Thursday stuff

[mommyatty]

Anyone have any burning questions? Updates? Topics they want to talk about that don’t deserve their own thread?

I have a couple. 2chatter- how’s your DD doing? Still able to eat generally regular foods? Did they ever figure out WTF was up with that?

Update: DS rocked tutoring again this week. He’s doing great. His teacher sent home cards so we can work on his letter fluency, and he’s so proud of how quickly he can go through them now.

[callmekd]

MIL asked if we wanted to go to the Cape next summer. we don't. we want to do a cabin trip with my parents and/or go with MIL's sister's family to VA beach. now we can't talk about VA beach because we said no to the Cape. totally a FWP.

[twinmomma]

I finally got the kids in for allergy testing appointments but they won't do them on the same day, so I have to take two full days off of work for it. ExH's response "Oh thanks, I was planning on doing that in the fall once I had some free time." He's been claiming he'll do these allergy appointments every summer for the past couple years because he doesn't believe in having an epi pen for DD2. So I've decided I'm just going to handle it, get the official diagnosis, and he can finally stop telling me I'm over-reacting about DD2's allergies.

[librarychica]

My younger daughter and then my dog woke me up 1.5 hours before my alarm. Then my other daughter woke up. It was an epic morning involving stepping in dog poo in the dark with no shoes on and reaching a toad that had its head stuck in a drain cover. Some days, man.

Only updates I have are that my husband’s September travel is cancelled (yay!) and his vasectomy is still on schedule for tomorrow.

[librarychica]

Aug 1, 2019 10:10:22 GMT -5 callmekd said:

MIL asked if we wanted to go to the Cape next summer. we don't. we want to do a cabin trip with my parents and/or go with MIL's sister's family to VA beach. now we can't talk about VA beach because we said no to the Cape. totally a FWP.

Juggling family vacation feels is no joke!

[covergirl82]

That's a rough morning, librarychica!

I had a dream last night about quitting my job so I could be SAHM while the kids are still in school, and I woke up feeling so good about it. Maybe I just need to buckle down on excess spending so we can pay off debt and then that could be a reality...

[sdlaura]

I slept like crap last night because 7 am flight and then my meeting ran long and I missed my original flight home. So I ubered 40 min to a different airport and (fingers crossed) we’re about to take off.

Random question - Should I care/how much should I care that I’m on the b-list for the elementary school moms in-crowd?

Multiple times I’ve run into one of them and been asked if I’m going to xyz event, to which they assume I’ve been invited when I haven’t. So then they invite me. But it’s obvious that I’m an an afterthought. I do have fun when I go, but the situation doesn’t make me feel great. And when they do entirely forget to invite me I see all the pics on social media.

Most of them SAH/WFH and most also have a boy as their older kid, so they got to know each other through baseball. I blame part of it on DH since a lot of their husbands are now also friends and he’s a hermit. I just foresee myself dealing with this for the next 10 years our kids are all in school together

[supertrooper1]

twinmomma, what did you decide about changing your name? Married or maiden name? I'm at that decision now and I'm leaning towards my maiden name even though it will be a PITA to change it at work.

I was up early this morning, so I decided to got to Starbucks and the gas station before work. I was waiting for a pump and a truck backed out and hit my car. He didn't even know he hit me because his truck was so big. Luckily it was only a scratch, but he freaked about giving me his info and wanted to give me cash on the spot. I was worried about unseen damage, so I took time off work and took it to the dealership. Luckily there was no damage and I'm not going to do anything about the scratch. Not the way I wanted to start my day.

I did make lemonade out of lemons. My guy's work is within walking distance of the dealership, so while I waited I walked over and saw him for a bit.

[186momx]

I have a whine. DD is now begging to not go to Ad Club. She says they never do anything fun when she is there. She goes 3 mornings a week. Mondays they stay on site all day but each Monday has had a fun activity in the afternoon after she leaves (face painting, water balloons, stomp rockets). Wednesday is bike ride day and they need to be able to ride 8 miles. DD can't ride at all and when we do get her on her bike with training wheels she goes so slow that I can't walk the dog because we walk to fast. Yesterday the kids who went on the ride got DQ. Thursday they swim but again after she leaves for the day. She gets picked up at 1 by grandma because she has 3pm practice and Ad Club can't guarantee they will have her there for a 2:30 pick up. I get she is bored but we only have 2 more weeks that she is at Ad Club. I'm feeling like she isn't happy anywhere these days. When you ask her what she wants she wants to stay home alone. You need to be 10 by law here and no way am I going to let me brand new 10 year old stay home all day alone so I have at least 2 more summers to deal with.

[twinmomma]

supertrooper1 I kept my married name. It stressed the girls out a lot that I might have a different name. It's one of the few things they keep bringing up randomly in regards to the divorce when they've taken everything else in stride, so I'd feel guilty. And I've had this last name my entire adult life, so I didn't want to deal with starting over. But I do still feel torn sometimes.

[librarychica]

Aug 1, 2019 11:19:47 GMT -5 librarychica said:

My younger daughter and then my dog woke me up 1.5 hours before my alarm. Then my other daughter woke up. It was an epic morning involving stepping in dog poo in the dark with no shoes on and reaching a toad that had its head stuck in a drain cover. Some days, man.

Only updates I have are that my husband’s September travel is cancelled (yay!) and his vasectomy is still on schedule for tomorrow.

I feel like I should clarify that we rescued the toad. Not reached!

[librarychica]

sdlaura, I wouldn’t worry about it! (Okay, I might, but I’d try really hard not to as I think not worrying about it is the best response.)

[erinshelley21]

Oh do I have some updates...
New House: Kitchen is gutted, beautiful hardwoods have been uncovered in the second story and on the stairs and estimates are coming in really great. Plumbing will start in 2 weeks, electrical after that, then kitchen. Fitting in refinishing the floors (DIY) and painting the whole. freaking. house. Hoping for a slow move in beginning in October.
Old House: Last Saturday a couple and their kid were walking around in front of our house and came to talk to me when I pulled in the drive since they heard we were about to sell. Loved the property and house from the bits I was able to tell them. Asked when we were listing it and who the realtor was. Realtor leaves at 3pm Monday, has a call at 4:30 for a showing, showing happens at 6:30, offer above asking without a contingency came in at 9:30. IT WASN'T EVEN LISTED ANYWHERE! These people were ready and our minds were blown. Still kind of blown. Closing first week of September and out by the 14th. We will be living with MIL Sunday through Thursday and in the camper Friday and Saturday to give all involved a break.
Office: We close on it next week or the following potentially.

Now, an update and need advice, maybe?
DS started kindergarten this week. He was pretty excited but also a bit nervous. He isn't really enjoying himself and says he has bad days/doesn't like it. When I ask him why his only reason is that he misses me and almost starts to cry at school. He has NEVER missed me during the day when he is at MIL's or when he went to preschool for 3 hours a day. I know this probably normal and he is probably overwhelmed with moving and now kindergarten. This morning I drew him a picture for him to keep in his pocket so that he could look at it when he gets sad. I was NOT expecting this as he is very familiar with the school since his cousins have all went there, SFIL teaches there and MIL is involved with special activities so he has been going there frequently since he was a baby. If any of you have had a similar situation, how were you able to help your child with the transition?

[xctsclrx]

I don't know if anyone remembers, but I have been dealing with a chronic ear infection for the past 10 months. Had surgery 2ish weeks ago, but I still have significant hearing loss due to fluid buildup and inflammation.

Doctor put me on a steroid and now it is 11pm I've been up since four but I can't sleep.

Tomorrow I'm taking it at lunch instead of dinner.

Also started studying for my GRE. Planning to take it end of September. Hopefully starting grad school in January.

[k3am]

sdlaura I’m not even D list, if that helps. I know ONE mom’s name from school, and that’s because she’s my neighbor. I have never been invited to anything before. I’m mostly okay with this.

[librarychica]

I’m waiting on H at the urologist while he gets the V. He just texted me one phrase from back there.

Huevos Ranchoppos.

I am loling.

[callmekd]

erinshelley21 transition to kindergarten is a huge thing. even fro DD1 who has been in FT daycare her entire life, it was a big shift. hope next week goes better for him!

[waverly]

I survived the family vacation, barely.

My nephew climbed off an overlook next to a waterfall and onto a ledge where he slid off down the waterfall. Luckily he is fine just bruised but my dad said it was a 50-60 foot slide. It looks more like 20-30 in my pictures. It wasn’t at the top of the waterfall which was more a drop off more like midway. We were not there so my kids didn’t see it which was good. Then we went on a boat ride that had to be turned around because of 10-12 foot waves. And a few storms at night- we were camping. Last night ended up in a hotel because we just couldn’t. Despite all that it was a fun trip. I’m not conveying that well in my post but we are all tired.

Now I have about a week of houseguests. My dad is Sun- Thurs and SIL is Thurs- Sun. Ugh. A week is too long. Just got to get through it and then school starts.

[waverly]

sdlaura- I am definitely B list or just not in the know. It’s actually a big school so not just one clique more like multiple groups of friends so that makes it easier. That being said some of the parent groups do act a little bit like high school popularity- gossiping, name dropping, always doing everything as a group. It’s not my cup of tea, but we do go and have fun when we are invited. I just prefer more one on one rather than group dynamics or time to myself or family time. We see people at activities so I guess it’s a good mix of different types of socializing but we aren’t really sought out. I can’t really explain it well because I’ve been in groups before in high school (not popular groups) and enjoyed them, but for this time in my life I prefer to be on the outskirts maybe because of shying away from doing the work for friendships or not wanting to host parties and it seems like people are more interested in parties here.

[sdlaura]

waverly , I think it would probably not be an issue if our elementary school were larger. I like that there are only 3 classes in each grade and it's easy to get to know everyone, but now I"m seeing the downside. I will say that I haven't seen any gossipy/name dropping/catty behavior. Just doing everything as a group and posting all over social media about it.

One family just sold their house that was 3 blocks away and bought a house in the same cul-de-sac as a few of the other families.

[k3am]

Aug 2, 2019 12:16:41 GMT -5 callmekd said:

erinshelley21 transition to kindergarten is a huge thing. even fro DD1 who has been in FT daycare her entire life, it was a big shift. hope next week goes better for him!

+1. I was shocked when DD had issues. She’d been in DC since she was 3 months old and I assumed she’d make the transition like a champ. Newwwwp. It took about a month and was okay.

[campermom]

My 3 plastic surgery consults are in 11 days. I’m still set on the tummy tuck but waffling on implants.

Yesterday during my 8 mile run all I decided for sure that inner thigh lipo would be worth it. My thighs rub together with each and every step I take. When I forget body glide it’s like the worst feeling in the pit of my stomach upon realization. When I ran my marathon I reapplied a couple of times but had to stop at a medic at mile 14 for something better and they gave me vaseline. If that wasn’t available within that mile I know I would have quit.

I kind of like having small boobs. They never get in my way. I don’t have bra issues (except mine are usually too big and get wrinkly so maybe that’s not true) I have no back problems. Nothing is ever floppy or in my way. I’m an A cup now. Implants kind of scare me and there are so many decisions that go with them. I wish that the pictures of fat transfers looked better. (Fat from lipo to breasts) To me they seem like very expensive for not a lot of change.

[mommyatty]

campermom- Just one woman’s opinion, but I had small boobs most of my life and was a little annoyed. Then after starting BCPs, I got big boobs (I’m a 36DD), and I wish I could go back to my small boob days. I always have to worry about cleavage and if I’m wearing the right kind of bra, and I swear they make me look fatter than I really am. And all of that is even with the caveat that I have great boobs: they aren’t at all saggy even at 45 and I can go braless in sundresses and rompers without looking ridiculous. (I’m doing it right now.) So unless you feel really unbalanced, I would leave the boobs alone.

[rere]

Dd came out of Freshman orientation bouncing. 4 hours at the high school, tour of her classes. She met up with the kids she met in her home room at the visitation day. They put her in a homeroom with a kids from another small private school. Now the kid who wont speak in volleyball practice is talking about all of homeroom friends and is worried there are so many friends, she doesn't know where to start.

She thinks several will be in her lunch period. My biggest fear is her having no one at lunch.

DH's childhood best friend is her first period teacher. He is also Ds's club sponsor. He is the teacher that may show up with a bullhorn at class and may be singing out it. Plus DH's high school BFF is the assistant principal and Dh got to introduce her when he dropped her off.

Both of our nerves are calmed a bit on the school front.

[rere]

The pediatrician was blown away by DS's 4 inch growth in a year. Hes 5 ft 4 inches. Hes still in the early to mid stages of puberty which is great because hes got a couple more years of growth.

[waverly]

I agree on the boobs. I have a big chest on a small frame. Finding clothes to fit is difficult. Anything cute that smaller boob people can wear like a smaller halter makes me look like a hooker. I could wear a lot more styles without them, and I can never go without a bra.

[k3am]

campermom, as a runner, small boobs are the best.

But as a woman, I dream of having a big B, maybe even going crazy and getting a small C.

Also keep in mind that implants won’t last as long as you do and may eventually need to be removed or replaced.

[sdlaura]

There was a random small natural disaster in my town yesterday that killed three women from the same family - the family of my kids’ dentist. They’re amazing and have been in the community forever. One of the women killed left behind two little kids, and I believe they were there when it happened. I can’t imagine.

[waverly]

Trigger warning child death-














It happened a week and a half ago but I just found out that the family of my friend growing up lost their child due to drowning. He was unsupervised on the edge of water not supposed to go in, but he did. It was pretty deep, and I am assuming he couldn’t swim or wasn’t a good swimmer.

Sometimes I hate the phrase I can’t imagine because when I had my high risk pregnancy it made me feel like a freak- well the pregnancy itself made me feel that way. It just added to it. But I really can’t imagine because it is soo terrible and terrifying.

[covergirl82]

I agree that small boobs are great (I'm a small B). I don't have problems finding clothes that fit across my chest, and I can always buy a padded or push-up bra. I hope DD takes after me (and my mom) in that regard and not MIL and SIL.

sdlaura , waverly , so sad.