DD1 is starting TK next week so I was looking through her school's handbook. They have a dress code that prohibits "sexualized" clothing like spaghetti straps, plus shorts shorter than fingertip length. I'm feeling annoyed by this - my kid is 4; she's not wearing spaghetti strap tanks and short shorts to be sexual, she's doing it because it's 100 degrees out!
I guess it's not a huge deal in the grand of scheme of things - she only owns a few things that violate the dress code, and it will only be super hot for a few more weeks - but I have no idea how to explain to my kid why she can wear some of her clothes to church but not to school.
Post by One Girl In All The World on Aug 6, 2019 21:31:30 GMT -5
I'd be real tempted to send my kid in spaghetti straps anyway but I was the asshole at my school (with uniforms) who always had her shirt untucked and never wore her namebar. I know schools are jerks to older girls but do they really enforce that crap with littles?
I had my toddler evaluated by early intervention last fall but she was "borderline" (whatever that means). I had them come back out yesterday because I think her speech is delayed and they agreed to qualify her. But she turns 3 in 2 months so we will not really have time to do anything. They'll help us transition to the school district services but I know it's going to be a hassle.
I'd be real tempted to send my kid in spaghetti straps anyway but I was the asshole at my school (with uniforms) who always had her shirt untucked and never wore her namebar. I know schools are jerks to older girls but do they really enforce that crap with littles?
I have no idea whether they enforce it, but I don't know if I want to take the risk. Maybe I'll see what the other kids wear the first week.
Transitional kindergarten. They offer it in my state (CA) for kids who are within three months of the cutoff for kindergarten.
So this dress code presumably applies to the elementary school as a whole? 5th grade and below?
Honestly, I'd write a strongly worded email to the principal and follow up with whoever I needed to about getting the wording changed. That they have referenced sex in the dress code for literal children is pretty appalling. I don't agree with those dress code rules in general, but the language about "sexualized" clothing is way too far.
Transitional kindergarten. They offer it in my state (CA) for kids who are within three months of the cutoff for kindergarten.
So this dress code presumably applies to the elementary school as a whole? 5th grade and below?
Honestly, I'd write a strongly worded email to the principal and follow up with whoever I needed to about getting the wording changed. That they have referenced sex in the dress code for literal children is pretty appalling. I don't agree with those dress code rules in general, but the language about "sexualized" clothing is way too far.
Yes, up to 6th grade. I may have kids there for the next decade, so I'm hesitant to start off our time there by complaining, but I'm considering it.
I talked to dd tonight about getting to bed by 9 for the school year. She, of course, was not thrilled about it. After I told her it wasn’t up for discussion, I turned to leave the room and she said “I will not be silenced!”
I've posted very little since I had my baby. Newborn fog and all, but I went back to work yesterday. 12 weeks was not enough. I miss my baby all day long and rushed home during my lunch just to see her for 5 minutes. I know it gets easier, but it definitely doesn't seem like it right now.
Post by StrawberryBlondie on Aug 7, 2019 10:07:50 GMT -5
DD starts K on 9/5 and I feel so lost about everything.
Like, there's a before and after school program at her school and the application wasn't available till last week. I have it turned in, and I assume I'm good, but the website also says "registration doesn't guarantee acceptance" and I know plenty of other parents in other districts whose before and after care program limits to a certain # of kids and fills up super quickly so I'm kind of low key panicking that I'll be scrambling the week before school starts to get before and after care.
There's a newsletter that we apparently get now, but it's clearly geared toward parents who already have kids at the school. There's an orientation but it's not till 8/28. Info on teachers, lunch programs, etc doesn't go out till late next week.
Is this normal? I feel like I should have a clearer idea what's going on by now.
DD starts K on 9/5 and I feel so lost about everything.
Like, there's a before and after school program at her school and the application wasn't available till last week. I have it turned in, and I assume I'm good, but the website also says "registration doesn't guarantee acceptance" and I know plenty of other parents in other districts whose before and after care program limits to a certain # of kids and fills up super quickly so I'm kind of low key panicking that I'll be scrambling the week before school starts to get before and after care.
There's a newsletter that we apparently get now, but it's clearly geared toward parents who already have kids at the school. There's an orientation but it's not till 8/28. Info on teachers, lunch programs, etc doesn't go out till late next week.
Is this normal? I feel like I should have a clearer idea what's going on by now.
Sadly very normal. I find K parents are often left in the dark. Do you have neighbors you can ask your questions to? That helped me
DD starts K on 9/5 and I feel so lost about everything.
Like, there's a before and after school program at her school and the application wasn't available till last week. I have it turned in, and I assume I'm good, but the website also says "registration doesn't guarantee acceptance" and I know plenty of other parents in other districts whose before and after care program limits to a certain # of kids and fills up super quickly so I'm kind of low key panicking that I'll be scrambling the week before school starts to get before and after care.
There's a newsletter that we apparently get now, but it's clearly geared toward parents who already have kids at the school. There's an orientation but it's not till 8/28. Info on teachers, lunch programs, etc doesn't go out till late next week.
Is this normal? I feel like I should have a clearer idea what's going on by now.
In general after school care is a major problem in this country. Most families work a job that ends around 5 but school ends anywhere from 11:30 to 3. School districts absolutely have not evolved to meet the modern work force needs. In my experience after (or before) care is not guaranteed and many parents have to scramble. I have gathered so many anecdotes of families not even being able to attend their neighborhood schools because they can’t secure an aftercare spot. Or stories of parents who have to leave work in the middle of the day to transport a kid from school to another site to attend aftercare or hire someone to do this. Most families are two income but schools are still operating on a model where mom stays home. Good luck. 😢
DD starts K on 9/5 and I feel so lost about everything.
Like, there's a before and after school program at her school and the application wasn't available till last week. I have it turned in, and I assume I'm good, but the website also says "registration doesn't guarantee acceptance" and I know plenty of other parents in other districts whose before and after care program limits to a certain # of kids and fills up super quickly so I'm kind of low key panicking that I'll be scrambling the week before school starts to get before and after care.
There's a newsletter that we apparently get now, but it's clearly geared toward parents who already have kids at the school. There's an orientation but it's not till 8/28. Info on teachers, lunch programs, etc doesn't go out till late next week.
Is this normal? I feel like I should have a clearer idea what's going on by now.
We didn't get any communication from the school until two weeks out, and teacher assignments aren't available until 1 week out. So I wouldn't start worrying yet, although I would try to follow up with aftercare and see when they'll confirm your spot.
StrawberryBlondie, all of that sounds pretty normal - check facebook for the pta page and whether there's a local school parent group. Our PTA facebook page has a lot of info, and then there's a lot of discussion/questions asked on the local school parent group. It's also full of drama which is super entertaining to me.
Ironically, I posted today on a post about dress code enforcement and how people need to worry about themselves and not what other kids are wearing.
Also, here's my rant about dress codes. THEY ARE DUMB AND IT IS BASICALLY ADULTS SEXUALIZING CHILDREN.
All I know is my 12 year old boy and his middle school friends roll up their sleeves and say "oooo my shoulders are so distracting!" because one of the rules is shoulders have to be covered. It's dumb AF. No kid sees shoulders and is like oooooo shoulders! Plus, at their age, they're all going through puberty anyway, I don't really think we need to pretend that they won't be distracted by or interested in other kids their age. That's going to happen whether they see a shoulder, or god forbid cleavage, or leg...
Post by StrawberryBlondie on Aug 7, 2019 11:41:00 GMT -5
Thanks everyone.
Part of the reason think I'm fine with the before/after care is that I've looked on some school district websites that I know cap the # of kids and fill up quickly and they: 1) do registration in like February, and 2). Make really really clear that space is limited etc. Ours says nothing like that.
At any rate, the school day is 8:45-4 so worst case scenario we can probably adjust our schedules most days.
Unfortunately, all of our neighbors that aren't like 100 are either stay-at-home moms or have really little kids so I don't really know anyone who can guide me through this.
Part of the reason think I'm fine with the before/after care is that I've looked on some school district websites that I know cap the # of kids and fill up quickly and they: 1) do registration in like February, and 2). Make really really clear that space is limited etc. Ours says nothing like that.
At any rate, the school day is 8:45-4 so worst case scenario we can probably adjust our schedules most days.
Unfortunately, all of our neighbors that aren't like 100 are either stay-at-home moms or have really little kids so I don't really know anyone who can guide me through this.
I'm in a different district, but I know the systems pretty well, if you need anything, LMK. If you tell me which school, I may know someone there too.
As for all that, it's normal. It sucks. For instance, incoming K parents were never told about before/after care until it was full and the waiting list was over 20 people long (we're a very small school/town, so that's a LOT for our town). And they only sent it out because a parent called the district.
My 8 year old is in size 12-14 clothes. He's the height of an average 12 year old.
*throws all her money at Target for yet another round of new pants*
I feel your pain. DD will be 8 in one month, and will probably be in 12-14-16 school uniform stuff. The 10-12 things we had from Old Navy barely fit at the end of the school year.
This year, I'm just buying a bunch of short sleeved dresses, and maybe an extra skort and polo shirt or two. She didn't wear a single long-sleeved thing last year and only wants to wear dresses with leggings. Done.
Part of the reason think I'm fine with the before/after care is that I've looked on some school district websites that I know cap the # of kids and fill up quickly and they: 1) do registration in like February, and 2). Make really really clear that space is limited etc. Ours says nothing like that.
At any rate, the school day is 8:45-4 so worst case scenario we can probably adjust our schedules most days.
Unfortunately, all of our neighbors that aren't like 100 are either stay-at-home moms or have really little kids so I don't really know anyone who can guide me through this.
I'm in a different district, but I know the systems pretty well, if you need anything, LMK. If you tell me which school, I may know someone there too.
As for all that, it's normal. It sucks. For instance, incoming K parents were never told about before/after care until it was full and the waiting list was over 20 people long (we're a very small school/town, so that's a LOT for our town). And they only sent it out because a parent called the district.