Post by CrazyLucky on Sept 25, 2018 7:09:54 GMT -5
DH and I don't really have separate money, so I'd put it in our bank account and that would be sharing with him, I suppose. No way to sharing with the cousin. That's ridiculous. I agree with everyone who said buy them dinner and drinks.
HELL. NO. Buy everyone a round of drinks and call it good. I wouldn’t even take them to dinner because it sounds like MIL and cousin would be ordering the most expensive shit on the menu just because.
No. Everyone does not get a trophy here simply for being there with you. Buy them a drink or a hoagie and the rest is all yours.
I love you for suggesting a hoagie.
it was my favorite part of the thread, lol.
Also, your MIL is cray. Why would she even suggest it? That is ludicrous.
The money would go into my account with H after I bought all of us a nice dinner and MAYBE paid for all of our hotel rooms, and if I really liked said cousin I might give her $100 fun money. But probably not. And if someone suggested I split it with H and cousin it would make me do the opposite out of spite.
Post by periwinkle on Sept 25, 2018 7:57:00 GMT -5
Yea, hell no to splitting with cousin. H and I share accounts so it would technically be "ours" but he wouldn't expect me to not have some fun with the money I won. As for cousin, nope sorry. And maybe I'm an asshole but I wouldn't be buying everyone dinner either. Round of drinks and that's it.
Post by NewGirlNic on Sept 25, 2018 8:06:39 GMT -5
NO way, it's yours! That is awesome! Congrats!
My mom used to go to the casino with a friend pretty frequently. They had a deal that anything they won, they split. Her friend gambled way more than her though. She was going through a divorce, and the casino was her outlet. She would drag my mom for company so she came up with the deal. Her friend won a large amount once... I think it was about $25K. My mom tried to refuse splitting it, but her friend insisted, since that was their deal.
I can't imagine winning that much and not sharing it with my H, but I wouldn't give your cousin anything. I mean I might treat them both to a nice dinner that night or something like that, but I wouldn't give your cousin cash.
I guess whether your husband deserves some of it or not really depends on your relationship dynamics and what you plan to do with it. If you've been wanting a new car or something else large that is just for you, I think you're within your rights to use it on that. If there isn't anything in particular, I'd probably either spend it on a nice trip for both of us, buy something for our house, save it for our future, etc and that would include H.
I would not give him 6k to blow on random crap, either. Unless maybe I was planning on blowing it on random crap for myself. Then I might share and let us both do that. Ha.
In that case I think you should split it with all of us
j/k no you don't have to share that money. If you feel like buying a round of drinks or picking up a dinner bill then that's a nice gesture, but not necessary.
I would not split the money. I may give a little to H because he's cute, but that money would be for what I want to spend it on. Which would probably be something for the house, so H would get use of it anyways. But the cousin, no.
Besides, you will be responsible for paying taxes on the winnings. MIL should mind her own bidness.
That is awesome and hell to the no you do not need to split with the cousin!! (how you handle your finances with your husband is totally different.) I think treating to a great meal would be very kind! Congrats!
My H would probably take me/us out for dinner to celebrate my win, and wouldn't let me use my winnings to pay if I offered.
I have a small inheritance that I keep trying to use for travel or something special, and even though we share all accounts, he keeps finding ways to leave it untouched by using our other accounts or replenishing that one. He is so weird. Sweet, but still weird. ETA: If H won, he would insist on sharing, even if I pushed him to spend it on himself. He really is weird.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Sept 25, 2018 9:12:09 GMT -5
If cousin paid for my room, I would reimburse that and buy dinner and drinks. If everyone is paying for their own room I would pay for dinner and drinks.
Also, we have a joint account so it'd probably go in there and then I'd do something boring like put it towards our car note....or maybe a vacation and I'd let DH go...lol.
Post by definitelyO on Sept 25, 2018 10:22:00 GMT -5
yeah.. NO! I mean I'm sure that some of it will go toward common household expenses and you'll talk with DH about it - but off the cuff to split 3 ways? ridiculous.
No! DH and I would probably spend the money on something for both of us, but no way would I split 3 ways. If you want to spend it all yourself, go for it! You won it!