Any suggestions of 2 year old birthday/Christmas presents?
She loves her kitchen, balls, books, has recently discovered trampolines and I'd like to stay away from anything doll like.
DD is currently 28 months. Right now she likes Play Doh, coloring books and crayons, books (Little Critter, The Monster at the End of this Book, Dr. Seuss, a potty book), and her tea set.
Sorry it doesn’t help you, but her main interests are her dolls - she has a few baby dolls and stuffed animals, and she loves pushing them around in a stroller and putting “blankets” (actually a clean dish rag or cloth napkin) over them to put them to bed. MH made her a small doll bed too.
Any suggestions of 2 year old birthday/Christmas presents?
She loves her kitchen, balls, books, has recently discovered trampolines and I'd like to stay away from anything doll like.
Costumes are a big hit right now, anything to use his imagination. VERY active, so anything activity based. We have a mini trampoline we use year round in the living room and he loves it. Blocks are still a hit, as is anything related to cars, trucks, tractors, airplanes...He LOVES music and singing and dancing so anything with that is a hit. His strider bike is AMAZING--he went from barely being able to use it this summer (starting at about 21 months) to now at 25 months being able to balance 100%. I think if we didn't have snow by this winter he would be able to use pedals, 100%. Playdough is also popular but only holds his attention for so long.
hamster, LOVE that recommendation and have added it to the Amazon list!
New moms, what somewhat frivilous gift would you like for your newborn? We're going to meet our nephew and would love to bring something other than diapers. So far I was thinking Hanna Andersson pjs, super soft stuffed animal or blanket, gift card to nicer clothing store so she can pick out her own stuff, etc - looking for ideas though. Preferably something I can Amazon Prime since I am running out of time
I like the idea of a gift card to a boutique or something, fun $$$ clothes that I wouldn’t necessarily drop the money on but would love to have. Also, a fun Yeti or RTC tumbler for coffee/water.
My kid is throwing his first real tantrum. He's 19 months. He was doing something he wasn't supposed to, DH told him no, he lost it, then he smacked the dog, DH, then me. So we tell him sternly not to hit and to use his hands gently. He cried for half an hour. We ignored him at first, then started trying to distract him, although not directly so to not give him attention. What do you all do? How long do you let them cry? I don't want to reinforce his behavior by paying attention to the tantrum. But I don't want to eff up my kid either.
Should I be concerned that 6.5 no DD only ever rolls in one direction?
I would mention it to the pedi at your next appointment. In the meantime, try to encourage baby to roll the other way with fun stuff on one side that you want her to roll to. Does she turn her head in the other direction? Use that arm, etc?
My kid is throwing his first real tantrum. He's 19 months. He was doing something he wasn't supposed to, DH told him no, he lost it, then he smacked the dog, DH, then me. So we tell him sternly not to hit and to use his hands gently. He cried for half an hour. We ignored him at first, then started trying to distract him, although not directly so to not give him attention. What do you all do? How long do you let them cry? I don't want to reinforce his behavior by paying attention to the tantrum. But I don't want to eff up my kid either.
Man, this is SO rough. We went through a stage like this for what felt like forever. And it was so bad that daycare said we needed intervention. I was heartbroken. But he ended up growing out of it within like 2 months and has made such a difference. 1) this is normal, age appropriate behavior. 2) When your kid hits or throws or bites because they are angry, sternly stop them, tell them that is not ok, and move on. He might cry and scream and throw himself on the floor (mine did) and we would let him have his anger and then we would calmly sit down with him, hug him and explain that it is not ok to do those things, but that we still love him. Cuddles until the cries stop. Repeat as needed. If it got really bad and he would keep doing it we would just calmly pick him up and put him in his crib and tell him that is not ok, we are leaving while he calms down. We would go back in within a minute and cuddle him until he calmed down.
In general this stage sucked. It still happens, but he has calmed down a lot. I would say it was the worst around 18-23 months. We were desperate and calling child psychologists, creating comfort corners, doing everything we could to distract him. You have my sympathies.
My kid is throwing his first real tantrum. He's 19 months. He was doing something he wasn't supposed to, DH told him no, he lost it, then he smacked the dog, DH, then me. So we tell him sternly not to hit and to use his hands gently. He cried for half an hour. We ignored him at first, then started trying to distract him, although not directly so to not give him attention. What do you all do? How long do you let them cry? I don't want to reinforce his behavior by paying attention to the tantrum. But I don't want to eff up my kid either.
It's been different for each kid.
DS would have been pissed he wasn't able to do what he wanted. In that case, I don't care if you're crying. If whatever behavior is not acceptable and we told you no, the answer isn't going to change. I try to ignore.
DD is a people pleaser and completely loses it when she realizes she's done something wrong. She just keeps crying and doesn't know how to get herself out of her tantrum (which is really more about someone being 'upset' with her, and less about being told she can't do something). In that case, after a brief time out, I offer her a hug. We also say, 'Do you want a redo?' where she can try something again with the desirable behavior instead of whatever caused the issue.
My kid is throwing his first real tantrum. He's 19 months. He was doing something he wasn't supposed to, DH told him no, he lost it, then he smacked the dog, DH, then me. So we tell him sternly not to hit and to use his hands gently. He cried for half an hour. We ignored him at first, then started trying to distract him, although not directly so to not give him attention. What do you all do? How long do you let them cry? I don't want to reinforce his behavior by paying attention to the tantrum. But I don't want to eff up my kid either.
At that age we would just distract and redirect as soon as possible. She wasn't one for cuddles in those situations, and if we let it go on too long she would totally lose control and find it impossible to calm down on her own.
shauni27 she does use the other side/turn her head to that side equally it seems. At her 6 mo appointment the doctor said she looks great but I didn't bring it up because I hadn't realized it at the time. I'll try to encourage her to go the other way.
Should I be concerned that 6.5 no DD only ever rolls in one direction?
If all else is normal, I would try not to worry about it. DD1 was a really late roller. It took 6 months to roll over back to belly and then it wasn't until 8 months that she went the other way. It was *super* long after other kids we knew. But she was crawling by 9 months and walking at 12, so she caught up. I was pretty shocked when DD2 started rolling at 4 months! Funny how different kids can be.
My kid is throwing his first real tantrum. He's 19 months. He was doing something he wasn't supposed to, DH told him no, he lost it, then he smacked the dog, DH, then me. So we tell him sternly not to hit and to use his hands gently. He cried for half an hour. We ignored him at first, then started trying to distract him, although not directly so to not give him attention. What do you all do? How long do you let them cry? I don't want to reinforce his behavior by paying attention to the tantrum. But I don't want to eff up my kid either.
I refer to janet lansbury for stuff like this.
For the hitting, trying to block before it happens, or even if it does happen I still usually say "I can't let you hit". It's impulsive for them and they know its wrong so being too stern is thought to make them feel more isolated or ashamed which can lead to more shenanigans in the long run.
During the crying/losing it phase, I don't totally ignore, I try to say stuff like, "I know, you seem really upset about that, it seemed to make you sad when we told you no", etc. in a matter of fact kind of way. Acknowledging the feelings, but not coddling. And then you just have to wait it out!
It sounds kind of soft the way I'm describing it but if you ever listen to her stuff it makes a lot sense.