DS is 2 years old. Started sleeping through the night randomly around 6 months and consistently at 8 months. He was a VERY bad sleeper before that due to reflux and MSPI. His 4 month sleep regression made me never want to have more kids.
Post by minionkevin on Dec 6, 2018 15:03:27 GMT -5
My 4yo STTN very early and stopped from 8-15m. We moved her to her own room so if she stopped STTN, I had no idea (I didn’t keep a monitor in our room). I was pregnant so f that noise. She gets up maybe once e/o week now for 5 minutes and we silently walk her back to bed. My 2.5 yo STTN once he was in his own room, or again bc I couldn’t hear it, at 8ish months. Now he only wakes up if he’s sick.
I’m a total hard ass though. I need my sleep, they can figure out self-soothing.
DS1 is 3.5 years old and started STTN consistently around 6 months after we CIO. He only woke when teething or sick.
DS2 is 4.5 months. He slept well until 3 months, then it all fell apart. We moved him to sleeping flat, then he started cutting teeth, and now he has a cold and is super congested. It's just one thing after another. If it doesn't improve, we will sleep train around 6 months because I can't do this much longer.
DD is 6 months. She slept through the night from 7 weeks until the 4 month sleep regression and then was up multiple times per night until we sleep trained when she was 5 months. has been sleeping through the night since (unless we are traveling when we throw all of the "rules" out the window)
Yes. Mine started at 10 weeks. As a toddler she'd get up between 9pm and 10pm for 30-60 minutes. We were still awake so we just let her get up and play instead of listening to her scream for an hour. She always went back down easily.
Now that she's 5 she regularly gets up at about 3am and comes into my room to chat. I'm basically like, "WTF? Go back to bed!" She usually does but sometimes chooses to sleep on the floor next to my bed. I don't really care as long as she stops trying to hold a conversation with me.
Post by Queen Mamadala on Dec 6, 2018 15:45:08 GMT -5
Just to preface this, all five of my kids slept/sleep with me/us from birth to 21-23 months, or in the case of dd3, she's 4 and sleeps with us. (this was the norm for me and my sister. we slept with my mom until 5-6.)
Dd1 (14): She started sleeping 10+ hour stretches once she outgrew GERD at 8 months. She transitioned to her bed at 23 months. She whined and cried for 15-20 minutes the first two nights and did fine thereafter. Never had bedtime/sleep issues.
Dd2 (12): Sleep was nonexistent for the first year with her. She was very high needs (SPD and ASD, which I suspected during toddler years). She didn't start sleeping longer stretches until 13ish months, and she transitioned to her own bed in a shared room with dd1 at 22 months. Like with dd1, no issues with bedtime/sleep.
Ds2 (9): Unicorn baby. He started sleeping 5+ hour stretches at 5-6 weeks and 8+ hour stretches by 3 months. He transitioned to his bed/room at 21 months without any issues. That was also the time he weaned.
Dd3 (4): She still nursed a couple times a night at 18+ months. I'd say she cut all night feedings by 2. She sleeps with us. We have a king + twin bed in our room.
Ds3 (10 months): He was sleeping longer stretches until his GER kicked in around 7 weeks, and he went through periods of sleeping 5-6 hour stretches after that, but he's gone back to nursing a few times at night. I don't usually wake up. He just relatches and goes back to sleep.
My older kids slept with me on occasion, when exh was deployed or away for training, until 4-5ish. Never had issues with going back to their own room.
Post by expectantsteelerfan on Dec 6, 2018 15:57:13 GMT -5
Yes. My kids are currently 7 and 9, and I would say they wake me up overnight maybe 2-3x a year, for something that is really wrong, like they are sick and need something or had a super bad dream or something.
They have both been sleeping through the night since they were babies. I did cry it out with both of them. I'm pretty sure they both went through a phase of getting up in the middle of the night to 'test out' what would happen (If I recall correctly, for ds it was right when he transitioned to a bed at 3, and for dd it was later, at 4 or 5), but I was really consistent in not giving in to night-time shenanigans and talking to them during the day about how sleep is important for all of us and that when mommy and daddy can't sleep, it's dangerous for dh who needs to be alert for his job, and makes us all cranky, and threatening consequences if they kept up the unwanted behavior.
They both read in bed before 'lights out' and we need to tell them every night when lights out is (meaning, if I tell ds he can read till 8:45, if I don't go in at 8:45 and say 'lights out' and take his book, he'd keep reading till he literally fell asleep, same with dd).
DS1 (3.5) generally STTN. I would say he wakes up MOTN once a week and that generally requires settling him back down. Lately, he has been waking up around 6 and we're struggling with getting him to abide by his ok to wake clock, which is set for 7.
DS2 (18 months) is more hit or miss. He seems to go in phases. We're in a bad one right now. In fact, he slept with me last night (DH is out of town) because I couldn't get him to stop screaming unless he was laying on top of me. He eventually fell asleep next to me, so we both got some sleep, but he woke up at least one other time MOTN. He can go a couple weeks without waking MOTN and then there are spurts where he is waking multiple times. He still needs to be soothed or given a paci nearly every time he wakes up. Otherwise things escalate quickly.
Yes. 18 month old twins. We have always kept them on the same schedule, and they share a room and sleep straight through each others noise.
We read Precious Little Sleep and started nap and nighttime sleep training around 6ish months. Really it was just about timing their schedule more than anything. We didn’t have any crazy CIO nights because to be honest, they’ve always had to self soothe. It’s hard to rock and snuggle two babies to sleep at once, so I just never did it. Trust me, the mom guilt is still strong with that one lol.
Anyway they held on to their snooze button feed (up to eat at 4:30am and then back down again until like 8:00am or so) until 9 months, and then they finally dropped it on their own and started sleeping 12 hours straight.
Post by carolinagirl831 on Dec 6, 2018 16:39:38 GMT -5
ugh i feel like the answer should be yes... but it's definitely NO and my kids are 3.5 and 5.5
My 3.5 year old wakes me up every night to come and cuddle wit her. She has a full sized bed and i end up sleeping in her bed at some point. Over time i found it easier to just stumble into her bed rather than try and get her to fall back asleep
My 5 year old at least 50% of the time climbs into our bed. She doesn't do anything and sometimes i don't even realize she is there!
I never thought this would be my answer before kids.... but i am PRO SLEEP, so whatever works for everyone to sleep is fine with me at this point. I cannot handle screaming in the middle of the night of a toddler.. ( i acutally did do sleep training with my kids which was fine when they were babies.. but now? forget it. My 3.5 year old has recently had surgery and alot of health issues so I'm completely ok with babying her
Post by sillygoosegirl on Dec 6, 2018 16:41:55 GMT -5
My kid is 4. She gets up to go potty in the night most nights (I think), but she normally doesn't wake us up for that anymore. Sometimes she has a bad dream and wakes us for that, but it's not often.
Some of my favorite advice from 123 Magic was regarding night wakeups. It said if your toddler or older child wakes in the night, assume they need to pee and take them potty, then send them back to bed. Little kids often wake in the night because they need to go, even if they are diapered, but don't realize why they woke up or what to do about it.
-What is your child(ren) age(s) 14 months -Do they sleep through the night? If so how old were they when they regularly started? She is back to STTN most of the time again. She started around 4 months, small regression then back to STTN, then major hellish regression from like 9.5m-12m. Fingers crossed this time lol.
Post by InBetweenDays on Dec 6, 2018 16:43:42 GMT -5
Well my kids are 9 (almost 10) and 12 so they sleep through the night. Every once in awhile they wake up after a bad dream or something, but if they do they generally just come in to our room and get in bed with us.
But I will say both my kids were waking up every 45 to 90 minutes when they were 6 months old. DD finally slept through the night around 7.5 months after we let her cry for only 10 minutes. DS slept through starting around 10 months (again, after we let him cry but it took longer for DS).
5 year old: has consistently slept through since around 4 months with the exception of growth spurts and ear infections the first year 3.5 year old: started sttn around 4 months, same as his big sister. Went through a phase around 2-3 where sometimes he'd come bother us in the middle of the night, either asking if it was morning or wanting help going potty. He doesn't do this anymore 9 month old: started sttn at around 5 months (I think?), but lately has sttn exactly twice due to being one kind of sick or another for quite a while now (hello fourth ear infection), which leads to poor sleep habits (I rock him back to sleep when he wakes screaming).
3.5 y/o DS still wakes maybe 2/3 times a week and needs to be comforted back to sleep
6 month old DD waking hourly alllll night. No hope in sight!
I highly recommend reading Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems by Ferber. You don't even need to do the progressive waiting that is so famous, just focus on healthy sleep habits and limit setting. It sounds like both of your kids need help falling back asleep and there are probably some things you can do to help them. For example, the drowsy but awake thing is so key for babies. DS2 keeps relearning bad habits while sick, so he then will continue waking motn when he's better if I don't focus specifically on not rocking him all the way to sleep.
Post by starburst604 on Dec 6, 2018 18:02:29 GMT -5
L started STTN around 9 months, before that she usually woke once for a feeding.
Now at 3.5 she’s tougher to get to sleep at bedtime, with all the usual stall tactics but once she’s out she’s out. She occasionally wakes at night and calls for us but if we take her in our bed she goes right back to sleep. I value sleep too much to try and keep her in her room!
And I really hope at least one of your kiddos give you some rest soon! ❤️
Mine are 7, 5, and the babies are 21 months. None of the 4 slept more than a 3 hour stretch until the 1 year mark but all sleep through the night now. Once they turned a year, we stopped messing around and put our foot down about nighttime wake ups (no comforting/attention) unless they’re sick.
No James is almost 5. He didn’t sttn as a baby until 9 months old. Then we had a pretty good run from 9 months to 4 years where he mostly sttn, only waking up once a month or so unless he was sick. Now the little ‘effer gets up every single night, pees and comes into our room. He usually wakes me up because he always comes to my side, never MH’s, and crawls over me to get in between us. I can usually fall back aslee but then he wakes us up at an ungodly hour because he starts kicking as he wakes. So instead of just waking up and going to play, he wakes us up too. I’m pretty sick of it. Darn night time training!
DD1 (4): Started STTN at 4 weeks. Had a sleep regression at 4 months, leading to sleep training at 6 months. Has had a few regressions since then, mostly lasting a few weeks. She's woken up a few times from wetting the bed since we stopped using pull-ups, but otherwise STTN consistently.
DD2 (21 months): Started STTN around 10 months, when we sleep trained. STTN consistently.
My kids are 3, 6, and 10 and have all slept through the night since 2 weeks. Of course they have gone through phases or sickness that causes them to get up occasionally, but I can probably count on two hands the number of nights I was up multiple times.
DS first started "not" calling for me in the night when he was about 4; until then, he'd call for me in the night, and I'd go in and nurse him back to sleep (until he was 2ish), or lay in his bed with him and usually fall back to sleep in his bed (from about age 2 on).
He still occasionally climbs into our bed or calls for me, but it's like a few times a month at most.
Honestly, I dealt with it for so long, and it became so much of a new normal, that I still can't get used to the idea of sleeping the whole night without having to get up to go to him. It sometimes still feels weird. Blissful, but weird.
Post by cabbagecabbage on Dec 6, 2018 19:00:30 GMT -5
My kids, 6 and 2, sleep through the night consistently and both started around 2 years. We bed shared and they nursed through the night until night weaning at 18 and 22 months. They got their own beds shortly after two and made the transition really well. Those first years were so hard on me even when they were going well by all accounts.
3.5yo - Wakes up once/night at least twice a week. Awake for the day at 5. Still takes naps, usually an hour or so.
5.5mo - STTN most nights, save a couple of brief phases here and there so far. Awake for the day around 6, sometimes earlier if he hears brother banging around in the morning.
Post by sunflower17 on Dec 6, 2018 19:29:22 GMT -5
Dd is 10 months and for the most part she started STTN pretty regularly a month ago. But she still will wake me sometimes chatting in her crib for an hour 🙄. She was a pretty terrible sleeper up until now. Waking up 1-2 times a night for bottles. As a newborn she was up every 2-3 hours at least and she was colicky. It sucked so bad. I’m sorry. I hope there’s rest in sight.
I’m really sorry, that sounds miserable! My son has STTN since 5m. Except for a 4 day stretch around 3.5m where he was up 3-4x a night, he had 2 wakings from birth to 2m, then one waking from 2m to 5m. He never wakes during the night. We did not do a formal ST, just focused on good sleep habits. He’s overall a very easy kid.
DS is 16 months and was mostly STTN at 10-11 months. I tried sleep training earlier but he wasn’t ready and it was a total failure. We’ve had regressions (and I fully expect more in the future), but I think he’s been pretty consistent since 10-11 months. Prior to that he was up every 2.5-3 hours. He still doesn’t nap more than 45 mins-1 hour during the day.
I’m so sorry you’re having sleep issues. I can’t imagine how exhausted you must be. Can your H handle any wake ups?