When you say they act like you're not a team player, what specifically are they saying or doing? If they say "well you're leaving at 5:30 and I have to stay until 8" then I would say "but I started at 6:30. I don't blame you for not wanting to work until 8 pm; I don't either. I start earlier so I can stop earlier." That way you aren't telling them how they should structure their day, you're just explaining your day.
If they say "well everyone has to pull their weight" then say something like "I am pulling my weight; I work from 6:30 am - 5:30 pm. I'm working 11 hour days just like everyone else, just in a slightly different start and stop times."
Ditto all this.
DO NOT suggest they start earlier, or offer to work with them at 6:30. All that just sounds... as said, self righteous. They may have their reasons for not starting early.
Agree with this too.
I frequently come in and leave earlier than the rest of my team. I make a point of sending a few emails first thing in the morning so everyone important knows that I’m there and working early. Also if there’s a way to set your working hours in your calendar, do that.
I’d reply to these requests with something like- “Hi Phil, I’m happy to help when I’m able. I’m an early riser and work from 6:30 until about 5:30, so if you can let me know your request by 3:00 (or insert whatever time is reasonable for you), I’ll let you know what I can add to my workload that day or when I start the next day.”
I’d reply to these requests with something like- “Hi Phil, I’m happy to help when I’m able. I’m an early riser and work from 6:30 until about 5:30, so if you can let me know your request by 3:00 (or insert whatever time is reasonable for you), I’ll let you know what I can add to my workload that day or when I start the next day.”
If other people are being asked to help too, then I think this is a good response.
But the OP should know best- is she being asked because everyone thinks she's knocking off "early" while they are all putting in tons of OT? IF that's why she specifically is being asked, then I don't think she should offer to help. If she's able to do all her work in 11 hours, then others should be able to do theirs in 11 hours. OR EVERYONE should be working extra time.
Post by foundmylazybum on Oct 5, 2019 12:53:22 GMT -5
What exactly is the "work" and how are you getting the perception they have the perception you arent a team player?
Personally, this isnt about time, it's about workload, and as you said you are also filled to the max and "fried" at the end of your day. Are you even really able to take on more?
If not, the answer is not about time, it's more along the lines of "I cant, my plate is also full right now."
If, the requests revolve around team tasks like meetings, planning etc and they are happening later in the day and you are skipping out..and then actually DO have lighter load, bc you time out earlier..then you might need to evaluate either communicating timings of stiff that works out for you ALL so the work is distributed properly.
I personally HATE the subtle finger pointing that "if you just got up earlier like me!"
You are also describing that you are fried! Its work load, productivity, and maybe distribution not time that is the issue.
"No, I can't help with that. We're all working 10-12 hour days, my long day just happens to start at 6:30 am. If I stayed any longer, I'd be working 15 hour days and that just isn't feasible."
Does your job always have long hours like this, or is this a new situation?
I think I would answer something like this because it points out that you are working the same hours without the condescending you should start at 6:30 to tone.
Honestly, I’d start working at 9 am like everybody else. It’s harder for people to take advantage of you that way. Can you do other things in the morning if you get up early? Get grocery shopping done, work out, whatever?
Dexteroni-no, I was going to post more details earlier which is why this got bumped but I deleted it because it was much more identifying. Basically the summary is that my boss wanted me to help someone else this week, which I have done but at the expense of adding more time to my own schedule. I have to schedule a meeting to discuss because I’m still angry about it. I was working late and the person I was supposed to be “helping” left for the day also and here I sit with a pile of work. The really bad part is that I have a higher assignment of work than everyone on my team in the first place. So in other words, when you do well, you’re rewarded with...more work.
omg that majorly sucks. I hate that your boss is in on it, too. Scheduling a meeting to talk about it is a good idea. I don't remember if you said in your OP, but is this temporary? And are you paid hourly or compensated in some other way for all this extra work?
Dexteroni-no, I was going to post more details earlier which is why this got bumped but I deleted it because it was much more identifying. Basically the summary is that my boss wanted me to help someone else this week, which I have done but at the expense of adding more time to my own schedule. I have to schedule a meeting to discuss because I’m still angry about it. I was working late and the person I was supposed to be “helping” left for the day also and here I sit with a pile of work. The really bad part is that I have a higher assignment of work than everyone on my team in the first place. So in other words, when you do well, you’re rewarded with...more work.
So in other words, when you do well, you’re rewarded with...more work.
This is a huge part of why I wanted out of my last position. It really sucks and it seems to happen to women a lot. I am sorry you are in that position. Stay strong and advocate for yourself!
I am salaried...my boss has no issue with us leaving a few hours early or if I need to go to an event for DS when it’s slow, but yeah, in my industry this is standard when it’s deadline time. My last boss was a bitch who would make you sit in the office 40 hrs “just in case” when it was slow or you had to take PTO, except if you were her of coarse...and you weren’t allowed to talk to other people, it was unprofessional in her opinion. This job was supposed to be my “upgrade.”