How much dramaz is in your family?

[puppydoggie]

Who has issues with who? My family has to be abnormal.
Is anyone not talking?

[ssmjlm]

My family is minimal drama. DH's family has a lot of drama.

I don't think drama is normal/abnormal, but sometimes the IL's remind me too much of Jerry Springer.

[lindyanne]

My sister avoids talking to my mom as much as possible. There's just nothing interesting to talk about and my mom always tries to push stupid stuff on us that we don't agree with.

My ILs have more drama than we do. One of DH's nieces has five kids. She's 25 (?). Oldest is 9. Youngest is 1.5 or 2. The oldest is with his dad. The middle three got taken away and she gave up her rights to them and they got adopted by the foster family. Then she decided to have another. Ridic. She's also got dentures already and basically drinks and does drugs a lot. I haven't seen her for a year and a half and the only reason then was at a funeral. She's not invited to anything anymore and no one talks to her. There was also a weird incident between that girls sister and another young family member and I don't want to go into details but now she's not talking to her mom or the rest of her family anymore except her one cousin. Crazy. Oh and how could I forget. Other niece met her husband through a prison outreach program at church (which I didn't know until recently). They seemed to basically have their crap together. Both were working, they had their own house. Got married about two years ago. They had twins in late Jan. In Feb, he was pulled over and had prescription pills that "weren't his" and went back to jail. He'll hopefully be getting out after his hearing next month. I feel so bad for this girl. We didn't even know until like a month ago and they live over an hour away so there's not a ton I can physically do to help. Luckily a friend moved in with her and all the people from the church have been pitching in to help with projects, help with the kids, donating money, etc.

[Deleted]

I think it is abnormal to not have family drama.

Particularly once you start looking at extended families.

[Deleted]

LOL.

We don't speak to my dad's side of the family. My sister is mentally ill but my dad's side - particularly his parents - refuse to acknowledge this. Part of her illness is pathologically lying but my dad's family accepts everything she says as truth and they enable her behavior (tell her to stop taking her medications because she doesn't need them, encourage her victim mentality, encourage her to do things such as sue my parents, file allegations of child abuse against them, etc). I haven't spoken to my sister in two years and anyone in my dad's family in longer than that. It makes us significantly happier as a family to have zero contact.

[Deleted]

My family has minimal drama. We'd be boring if it wasn't for my sister but even she is normal compared to what you're asking about. Even my extended family is cool.

Now DH's side of the family is another story.

[bunch]

Pretty much zero.

I mean, not everyone likes each other, but all are speaking and we ge together regularly.

[pamela]

My family, barely any drama and if certain family groups in the extended family have any, they keep it to themselves. None of this involving everyone and their brother/MIL/etc.

DH's family has some. The biggest being his youngest sister with 2 kids from 2 different dads (was married to one of them), pawning them off on his mom constantly. Sister does the same with buying dogs, not training them, then leaving them at mom's as well. Then DH has a drug-addicted aunt that most everyone in the family is finally getting the message to stop buying things for her or allowing her anywhere near their house because she steals from everyone (including very sick grandma) to support her habits.

[flygirl22]

Not to much really. My immediate family is pretty low drama. We all live in different cities so that probably helps but I don't think there would be anyway. I have a large extended family and we aren't in too much contact to have drama, there has been many sibling tiffs though.

ILs maybe a little bit more, just because of some $$ tension (certain people perpetually "borrowing/loaning" $ while others will not). I wouldn't say their is too much drama though, or, lol, I prefer to block it from my memory.

[dexteroni]

In my immediate family, virtually none. In our extended families, there are a few aunts & uncles who seem to have disagreements amongst themselves, but we aren't involved in any of that. We're friendly with everyone. I am very grateful for my nice family, because we seem to be in the minority.

[shortstax]

I used to think that drama was rare. But once it started in my family, it never stopped.

It's like a damn tidal wave a drama right now, but it's not something I want to share now.

[orangeblossom]

My family there is minimal drama

ILs some drama, but not a lot.

I don't think it's abnormal to have drama. The way I look at it is I can love you be because you're family, but I don't have to like you. There are definitely a few family members that fall into that category. I'm respectful, they're respectful, but would I choose to spend any extra time with them, not really.

[drloretta]

My immediate family has minimal drama. Go one layer out to my cousins and it's a clusterfuck.

DH's family never goes anywhere or does anything, so anything new/different turns into MUD

[Deleted]

I generally do not care for my mom's husband so most of our "drama" stems from that. I wouldn't even call it drama. I just don't like being around him.

[pugz]

none in my family, but dh's extended family is getting more and more dysfunctional. Drug addicted cousin that everyone enables. His grandma is now willingly giving the girl her pain medication, despite the fact that she's been to rehab before. They stop talking to family members that call them on enabling her.

Also another cousin was kidnapped and promptly released last month by a sex offender impersonating a police officer....not drama per se, but craziness nonetheless.

[Pilsy]

Are we allowed to mention husbands/wives/significant others in this thread? It'll be more fun that way, because my immediate family of origin is drama-free, but DH's has plenty! We regularly sit back and watch his sister and mom fight (or not speak), and his brother is a bit of a black sheep and seems to have stories galore, though he lives across the country, so we don't see those first-hand.

[honey987]

My family has several family businesses and there is always some disagreement there, but my immediate family isn't really involved in all that. DH's family is all drama. His parents are divorced and remarried (each for the 3rd time) and they pretend to get along, but most of the time MIL and SMIL are both talking crap on each other. They also both make more than us, but blow it and live pay check to paycheck and expect us to fund them when they can't make their bills. They think we are rolling in money because all our cc's aren't maxed our and we have a reserve fund.

[rubytue]

My dad & step-mom are low drama. ILs are fairly low (just typical IL issues, but those have gotten better since the moved across the country).

My mom? Severely mentally ill. I didn't speak to her for over 10 years and it was the best thing for me. She guilted me into talking again (bc she said she was dying), and it's been hell for 2 months. I am fairly certain her stress caused this Pseudotumor.

[my4girls]

Sept 19, 2012 7:14:10 GMT -5 bunch said:

Pretty much zero.

I mean, not everyone likes each other, but all are speaking and we ge together regularly.

ditto

there is very little drama in my family.

[mrssavy42112]

Both of our families are low drama also. Every once in a while DH argues with his brothers, but they always makeup. I have a second cousin who no one really speaks to anymore because of the way she behaved a few months ago. No one wants the negative energy in their life. That’s about it!

[GailGoldie]

My family is like zero drama... DH's family is drama every minute- mostly b/c his mom and one brother are insane.

[cherry1111]

We are boring on both sides. We both have very small families so that probably really helps. Sure there are things that annoy us about each other but it is nothing so big that we have to call anyone out on it.

[ladybrettashley]

My family is relatively drama-free, but DH's family thrives on drama. MIL is a yeller. When something sets her off, watch out.

BIL is a hot mess. He and baby mama get together, she gets knocked up and has baby. BIL and baby mama decide they hate each other and break up. BIL and baby mama decide they want to make it work. Rinse and repeat. It's sad for their kids.

[lurkergirl123]

My family is completely ridiculous. It would take days to post all the crap, seriously.

DH's family is just as bad or maybe worse.

We generally keep to ourselves.

[Chirp]

There's so damn much drama in my family that I don't know where to begin. There's people not talking to each other all over the place. It's insane.

H's family has quite a bit of drama as well. Most of their drama centers around disabilities and future care. Some of them are not talking to each other. H's sister took off when she turned 18 and lives on the opposite side of the country. H's mom is a wack job, so there's that.

We try to stay out of all the drama. If people try to suck us in, we typically leave. We've toyed with the idea of putting a Swiss flag somewhere in our house. We're neutral dammit!


ETA: Apparently lurkergirl and I are in the same family.

[explorer2001]

Let's see, my uncle assaulted me because I walked in on him pinning my then 7 year old cousin to the floor while she screamed for help. My mom told me it didn't happen and I never told her about it even though I told her when it happened and she told me to shut up and not ruin everyones Thanksgiving. I was underage and could do much.

My brother laughed while his buddy held me at knife point and did nothing to stop it.

My mom says that my exh wouldn't have been an abusive cheating ass if is been a better wife.

I could go on, but I won't. I'm never going to have any control over the crap they pull so I avoid it whenever possible. I have thankfully established a strong support system of friends and other family members. I barely tolerate parts of my family because they are horrible. I adore other parts who are loving, kind, decent human beings.

[rosiedozie]

Very little, honestly.

[gt7301b]

DH's dad doesn't talk to his sister.
DH's mom is uber controlling and there is always some temporary falling out after family gatherings.

My stepfather's sister just started talking to her dad in the past couple of years.
Stepfather's brother had all kinds of mental and physical issues and before he passed, providing for his care caused a great deal of drama.

[chessie]

A lot.
Drunken uncle, beats grandparents.
Siblings having kids hoping to up their welfare $.

Parts of my family I have cut out completely. It sucks but you do what you gotta do. At one point I was fighting for custody for one of their kids. This stage in our life, we are fine without any family. If I could move further away I would. We go away on holidays, limit family events and if any issues, we leave. I can't take the drama anymore, its not worth it. When we have kids, we plan to completely block them.

[winnied]

A lot but considering the size of my extended family, that's not surprising. My mom has 34 first cousins on one side alone. There are bound to be drama llamas in the herd. At the moment, one half of my mom's mom's side isn't speaking to the other half. At least it made my wedding cheaper.