S/O bad things you have changed?

[stephbfan]

I was just thinking about this while reading Liubots posts. How likely is it for someone to change?

Things I have changed:
My low self esteem: I have been overweight my whole life and always thought that I was gross and that no one would want to date me (thanks to my mom for that). I'm still overweight (trying to lose the last 20lbs now) but I am way more confident now that I was in my early 20's and because of that I think I look way better than when I was younger.

I used to be very shy, now I can talk to pretty much anyone.

I used to have a quick temper and always wanted things to go my way. After being through a lot of shit, I realized that I shouldn't really sweat about the little things so whenever I feel like I'm about to flip, I just stop and calm down. Its way easier to handle things that way

[chrissie3416]

I used to also be very shy. Im more outgoing now and a little more confident.

I used to get extremely upset and freak out over everything. NOw I take the time to cool off and think before I talk about why I'm upset and to honestly, decide if it is really worth getting upset about. I've learned to choose my battles.

[roselis]

Lol, I actually just wrote a blog post for next week on this!
Along your lines...
I have a much better self confidence than I used to. I couldn't take a compliment for anything. I'm also a lot more outgoing than I was 10 years ago. Seriously it is like night and day and I am so much happier.

[marigoldgirl]

I have more self confidence.
I like myself
I am unapologetic for my past.
I don't feel guilty

[bowies]

I used to have extremely bad potty mouth. I still curse, but I'm just as likely to reach for another word now too.

When I was younger I had a huge jealous streak. I think it had more to do with the people I was around than it did with me.

I'm less rigid in my beliefs - I've acknowledged that I don't know everything.

I'm less judgey of others and more accepting of differences.

I care about what I eat. Not so much in a "I must stick to these calories" sense, but I make smarter choices than I used to. The salad before dinner will help me more than the bloomin onion.

[doriswe]

I used to be really negative and complained about EVERYTHING. After my world flipped upside down last year, I realized how lucky I am and have gotten rid of the negativity.

I used to agree to everything because I didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but I've realized I can say "no" and it doesn't make me a bad person. I've learned to have limits with people.

I have struggled with low self-esteem and have spent a long time working on realizing that I'm pretty damn awesome just the way I am!

I was painfully shy and I can now talk to pretty much anyone anywhere!

[heavenly]

Long story short - I was raised that showing emotion was a really bad thing to do. Now I have l learned to get in touch with my emotions and my expression is starting to match what I feel. (i.e. I no longer smile big when I am in pain) so basically, I am able to finally be genuine with myself inside and out at the same time.

Now sharing emotions with another person in a relationship - This is a work in progress right now but it is something I want badly so I will get there and I am currently practicing this with my therapist.

Change is really possible but it takes a lot of hard work and time.

[doriswe]

Oh, heavenly just reminded me of one!! I was not a hugger...it made me uncomfortable and it was a HUGE point of contention with XH. After a year of therapy and life changes I am now more of a hugger, because it makes other people feel good/loved/appreciated/comforted and in turn I'm learning how good it feels to be that comfort to others.

[heavenly]

Sept 19, 2012 14:47:47 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Oh, heavenly just reminded me of one!! I was not a hugger...it made me uncomfortable and it was a HUGE point of contention with XH. After a year of therapy and life changes I am now more of a hugger, because it makes other people feel good/loved/appreciated/comforted and in turn I'm learning how good it feels to be that comfort to others.

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