It's all been covered, but man, I'm sad that I'm apparently alone in loving handmade gifts. Even if they're NMS I use the hell out of them because I love, love that someone took the time to do it.
However, in the future, I'll be careful not to GIVE handmade gifts, lol, since it seems they're almost universally hated.
I do too. I have two crocheted blankets that were wedding gifts that are used daily. My favorite was actually given to us by my husbands ex-MIL who also made a baby blanket for DS.
I might be asking her to teach me this fall/winter I want more blankets haha.
Post by mariafromnj on Aug 26, 2018 20:15:22 GMT -5
I can't believe this is a 10 page post about quilts. I have no attachment to any kind of blanket, handmade or not. I agree with no homemade gifts and sticking to the registry.
You have been told enough times but just in case... NO, do not ask for your quilt back. Start one now for your daughter, even if it takes a few years to finish it, she will be the person that keeps it and treasures it. Make something special for her. Don't take back a gift from someone else for your daughter,
If I had a homemade quilt, I'd probably use it to keep my carpet covered right now as DS has been crawling around. Instead we've been using fake quilts from Boscovs. I keep the carpet covered in an attempt to save it from baby vomit, but that doesn't always work.
I'm not a fan of homemade gifts either, but I am repurposing 2 thick homemade blankets given to DD to keep the ledge of the sliding door covered in an attempt to protect my wobbly crawler. I don't even remember who gave her the blue one.
I only own 1 homemade quilt and it has only ever been used to protect the carpet from baby vomit when DS was learning to crawl. LOL
This is actually a good reminder that I don’t this I have washed it since then so I will definitely do that this week.
I can't believe this is a 10 page post about quilts. I have no attachment to any kind of blanket, handmade or not. I agree with no homemade gifts and sticking to the registry.
Oh I have a ton. I have a really weird love of blankets. My husband teases me about it and how I’ve apparently passed it on to both girls. My favorite childhood blanket - handmade with vintage (well it was original then) Care Bear fabric with hand sewn pulls - is currently covering my Caroline aka “Care Bear” as she sleeps. My Grandma made it.
One of my favorite gifted gifts for dd1 was a knitted blanket. I crochet so it was nice to have something in a different style than what I could make. But I love, love, love homemade gifts.
Yes, I’ve sewn a quilt and gifted it to my SIL for my niece/goddaughter. But she loved it. It was a surprise but she always used it and it’s in a ton of photos and three years later in regular use. I made it using my MOH dress from their wedding. Now niece will always have a part of her parents’ history just for her own keepsake. And as a bonus, it got so much traction I started taking orders for these types of simple baby quilts.
Final side tangent to keep the quilt drama from being (boxed up and) shelved, I know I am not dreaming up threads back in the day on the knot of people getting ripped a new one because they were posting their frustration that Aunt Marge made a quilt instead of buying the Mikasa serving platter and that they should just stfu and be thankful for the damn gift because nobody owes you a gift for getting married. Holy long sentence. I’m too tired to go shorten it plus I’m eating ice cream cake and that’s more important.
You are going to ask for it back eh? Well if you are going to ignore most of the advice given here, PLEASE take @angryharpy advice and record that shit. Imma need you to Omarosa the shit out of this exchange, and post it here.
I can't believe I hadn't thought to make Omarosa into a verb before now. DYING.
I know, Omarosa as a verb is my favorite part of this whole thread. And that’s really saying something because I have received immeasurable entertainment value from this.
Oh and to add my 2 cents, if you don't care how she reacts (and subsequently bitches about you to your whole circle), by all means ask her. But at least be upfront about it. I'd gladly give back the quilt we were given for our wedding, it's been in the attic 13 years.
I also would be happy to get rid of some quilt sitting in my basement that I don’t use. But I would also seriously judge a “friend” that is keeping track of their wedding gift and asks for it back when I’m going through a divorce. It can be both.
Physically, yes. In so many other ways, no. Let’s just say the marriage broke up over his $1000+/month porn addiction. Which still boggles the mind. You can get access to a shocking quantity of porn for free.
Hopefully, we're done with the quilt talk. Let's focus on this. How the hell? Was it an Ashley Madison thing or is he the only person on the planet paying for regular porn?
Physically, yes. In so many other ways, no. Let’s just say the marriage broke up over his $1000+/month porn addiction. Which still boggles the mind. You can get access to a shocking quantity of porn for free.
Hopefully, we're done with the quilt talk. Let's focus on this. How the hell? Was it an Ashley Madison thing or is he the only person on the planet paying for regular porn?
Apparently he was in a Bad Moms type situation and was “helping” a cam girl to save enough money to leave a bad relationship. That was the attempt at spin.
Hopefully, we're done with the quilt talk. Let's focus on this. How the hell? Was it an Ashley Madison thing or is he the only person on the planet paying for regular porn?
Apparently he was in a Bad Moms type situation and was “helping” a cam girl to save enough money to leave a bad relationship. That was the attempt at spin.
I appreciate you responding with the details! My gosh. Do you know if he's still "seeing" her? Is someone trying to talk sense into him?
Apparently he was in a Bad Moms type situation and was “helping” a cam girl to save enough money to leave a bad relationship. That was the attempt at spin.
I appreciate you responding with the details! My gosh. Do you know if he's still "seeing" her? Is someone trying to talk sense into him?
No contact whatsoever, and that is probably for the best. He was a weirdo. Later on in the divorce process it was discovered that he had probably been doing this throughout their 5 year relationship since she discovered that he made about $15k more a year than he told her, and yet had significant debts (which could not be attributed to his other spending). Good riddance and all that.
If you want to be sure you are watching ethically produced porn, you are going to have to pay for it. I mean, it wasn't the case with this guy, but, there are somewhat valid reasons to pay for porn even with the quantity of shit that is available for free.
I’m shocked at how many people store stuff they don’t want and never use for years on end. Maybe you have more room than I do, lol.
Considering the amount of papers I have unearthed at my mom's house, I don't get it. She moved a basket of odds and ends and just packed it away the deep corner of an eave for 15+ years. Why??
I’m shocked at how many people store stuff they don’t want and never use for years on end. Maybe you have more room than I do, lol.
Considering the amount of papers I have unearthed at my mom's house, I don't get it. She moved a basket of odds and ends and just packed it away the deep corner of an eave for 15+ years. Why??
When we cleaned out my moms house after she died we found boxes and boxes of 20+ year old utility bills that she moved into her new house. Like, why mom? Why?
Ooooh-- have we moved on to stories about storing random shit for years on end?
Because we have a guy at work whose job gives him access to all the random corners of our building.
A while ago, upon clearing out a long-unused office to make room for new employees, we discovered piles of crap from his home that he had brought to work to store. And not even store neatly. Just random bathing suits thrown on top of home decor and an old tv. It was weird, but at the time we thought we had found his storage area and cleaned it out.
Then a couple months ago we had to clear out another storage area. We found more of his stuff, including a bag full of his mail addressed to his home address, years old and all unopened. Someone put it in his office. It is still there, in a big shopping bag under his desk.
Considering the amount of papers I have unearthed at my mom's house, I don't get it. She moved a basket of odds and ends and just packed it away the deep corner of an eave for 15+ years. Why??
When we cleaned out my moms house after she died we found boxes and boxes of 20+ year old utility bills that she moved into her new house. Like, why mom? Why?
Yes! There tax return forms from 1994 from a trust that my sister and I have since received. Why hold onto that shit?
This has inspired me. I am going to go through my house, focusing on one room at a time; cleaning out the clutter and deep cleaning and I am going to get things in shape. My linen closet needs a lot of work.
I’m shocked at how many people store stuff they don’t want and never use for years on end. Maybe you have more room than I do, lol.
Considering the amount of papers I have unearthed at my mom's house, I don't get it. She moved a basket of odds and ends and just packed it away the deep corner of an eave for 15+ years. Why??
I've been cleaning out my dad's house for a few weeks and it's endless. We finally had him sit down and pack the few important papers he needs. There's legit stuff from 20 years ago. If I ever get my life back I need to dig through our papers and throw out things that aren't old taxes. I keep every retirement statement but it's like eventually I can throw out old ones and move on so I don't end up like this in 30 years.
I think people just get used to taking everything from the spare room or basement to move it to the next place because you know it serves "some purpose" instead of going through it. Over the years it just keeps building up and there's nothing worse than using free time to clean out that crap.
Considering the amount of papers I have unearthed at my mom's house, I don't get it. She moved a basket of odds and ends and just packed it away the deep corner of an eave for 15+ years. Why??
I've been cleaning out my dad's house for a few weeks and it's endless. We finally had him sit down and pack the few important papers he needs. There's legit stuff from 20 years ago. If I ever get my life back I need to dig through our papers and throw out things that aren't old taxes. I keep every retirement statement but it's like eventually I can throw out old ones and move on so I don't end up like this in 30 years.
I think people just get used to taking everything from the spare room or basement to move it to the next place because you know it serves "some purpose" instead of going through it. Over the years it just keeps building up and there's nothing worse than using free time to clean out that crap.
Yes and my mom was not really helpful in terms of going through things. Like I asked her to go through and just clear out the vanity in the bathroom, which from the last time I had seen it looked mostly full of things she does not use anymore. She told me she got it done. i went back and there was still tons of stuff there which was mostly trash. So, now i am just clearing it all out. I get it, i can be a pack rat too. I found a stash of my old Archie comic books.
I've been cleaning out my dad's house for a few weeks and it's endless. We finally had him sit down and pack the few important papers he needs. There's legit stuff from 20 years ago. If I ever get my life back I need to dig through our papers and throw out things that aren't old taxes. I keep every retirement statement but it's like eventually I can throw out old ones and move on so I don't end up like this in 30 years.
I think people just get used to taking everything from the spare room or basement to move it to the next place because you know it serves "some purpose" instead of going through it. Over the years it just keeps building up and there's nothing worse than using free time to clean out that crap.
Yes and my mom was not really helpful in terms of going through things. Like I asked her to go through and just clear out the vanity in the bathroom, which from the last time I had seen it looked mostly full of things she does not use anymore. She told me she got it done. i went back and there was still tons of stuff there which was mostly trash. So, now i am just clearing it all out. I get it, i can be a pack rat too. I found a stash of my old Archie comic books.
yes it's worse when you have to clean up EVEN MORE than when you started because they can't do two piles. DH did have to do a ton of clean out when we re-did our basement because I want to save everything for emotional purposes. I just feel like an a$$ I did a LOT of yelling this weekend because we're going on at least a month of this. Thank goodness we finally got a dump sticker, but my DH had to do 6 dump runs and we're not done. Dear goodness when DH's/my IL's need to move again their other 3 kids can do it lol, only kind of not kidding.
I loved Archie comics. I found a rare Barbie comic too but it was so worn I don't think I could sell it. Pictures get me too. Even just trying to save a "few" you lose time because you have to look at every.single.one then go back to that memory.