Update on D's hearing

[lovelybb]

A continuance was scheduled for two weeks from today. Apparently D filed so much evidence that the ex's attorney didn't have time to cross examine him during the hour of allotted time.

The judge seem pretty irritated by it, so D isn't optimistic. Either way, at least he put up a fight and his ex probably won't be texting him anymore. He submitted all of her nasty texts into evidence

It's just so hard to see him doing the right thing and still have to fight for fairness, and it sucks that this is all about $$ and not what's good for the kids.

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Hmmm...is D working with an attorney? Does the attorney seem to think it's overkill?

[lovelybb]

Yes, he's definitely working with an attorney... He's going to condense down the info so it's more concise.

[lovelybb]

The judge was annoyed with D... he didn't submit it during discovery because he was trying to get her to dismiss it (she did once before) and he was hoping to get an extension since he's still caring for their son who was seriously injured in a car accident in June. Gathering evidence wasn't high on his priority list. It was denied so it was a scramble at the last minute to get everything put together.

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Sept 19, 2012 17:21:42 GMT -5 lovelybb said:

The judge was annoyed with D... he didn't submit it during discovery because he was trying to get her to dismiss it (she did once before) and he was hoping to get an extension since he's still caring for their son who was seriously injured in a car accident in June. Gathering evidence wasn't high on his priority list. It was denied so it was a scramble at the last minute to get everything put together.

Honestly I can't totally blame the judge. I understand the circumstances, but I'm the sure the judge hears a lot of excuses that aren't legit either. Hopefully he can work with his attorney to condense and go about it in a way that makes things easier on the judge.

[stephbfan]

As someone who also had to put a lot of evidence together for 2 hearings, IT IS a priority to do so during the discovery. I don't know how can someone come here and say that it wasn't important for him.

I don't want to sound bitchy but if he had time to go on dates with you, he definitely could have had some time to gather his evidence. It was court and in my eyes, that shit is serious.

He didn't only waste the courts time but he also wasted his own money, having the attorney to come to court with him and having the thing continued.

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Sept 19, 2012 17:40:00 GMT -5 stephbfan said:

As someone who also had to put a lot of evidence together for 2 hearings, IT IS a priority to do so during the discovery. I don't know how can someone come here and say that it wasn't important for him.

I don't want to sound bitchy but if he had time to go on dates with you, he definitely could have had some time to gather his evidence. It was court and in my eyes, that shit is serious.

He didn't only waste the courts time but he also wasted his own money, having the attorney to come to court with him and having the thing continued.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought this.

[lovelybb]

I'm not going to defend him because he should have put it all together before the hearing. No arguments there. If I had understood the process better I would have helped him more with staying on top it.

It wasn't important to him because he was more concerned with making sure his son didn't have brain damage and acting as his patient advocate while he spent the past three months in the hospital... and I have a feeling it's still not that important to him. It's unfortunate that the judge's and court's time was wasted and he certainly didn't intend to be disrespectful but these past three months of hell that D has been through caring for his son gives him a different perspective.

If he loses, he will have learned a valuable lesson for the next time his ex takes him to court for more $$ because I'm sure it will happen again.

[lovelybb]

Sept 19, 2012 17:56:28 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Yeah, it sucks for sure and I'm sure when he had a lot to worry about his mind was elsewhere. Priorities are obviously his son's health and not his XW's BSC behavior. Sucks that he wasted his time and money though.

Thank you.... yep, it sucks on a lot of levels but there's not much he can do it about it now except move forward.

[starryfish]

Sept 19, 2012 19:10:33 GMT -5 lovelybb said:

Sept 19, 2012 17:56:28 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Yeah, it sucks for sure and I'm sure when he had a lot to worry about his mind was elsewhere. Priorities are obviously his son's health and not his XW's BSC behavior. Sucks that he wasted his time and money though.

Thank you.... yep, it sucks on a lot of levels but there's not much he can do it about it now except move forward.

How old are the kids? I think they are all teenagers, right? So she cant get much money from him for that much longer