Post by covergirl82 on Jun 3, 2019 11:51:52 GMT -5
Weekend did not go as planned (except Saturday morning). DD and I got groceries Saturday morning. DS was supposed to have travel baseball games at 2 and 4 pm (games were local - 10 minutes away), but a big thunderstorm came through around 11:00 am and games for the rest of the day were cancelled by noon. We lost power from 1:00 - about 7:00 pm, so we couldn't even catch up on chores. I took a nap and painted my nails, then we went out for dinner and to an indoor "glow golf" mini golf place. Power was back on by the time we got home.
Sunday DD and I went to church, then to see the very beginning of DS's first baseball game, then I took DD to a friend's birthday party, then back to baseball because DS's team was playing in the championship game. They won the championship and DS was game MVP! DD and I went home to eat dinner and I did some chores, while DH and DS went to the Little League All Stars Team tryout.
MIL update: I can't wait for TWERKS, and I may have another update by then anyway. I found out that MIL's dad gave her his wife's car for free (again, this is after MIL turned down a free minivan from SIL a month or two ago because she didn't want to drive a minivan, even though she's in debt as a result of car payments she couldn't afford). I talked to MIL's sister yesterday (DH's aunt) at church, and she said that MIL was complaining about the car and saying it's a piece of junk (it's 15 years old, but running fine). I guess she can't even be grateful about not having a car payment. I think MIL is only happy when she has something or someone to complain about. Also according to MIL's sister, their dad is supposedly done helping MIL financially. That remains to be seen, but I hope he sticks to his guns about this. DH hasn't called her yet to offer to sit down with her and create a budget. (We'll see how this goes, supposedly his grandpa offered the same thing, and MIL told him that she wouldn't let him see her financials unless he showed his financials to her. (Which makes no sense, but that is typical MIL.) DH would just laugh if she asked to see our info, tell her "not gonna happen", and say "good luck with your money problems, don't ask me for any help". )
My weekend was pretty great. First date on Saturday progressed to second date on Sunday and will probably lead to more soon. He's also fairly recently divorced and seems almost more shy and nervous about post-divorce dating than I am, so we're having a good time getting to know each other.
Other than that, I deep cleaned my house. Probably from nervous energy. But it needed it! Fridge clean out, tons of laundry, mopped the floors, etc. It's so refreshing to have it all done!
I loved getting to see and hang with by BFF over the weekend. I even was excited about camping and all the normal camping stressors were overshadowed by my joy and excited about seeing her and her kids. I haven't seen her in 4 years. We email all the time but it isn't the same as in person talking. I walked probably 15-18 miles on the beach this weekend. Weather was normal Oregon coast weather. Kind of sunny but lots of marine layer with heavy winds and blowing sand. The best part is BFF's oldest and my DD are 6 months apart and they picked things up like they had just hung out last week. The walk and talk on the beach as good as their moms do. I'm seriously thinking of pulling DD from school on Friday and driving back over for another visit before they go back to Colorado on Saturday. Plus we are talking about maybe meeting up for a joint vacation next summer in Salt Lake City area as it is the most central driving distance for both of us.
All of that fun had to come to an end. We did get the camper backed in on the 1st try which was nice. I have lots of laundry and my house is a mess so need to play catch up all week.
Post by supertrooper1 on Jun 3, 2019 12:16:07 GMT -5
There were ups and downs to my weekend. Saturday was nice. I went to yoga, the farmer's market and my friend's daughter's softball game. The weather was beautiful and I ended up getting a lot done around my house. Sunday was grocery shopping and getting more done around my house. I feel like I'm finally getting it in order.
The downs: Our offer fell through on the house. The buyer didn't want to budge on the price from our counter offer, so now I'm stuck still paying a mortgage and rent for a while. STBXH's 97 year old grandmother passed away. She was a very sweet woman. There won't be a service until his 99 year old grandfather passes away which could be soon. I started my period and I feel like my hormones are out of whack. I'm struggling between enjoying my alone time and feeling lonely.
We've been anti social the last 2 weekends. Working on putting together desks and toy storage and dealing with end of the school year stuff. Kids started summer camp this morning. 2 date nights also on the books.
I've been lurking here for a while, and I've decided to try and start actually participating. I hope that's okay.
I had a quiet weekend at home with DD. We ran some errands on Friday, spent some time outside on Saturday, and did absolutely nothing on Sunday. It was great. The not great part was her decision to boycott naps all weekend. Sleep, child!
We had a very low-key weekend while working on PT'ing DS. He's at school in undies today (which I keep trying to remind myself are *not* to be called panties... not successfully) but I have very, very, low hopes.
DH started his new job today. His wife had suggested that he use his time off last week to get a copy of his birth certificate and social security card, since apparently his parents still have his, but he insisted that his expired passport was sufficient. In other news, DH will be driving out to BFE in terrible traffic tonight. I did not force him to say those magic three little words, but I did point out that... I was right. Why won't he ever believe me?!?!
supertrooper1, I totally get the struggle between enjoying alone time and just feeling lonely. I'm trying to kind of just embrace it and do what feels right on that day. My therapist endorses it if I need a day to just mope and binge watch tv, as long as I don't let it linger and drag on. I try to allow myself half a day of that and half a day of productivity if I'm really in a slump. I hope you aren't too lonely. Feel free to PM me if you need virtual company on a kid free day.
I got home late Friday night from a business trip and left Sunday afternoon for another business trip. I’m feeling bitter about it. Trying to remember to be thankful I have a job.
The time in the middle was great. The kids are really enjoying each other’s company right now. And we spent a lot of time getting ready for our vacation that is in less than 2 weeks! We are all so pumped for our trip.
Saturday started great. I made my best time on a 5k yet and won 3rd in my age group. I went to Dds tournament unshowerd and nasty. Then it went downhill. Dd played a lot the first game and then hardly played. This was a team of Freshman-Seniors. She had a foul attitude about not playing and I didn't even want to be around. She still barely speaks to anyone on the team because she doesn't know them, but is not really trying. I dont know what this means for her place on the team since a couple of Freshman did play a lot.
I am a little annoyed and do not have a great impression starting this season. They split into 2 teams and the other coach played everyone. This was originally just a varsity, jv tournament, no Freshman. I didn't even know we were supposed to be there until Thursday. I am not amused spending one of the first Saturdays of the year in a gym, running about 1.5 hours behind, if you didn't really need my kid there.
Sunday, I took some food to my high school BFF whose mom is dying. After all of that I just sat outside and drank beer and grilled burgers.
This weekend was madness, to the point I can’t even remember what all we did. Margarita party for me late night after the kids were down Friday, soccer team swim party here Saturday, burger date with DH in between supervising DS swimming at a sleepover, picking up DD from the golf course because of lightning and hanging out at the neighbors with DD, who slept over there. Library summer kickoff, church, some soccer in the yard, tons of errands and an accidental floor nap.
This is the first summer where I feel like all three kids are super social/busy and DH leaving it all to me is not working well for me. Hoping I can talk to him...
What a weekend! Friday night DD and I went on a party bus with 46 other moms and kids to the Kidz Bop concert. Concert itself was fun, party bus was too crowded and crazy. I'm sort of on the outskirts of the cool mom group so most of them knew each other better than I know them, but I'm glad they invited us since DD would have been super sad to have some of her school friends get to go without her.
Then Saturday I took a 6:20 am flight to Chicago to celebrate my Mom's 70th birthday. My parents and sister flew there from MD. Flight was 4 hours plus time change so I got there at lunchtime. We went to lunch, walked around Millennium and Grant Parks and saw the bean, then had a great dinner and saw Hamilton. The next morning we did an architecture river boat tour and had some deep dish pizza, then I went back to the airport and flew 4 hours home. I made it home for dinner and bedtime with the kids. It was a whirlwind but we had a great time. My sister also has 3 little kids, so we don't see each other or our parents often without our combined 6 small children. That was really nice.
Friday evening was the neighborhood grill out. Saturday I worked out and then cleaned out my home office. Sunday I did an 8 mile trail run and decluttered and organized the kids room and then did laundry. I feel like that's all we did, but these decluttering projects feel good and my house looks somewhat normal now.
Day 1 in undies at school went alright, which is better than I expected. I have extra low hopes for tomorrow though, for reasons no one wants to hear explained. 😬🤢
He also has a low grade fever. DH can’t take time off, and I have requested so much time off between now and next week, I can’t afford to have a sick kid. I’m crossing every body part that it doesn’t get worse since he just barely meets the cutoff.