Monday vents and celebrations

[waverly]

Celebration- we had a good weekend. I worked Sat so DH took the kids to get the new car which was 2 hours away for the color he wanted. Our gardens look nice because we weeded and mulched. DD and I saw Aladdin yesterday. It was nothing really new since it was a remake but I liked it.

Vents- my extended family is driving me nuts. I made the mistake of telling my dad we are figuring out our car that was it and now he is sending me conversion van rentals for the month. No I’m not renting a van for 1800 so I can bring you from MI to IL when the bus ticket is $30, like WTF? We will be camping and don’t have room for him in our car. We never planned on transporting him and he knew for 6 months we were camping. He sends me 20 messages a day because he is nuts.

We spent most of the day yesterday spreading mulch and I am sore today. I have to make up stuff to do so I don’t spend all my time doing chores hence Aladdin. We definitely lost money in the new car.

It is nice though and very big comparatively speaking.

DH ordered hello fresh and got burgers that were supposed to come with all these special toppings. DH chose to make it with none of them just a plain burger so what’s the point? On the 4th he ruined his pork shoulder by trying to get it to fall off the bone and basically charring it. So sad.

I saved the day only because I bought cookie dough.

[mommyatty]

DD’s birthday is Thursday. Her joint party is Sunday. It’s a Harry Potter theme, and it’s gking to be so cool. I made chocolate frog cards for the birthday kids, and they turned out great! Plus I took DD to Goodwill and bought a bunch of bottles and containers to make potions and Honeyduke’s Sweet Shoppe. The bottles are all labeled and the candy table tents are made. But holy cow, it was a lot of work! Really fun though! I love doing crafty stuff.

Probably a TWERK, but my car is still in the shop. They are supposed to give me updates twice a week. I have heard nothing. I’m getting supremely annoyed. But I actually really like my rental car. It may lead us to getting a 3 row SUV. We went to see the symphony for a picnic on the 4th of July, and it was so awesome to have all the room for the wagon and cooler and stuff. We could have gotten it all in my car, but it wouldn’t have been so easy.

[covergirl82]

Back to work after being off Tuesday - Friday last week. At least I'm WFH today, as they needed extra parking spaces for orientation due to it being a large group.

We had fun camping and spending time with family. We went out to our vacant land for the second time, and the kids and I did some treasure hunting with the metal detector in the shallow stream on the back of the property. We found an old musket ball, which was pretty cool. I'm going to contact the historical museum to see if they can give me an estimate of when it might be from. I know there were fur trappers in the area as far back as the late 1600s, but more generally settled starting around 1850.

We got home Saturday around noon, and turned the A/C back down to the normal temp, but the air isn't coming through the vents, so hopefully we can get someone out today to fix it. Thankfully our house is well shaded, so it's been bearable so far.

[librarychica]

We had a lovely weekend. Friday night the girls’ and I stayed late after pickup at their science camp (its at a museum) and had a blast. Otherwise we the least over the weekend. They played, we swam, we did housework. I started exercising again and they joined me. H went to my favorite taco place in the pouring rain Sunday to bring takeout home, proving he is the best.

I’m getting nervous about fall/winter. H has hardly traveled this summer and it’s been nice. I’m transitioning back to full time at work (from 75%) in August. H has started traveling more and more these last two years while I’ve been part time and the schedule looks pretty normal for August and September but beginning October and continuing through the end of February his schedule looks awful, gone 50% of each month, missing thanksgiving. I have no idea how I’m going to get the kids to school. I have to be at work an hour before even before care opens and the early morning sitter I’ve used before is no longer available.

Good news, I have some strong leads on an after school babysitter. Interviewing two college students Wednesday. I’m hoping one might be open to some early hours.

[mae0111]

mommyatty - you’re rental is an Atlas, right? I seriously love mine. I hated getting rid of my Touareg, but omg the space is such an upgrade.

We are on vacation. Despite repeated conversations about not doing this, DH immediately posted on FB that we were away. I HAAAATE that. Now everyone knows. Ugh.

DD1 is back from camp, and had an amazing time! I’m going through her stuff... I sent her with the following:

- 1 tube toothpaste
- 1 large bottle shampoo
- 1 large bottle of conditioner
- 3 sticks deodorant
- 14 pairs underwear
Among other things.

She came back with
- 1 nearly full tube of toothpaste
- 1 3/4 full bottle of shampoo
- 1 1/4 full bottle of conditioner
- 2 unopened sticks of deodorant
- 1 1 open stick clearly used 1 time
- 7 dirty pairs of undies, 7 clean, all shoved in together in original packaging, which means underwear was recycled and never laundered

🤢

Finally, we went on a whale watch yesterday. We got to see 3 humpbacks and a Finn whale, all really close up. It was really fun - the size was incredible. Then we walked around a cool, artsy town with the kids.

[rere]

Ugh... Back to work after a week's vacation. I am not amused.

Multiple Vents - Mom is her annual insane self due to my brother's kids coming in for the summer. She insisted the kids go boating yesterday. Mine did not want to go. We just got home from the beach. She wanted them at 8, but DH had to take them to church at 8. So somehow in her mind, she sends her boyfriend to pick them up at 8:30. She knows how church works, it is never in the history of ever over in 30 minutes. I am home alone, finally, after a week of togetherness. I begged DH to take them and I was going to church at noon and then get groceries. I am enjoying my peace, about to run. So instead I end up standing in my driveway making awkward small talk, waiting on the kids. About 9:15, I call DH to see where he is. They are getting donuts. Now what part of mom wanted the kids at 8, but I told her they needed to go to church first says we have all kinds of time to go get donuts. I finally get my run in at 10:30 at 90 degrees and 100% humidity.

Mom has hijacked my supper tonight due to my brother maybe, possibly coming in, but likely no. Tomorrow we have to go out for my nieces birthday, when the majority of the family except for her would rather have a cookout.

DH Vent: I didn't speak to him most of the day. We had a kid free day, I spent it avoiding him. We have a serious communication problem. He either doesn't listen, or he has a serious memory problem. Then he gets all pissy when I tell him things over and over. Plus, he is like a child. Nothing is ever his fault. The kids are an hour late going boating because he didn't listen about the time. Not his fault. It is my fault for getting mad. It is mom's fault for even going boating, but never, ever his fault. I might have gotten over it if one time I could just get a , sorry, my bad.

[traveltheworld]

I'm at the airport on route to another European work trip. This will be the last one for the summer though. DS also left this morning for his sleep away camp, so it'll be just DH and DD at home for the week.

We had a good weekend. I think DH gets a bit down during the week since he's not working and job search is stressful, but his mood markedly improves on the weekends since we are so busy and have so much on the go. DS and DD went to a joint siblings party yesterday for their friends, so DH and I got to grab a late lunch and hung out at a really nice restaurant for a few hours - we needed that.

[mommyatty]

mae0111- that sounds like every other kid I know who has gone to camp. One of my friends sent me a series of pics that the camp had posted. Her 13 year old son was wearing the same clothes for 3 days straight, Monday through Wednesday, and her caption said “LAUNDRY IS ON FRIDAY! There’s no way he washed those!!” Lol.

[mustardseed2007]

We had a nice full 4 days off. Science Museum, Zoo, pool, swim lessons, Toy Story 4. Bike ride with a PR and long run.

Speaking of Hello Fresh, we have our first shipment today. I'm really really looking forward to it!

[supertrooper1]

DS and I had a low key weekend. One of his kindergarten classmates had a birthday party and it was a lot of fun for the kids and parents. Cinderella came and kept the kids entertained for 2 hours. She was amazing. I was dreading making small talk with moms I don't know very well, but they were all very nice and fun to chat with.

We to Costco yesterday hungry and came home with way too much food. Having the babysitter eating at my house will help. But she told me she may have a concussion and could be out the rest of the week. So I may be scrambling to find child care.

Vent: STBXH was in charge of getting rid of stuff from the outside of our house since I cleaned out the inside. The previous owners had left garbage in the blackberry bushes and we never got around to throwing it away (out of sight out of mind). The new owner wants it gone before closing and STBXH is having a fit. He keeps blaming the previous owners, but at some point we have to move on because we moved into the house in 2010. While I was grocery shopping yesterday, my phone kept buzzing. By the time I looked at it, there were 60+ messages between him and the realtor in a group text. Ugh. I can't wait until the house closes.

[waverly]

What kind of garbage is in the blackberry bushes for 9 years lol? Sorry about all the messages. This is where I am with my dad.

I am in coordination hell too. I told my sister we can do a boat ride on our vacation. She countered with us swimming at her place. We are there to sightsee not swim but fine. Now she wants to do a sunset boat ride- ugh. I am at the point where maybe I just will say yes to everything because I cannot deal with coordinating anything anymore. I was thinking like a 10 or 11 am boat ride then lunch then swim. So maybe if she wants to do a 7 pm boat ride then we spend the morning at the national park and then go to her house around 3 to swim, then dinner then boat? I just don't want to spend all day with them because I want to see the park. That is the whole point of going and now we have to swim and hang out at her house instead.


So my question is do I just give up and do whatever she says that day because I can't deal with it anymore?

[librarychica]

Jul 8, 2019 10:48:57 GMT -5 waverly said:

What kind of garbage is in the blackberry bushes for 9 years lol? Sorry about all the messages. This is where I am with my dad.

I am in coordination hell too. I told my sister we can do a boat ride on our vacation. She countered with us swimming at her place. We are there to sightsee not swim but fine. Now she wants to do a sunset boat ride- ugh. I am at the point where maybe I just will say yes to everything because I cannot deal with coordinating anything anymore. I was thinking like a 10 or 11 am boat ride then lunch then swim. So maybe if she wants to do a 7 pm boat ride then we spend the morning at the national park and then go to her house around 3 to swim, then dinner then boat? I just don't want to spend all day with them because I want to see the park. That is the whole point of going and now we have to swim and hang out at her house instead.


So my question is do I just give up and do whatever she says that day because I can't deal with it anymore?

I have done both. This last beach trip, I let H’s parents run the show and just mentally put myself in that place. My priorities were not the priorities of the day.

BUT in the case of other trips and I think this one you’re describing, hold your ground. “We are visiting to see XYZ and will be busy during specific timeframes but will be so happy to also see you. Are you free during specific timeframe AM or specific timeframe PM?” Then go visit in whichever one she picks. If she tries to change it or it gets all confusing and dramatic “oh I am sorry but that won’t fit our schedule.”

[supertrooper1]

waverly, there was rebar leftover from the pond construction, metal racks, some old flower pots. We had 5 acres and there was always something more important to do. The new buyer had to look really hard to see the junk.

[186momx]

rere, we must have the same H. Doesn't listen, can't communicate, but instead of it always being my fault he pulls the "I can't do anything right" or won't do anything alone because he won't mess up.

Weekend was way too long. DH went in and worked for double time on Friday so DD and I treated it like a normal Friday and did errands and then was ready to just chill at home. No I got in a huge fight with DH because he wanted to go off and do something and all we wanted to do was stay home. I didn't sleep well due to fireworks and upset dog who had a poop accident coming off her sedation meds on my bed Friday morning so all of us girls were up way too early and by Friday afternoon needed a nap not DH's marathon of wandering. Saturday we installed the new kitchen sink and new motion faucet. Yesterday we went for a hike/walk and then visited some old family friends. I left DH in charge of breakfast and he didn't do anything so DD became hangry and melted down on our 1 mile walk and then was a brat the rest of the afternoon all because she hadn't ate since 5pm the day before. The friends are newly retired teachers who of course wanted to know how 2nd grade was and if she was looking forward to 3rd which set DD off but at least she went on and on about how horrible it was and why instead of just saying everything was fine.

[twinmomma]

I think I've been ghosted. I'm pissed more than upset. A bunch of dates, texting every day and we really hit it off, and now, haven't heard from him in a week. Ball is firmly in his court, so we'll see if I ever hear from him again. But wtf dude. Even if he texts back at this point, I'm over it I think. Just seems rude. I'm having fun dating, but it's also such a pain in the ass.

[k3am]

We had a long weekend. We made plans to meet up with friends yesterday at the local amusement park, saying we'd be there from 10-2, and then heading out.. and somehow, heading out, meant heading to their place and turned into not getting home until after 9pm. After two days spent in the sun with minimal down time, the whole family is exhausted and none of what needed to get done yesterday actually got done yesterday.

I have a love/hate relationship with days like yesterday. I love seeing friends, but I really hate how it throws off the rest of the week.

[supertrooper1]

twinmomma, sorry he ghosted you. I agree that dating is fun but a PITA.

[soccermama]

I am a little late to the party today, but just wanted to throw in that I went to the New Kids on the Block concert last night w/ a bunch of friends & we had a blast!! That was major excitement for me on a Sunday night! LOL. I thought it was a great show.

[covergirl82]

soccermama, NKOTB puts on such a great show!! You can tell they truly appreciate their fans and enjoy doing shows. Glad you had a fun time!

[sdlaura]

We're halfway through our 10-day trip. It has not been relaxing but has mostly been fun. Amazingly the just-turned-2-year-old boy has been the best traveler of the 3 kids. AWing beautiful San Juan Island.

[mae0111]

DH helped DD2 shower. Just observed that she shampooed her hair with a ponytail in and is still wearing her bathing suit top. 🙄

[supertrooper1]

sdlaura, I'm glad to see that you're seeing blue sky! I'm only about 30 miles away by the way the crow flies and it's been very overcast.

[waverly]

Jul 9, 2019 16:33:39 GMT -5 mae0111 said:

DH helped DD2 shower. Just observed that she shampooed her hair with a ponytail in and is still wearing her bathing suit top. 🙄

Thanks for the help DH. A lot of the reason I have DD shower is mostly the hair because hers gets soo tangled. So yeah that just defeated the whole purpose.

[sdlaura]

supertrooper1, it rained on Sunday when we arrived, then the last 1.5 days were beautiful, but it just started drizzling and tomorrow is a 50% chance of rain. Thursday we head to Portland and it's supposed to be 80 and sunny there.

[mellym]

I don’t think anything of the kid laundry anymore. We went up north camping over the 4th and DD2 wore the same outfit all three days while we were with her. She refused to wear anything else and it’s not a battle I fight anymore.

Vent - see wedding shower post. Also, DD3 had a respiratory infection three weeks ago. She then started limping and progressively got worse to the point of not bearing weight or walking. We are on week three of her not walking and wanting to be held. She had X-rays and labs and doctor thinks it’s toxic synovitis but it usually clears up in a week. The infection basically moved to her hip joint. He told us to give it another week (tomorrow) and then call back if she’s still not using it. I’m trying not to spiral. The labs also showed slight anemia.

[sunbutter]

Jul 8, 2019 8:23:52 GMT -5 mae0111 said:

mommyatty - you’re rental is an Atlas, right? I seriously love mine. I hated getting rid of my Touareg, but omg the space is such an upgrade.

We are on vacation. Despite repeated conversations about not doing this, DH immediately posted on FB that we were away. I HAAAATE that. Now everyone knows. Ugh.

DD1 is back from camp, and had an amazing time! I’m going through her stuff... I sent her with the following:

- 1 tube toothpaste
- 1 large bottle shampoo
- 1 large bottle of conditioner
- 3 sticks deodorant
- 14 pairs underwear
Among other things.

She came back with
- 1 nearly full tube of toothpaste
- 1 3/4 full bottle of shampoo
- 1 1/4 full bottle of conditioner
- 2 unopened sticks of deodorant
- 1 1 open stick clearly used 1 time
- 7 dirty pairs of undies, 7 clean, all shoved in together in original packaging, which means underwear was recycled and never laundered

🤢

Finally, we went on a whale watch yesterday. We got to see 3 humpbacks and a Finn whale, all really close up. It was really fun - the size was incredible. Then we walked around a cool, artsy town with the kids.

DS came back from two weeks in Mexico with soap and shampoo never opened. He says he was panicked in their bathroom because he saw roaches and would just quickly rinse off and get out. I soaked him at home for hours when he got back, lol.

[polecat8]

mellym, my DD had synovitis in her hip joint after a bout of pneumonia a few years ago. Apparently it is common for a major infection to settle in a major joint. She complained about hip pain for about a week and then woke up one day unable to walk on it. The pediatrician ended up admitting her to the hospital for the night. The treatment was pretty simple - Aleve. The dr started treatment in the afternoon and she was able to hobble to the bathroom by midnight. By morning, the pain was gone. DD took a few more doses of Aleve at home just to be sure the synovitis went away, but she was bouncing off the walls pretty quickly.

I can't believe your DD has been struggling for so long. I hope you get some answers soon!

[mellym]

Polecat - your story and others are why I’m trying not to spiral. She has been on ibuprofen for three weeks and still not walking or bearing weight without pain. Doctor also said it should only take a week to get inflammation down.

[polecat8]

Jul 10, 2019 11:50:58 GMT -5 mellym said:

Polecat - your story and others are why I’m trying not to spiral. She has been on ibuprofen for three weeks and still not walking or bearing weight without pain. Doctor also said it should only take a week to get inflammation down.

If I remember correctly, the doctor told us that Aleve would treat the synovitis better than ibuprofen.  Can't remember why though.