopping, getting a massage, checking out the art, etc. Maybe even snowshoeing. That may just the ticket for someone hugely pregnant ... or you may be bored. Just depends on you and your interests.

[mrsukyankee]

Aug 20, 2018 10:23:05 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

Aug 20, 2018 10:12:31 GMT -5 sometimesrunner said:

Do you have any interest in leaving your DS at home? I think it's be fun to go to the spa, shop, and just relax for a few days while your H skis.

I do, DH does not. He is very family oriented and wants his whole family with him to celebrate his birthday (us, his parents, his brother, etc).

Then he should choose something that the entire family can be involved in and happy. Will his parents want/be able to ski? Will you get utterly bored (cause I love me time but if everyone else is doing something and I'm sitting at home reading, I'm going to be upset - cause the discussion will most likely focus on the day's skiing so you'll get left out with that too).

I'll be honest, I don't get why he wants to force this when you are pregnant and don't ski, especially if he wants it to be a family thing.

[ESF]

Aug 20, 2018 12:36:24 GMT -5 mrsukyankee said:

Aug 20, 2018 10:23:05 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

I do, DH does not. He is very family oriented and wants his whole family with him to celebrate his birthday (us, his parents, his brother, etc).

Then he should choose something that the entire family can be involved in and happy. Will his parents want/be able to ski? Will you get utterly bored (cause I love me time but if everyone else is doing something and I'm sitting at home reading, I'm going to be upset - cause the discussion will most likely focus on the day's skiing so you'll get left out with that too).

I'll be honest, I don't get why he wants to force this when you are pregnant and don't ski, especially if he wants it to be a family thing.

I agree. I mean, sure it's his birthday. But come on. His birthday means he can choose a family vacation or a him-centric vacation, not that he can demand you be inconvenienced and bored and play nanny for a week. I'd give him three options: you stay home with the kid, the kid stays home, or he chooses something different. Those are all completely reasonable requests.

[pooh8402]

I didn't mean for this to devolve into a bashing of my H. I really want him to be happy and was looking for a way for that to happen. He did not have an awesome 30th, and I did. I do want to give him a really great birthday.

It seems that yall have come to the same conclusion that we came to over the weekend: making everyone happy cannot happen. So it has been decided that he will do a boys' trip to go ski, and we will have a family celebration in state over a long weekend (looking like Horseshoe Bay Resort or Lost Pines).

[ESF]

Aug 20, 2018 13:43:21 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

I didn't mean for this to devolve into a bashing of my H. I really want him to be happy and was looking for a way for that to happen. He did not have an awesome 30th, and I did. I do want to give him a really great birthday.

It seems that yall have come to the same conclusion that we came to over the weekend: making everyone happy cannot happen. So it has been decided that he will do a boys' trip to go ski, and we will have a family celebration in state over a long weekend (looking like Horseshoe Bay Resort or Lost Pines).

I don't think anyone was trying to bash him, but it did seem you were put in a challenging spot.

I'm glad you guys came up with a solution that works for everyone!

[mrsukyankee]

Same - I'm glad you came up with a good solution!

[sometimesrunner]

Aug 20, 2018 10:23:05 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

Aug 20, 2018 10:12:31 GMT -5 sometimesrunner said:

Do you have any interest in leaving your DS at home? I think it's be fun to go to the spa, shop, and just relax for a few days while your H skis.

I do, DH does not. He is very family oriented and wants his whole family with him to celebrate his birthday (us, his parents, his brother, etc).

That's both sweet and a little annoying. Are his parents skiers? Any chance you get a break if they're around? I would at least sneak away for a massage. 

[pooh8402]

Aug 21, 2018 10:27:07 GMT -5 sometimesrunner said:

Aug 20, 2018 10:23:05 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

I do, DH does not. He is very family oriented and wants his whole family with him to celebrate his birthday (us, his parents, his brother, etc).

That's both sweet and a little annoying. Are his parents skiers? Any chance you get a break if they're around? I would at least sneak away for a massage. 

Sweet and a little annoying is exactly right. Haha.