I would be up for a TFMR support thread, though I'd prefer it be private.
OP, I'm so sorry. I hope you find some things to bring you peace. I have found limiting my exposure to known triggers (eg news) to be the most helpful.
I don't have anything to add, but I want to send hugs and support to everyone.
These boards are far from perfect, but they have truly helped me feel not so alone during some really dark times. For that, I will always be thankful. <3
I’m so sorry you are going through this. I’m also very sorry for all you went through. My daughter experienced a major trauma and around the anniversary I go off the deep edge. Huge ups and downs and feel out of control. A therapist recommended emergency for me. I know I need to do it but I haven’t. But might be good to look into so you’re not triggered by all this bs in the news. I found that the blasey-ford story really did a number on me.
May I ask if you used to post on the bump back then. I ask because there was a woman with a very similar story when I was pregnant and if you are that person , I wanted to tell you that I have thought of you a lot over the years.
I did post on the bump back then. As much crap as that website gets, there really were some supportive people.
Yes I found the bump very supportive for some things, too. Sending you all of my good thoughts and comfort. Btw, in my original response I meant to say my theorists recommended trauma focused therapy for me—EMDR.
I would be up for a TFMR support thread, though I'd prefer it be private.
There is a secret Facebook group. I can PM you if you want to join.
I'm the weird one who's not on FB so that's a no go for me. I appreciate the offer, though. Thanks!
I do have a few women that I met through gbcn that I talk with privately, which has been an absolute lifeline for me. It's hard to overstate how much that has meant to me through such a devastating and isolating experience.
So, I'm going to therapy tonight for the first time in 16 years for similar reasons.
Eta: I hope it's worth it. It's taken me ages to seek it out because I kept thinking the problem I was having was not a problem big or specific enough to "need" therapy. The concerns I have are real (e.g. these are real laws) and not just "in my head", but I have many, many privileges and am aware that people are far worse off/more threatened than me. But PTSD is real. And so is a recurrence of problems that implicates PTSD from the past. So, it's at least worth a try.
Post by jeaniebueller on May 30, 2019 12:35:08 GMT -5
I am sorry you are dealing with this. You are not alone, I am dealing with similar feelings. Definitely seek out therapy and/or medication to help you cope.
Hugs. This whole month has been the worst. Hang in there, find a good therapist, and don’t let awful politicians with their woman-hating agenda make you feel that your difficult, compassionate choice was anything but brave.
Post by theoverlander on May 30, 2019 15:32:25 GMT -5
Thank you for all of the support and suggestions. It makes me feel less “crazy” to know that others have gone through similar situations or are reacting to the current political climate like me.
I’ll look into therapy more. Perhaps I really did have a bad one? I was raised in a very “stiff upper lip” environment so going to the therapist just felt so dramatic.
And now what sucks is that I really want to watch the next season of The Handmaids Tale but I just don’t think my mental health can take it, ugh. Fucking Trump and his conservative cronies ruin everything.
Post by klingklang77 on Jun 1, 2019 3:42:47 GMT -5
I understand what you are going through in a way. I had a termination at 7 weeks (much earlier than many on here, but it’s still in the same basket) because my ex-husband forced me and told me I would not see my family very much if I had the baby (we were living in Australia at the time). He was in the consultation room and did all the speaking while I sat there and cried. Then months after it he wanted to have pro-life/pro-choice debates and was emotionally abusive telling me to get over it already.
It’s been 10 years, and now that we are going through a divorce, I’m just starting to feel better. He was my main trigger. You can see why we are divorcing now. Therapy did not really work for me for that situation.
Despite all this, I am still pro-choice. It’s not an easy thing to go through whether you wanted it or not. But a woman should be able to choose what to do and this news has also been a trigger for me.
There is a private message board called PASS. Passboards.org. They have given the name PASS because it is like PTSD, but for terminations.
I think you’ve received great advice. I’m so sorry for everything you’ve experienced and are experiencing now. I’m glad you made this thread and got support. Sending you warmth.