DD was in hospital for RSV for 4 nights shortly before her first birthday. They wouldn't let us out until she'd kept oxygen saturation levels above 96 for a whole night (without oxygen obviously).
DD was in hospital for RSV for 4 nights shortly before her first birthday. They wouldn't let us out until she'd kept oxygen saturation levels above 96 for a whole night (without oxygen obviously).
Oxygen saturation is what the pulse ox monitors right? He has consistently been at or above 96 but had rapid breathing & retractions.
Our families think it’s so weird DH isn’t here but only one parent could spend the night so I think it makes sense. He will come after the big kids go to school. The couch bed in the room wasn’t that comfortable but if we have to stay another night I’ll have DH bring me a pillow and blanket from home.
DD was in hospital for RSV for 4 nights shortly before her first birthday. They wouldn't let us out until she'd kept oxygen saturation levels above 96 for a whole night (without oxygen obviously).
Oxygen saturation is what the pulse ox monitors right? He has consistently been at or above 96 but had rapid breathing & retractions.
Our families think it’s so weird DH isn’t here but only one parent could spend the night so I think it makes sense. He will come after the big kids go to school. The couch bed in the room wasn’t that comfortable but if we have to stay another night I’ll have DH bring me a pillow and blanket from home.
Yes, it's really good he's keeping those levels! DD kept dipping to 93. In her case the rapid breathing was over after a day, so fingers crossed your little one gets over it quickly!
Re staying - we did the same: there was only a single fold out bed in the room and it made no sense for us both to try to squeeze on it. DH came first thing in the morning and stayed until after dinner every night (but we didn't have other kids at home).
ETA: I did ask him to bring me a pillow from home, it really helped being more comfortable.
Not at all? I have 2u2 intentionally, as do many people I know. The gap has its challenges but that’s true of any gap.
That’s good to hear. What about 2u1? That’s my preference but SO isn’t sold. I’m not sure it’ll even be possible since DD is ebf, but...
I wouldn't. Pregnancy is so hard on your body and you won't find a women's health medical professional to support that. You need time between kids to build up your nutritional reserves.
And re: EBF and periods... I EBF E1 from 4 months on and got my period back at 5.5 months. I'm EBF E2 and he's 8.5 months old and no sign of a period yet...
If your baby was hospitalized for RSV how long were they there for?
In the hospital with Ds3 right now
Poor baby! No advice or experience, just wanted to give you hugs! You should definitely ask your H to bring you some stuff from home to make yourself more comfortable. And I agree that it's not necessary to have both parents there overnight.
We dealt with RSV with both girls. DD1 was 19 days old and we got transferred by the local peds ER to Hopkins. She stayed 4 days.
DD2 was 7 months old and we were sent by ambulance from the pediatrician to the local peds ER. She only stayed one night.
We both stayed the first time, but only I stayed the second time. H met me at the ED and a friend kept DD1 (luckily I had dropped her off before we went to the doctor). H went home to stay with her. Honestly H was so low on PTO at the time that after stopping by the hospital with stuff for me on day 2 and making sure the baby was stable he went to work (with my full blessing). My sister had come in to town to stay with DD1.
I hope it’s a quick stay for you. The nurses were wonderful both times so please ask them for anything you might need.
I stayed over each night with DD. The room had a second bed and we never had a roommate so I slept there. MH went home each night (we live 10 minutes from the hospital, and we have pets that needed to be fed) and came back in the morning, and I’d go home in the morning to shower and change clothes and head back.
I don’t remember if MH went into work all those days. I stayed home from work the whole time but I don’t remember if I had my laptop to work remotely, although my boss was cool with it and my coworkers pitched in to cover me.
Not at all? I have 2u2 intentionally, as do many people I know. The gap has its challenges but that’s true of any gap.
That’s good to hear. What about 2u1? That’s my preference but SO isn’t sold. I’m not sure it’ll even be possible since DD is ebf, but...
I don't think you're insane for 2u1, but my doctor really discouraged it (also discouraged 2u2 though). Were both of your births vaginal? I'd wait longer if you had a c/s. My doctor recommended 2 years.
Also--I think there are challenges with all splits of age differences. DS1 and DS2 are 2.75 years apart and honestly, I often think things would be easier if DS1 was a little younger or older. It's been a challenging split. DS1 at 3 is SOOO needy of attention, potty training has been super attention needing, etc. The baby is so easy compared to him.
I don't think I could handle BFing and being pregnant.
That’s good to hear. What about 2u1? That’s my preference but SO isn’t sold. I’m not sure it’ll even be possible since DD is ebf, but...
I don't think you're insane for 2u1, but my doctor really discouraged it (also discouraged 2u2 though). Were both of your births vaginal? I'd wait longer if you had a c/s. My doctor recommended 2 years.
Also--I think there are challenges with all splits of age differences. DS1 and DS2 are 2.75 years apart and honestly, I often think things would be easier if DS1 was a little younger or older. It's been a challenging split. DS1 at 3 is SOOO needy of attention, potty training has been super attention needing, etc. The baby is so easy compared to him.
I don't think I could handle BFing and being pregnant.
My first was csection (6.5 years ago) and second was vaginal. We had pretty much agreed to be done if I ended up with a RCS because of the need to wait so long before having another.
This age gap is harder than I expected. DS is completely independent in so many ways, but he’s also been the center of my universe for a LONG time. He adores his baby sister, but is also very needy in a lot of ways (which is ok! I just didn’t anticipate some of it). Plus, I’m starting alllllllll over again; it would be nice to just get it over with at once. lol
Bfing and pregnancy and/or tandem nursing is one thing I hadn’t thought about much though.
Post by humpforfree on Dec 5, 2019 20:59:05 GMT -5
dock 2u2 almost killed me. Mine are 19m apart and it was SO HARD. Partially bc of their personalities, but I just didn’t feel like I could breathe until the youngest was like 2. There is a reason there is over a 4 year gap before this one comes 🤣 tbh after the last experience, H changed his mine on a third (though obviously reconsidered after a long time). I get the age/time concerns though..
I have nothing to add because I am a OAD parent, but my mom was pregnant with my sister when I was 4 months old. At the age of 39. It was not planned, lol.
DD’s daycare teacher asked if I want to send in some snacks for her and her friends, just to have in the room. The school provides breakfast, lunch, and snacks, so I don’t know why she’s asking me to send in something, but I digress.
I had some leftover Goldfish packets from Halloween so I sent those in this morning.
What’s something I can pick up at Costco this weekend that’ll appeal to 2-3 year olds and isn’t too junk foody? Idk if any kids in her room have food allergies. I don’t buy a lot of more packaged stuff for her ... I thought about sending a bag of clementines but it needs to be shelf stable.
DD’s daycare teacher asked if I want to send in some snacks for her and her friends, just to have in the room. The school provides breakfast, lunch, and snacks, so I don’t know why she’s asking me to send in something, but I digress.
I had some leftover Goldfish packets from Halloween so I sent those in this morning.
What’s something I can pick up at Costco this weekend that’ll appeal to 2-3 year olds and isn’t too junk foody? Idk if any kids in her room have food allergies. I don’t buy a lot of more packaged stuff for her ... I thought about sending a bag of clementines but it needs to be shelf stable.
Squeeze apple sauce? I know some have tons of sugar though. My 6yo still randomly eats them. Pirate booty? Also not great but not terrible. lol
DD’s daycare teacher asked if I want to send in some snacks for her and her friends, just to have in the room. The school provides breakfast, lunch, and snacks, so I don’t know why she’s asking me to send in something, but I digress.
I had some leftover Goldfish packets from Halloween so I sent those in this morning.
What’s something I can pick up at Costco this weekend that’ll appeal to 2-3 year olds and isn’t too junk foody? Idk if any kids in her room have food allergies. I don’t buy a lot of more packaged stuff for her ... I thought about sending a bag of clementines but it needs to be shelf stable.
Why are you providing snacks for her and her friends? This is so weird to me....
DD’s daycare teacher asked if I want to send in some snacks for her and her friends, just to have in the room. The school provides breakfast, lunch, and snacks, so I don’t know why she’s asking me to send in something, but I digress.
I had some leftover Goldfish packets from Halloween so I sent those in this morning.
What’s something I can pick up at Costco this weekend that’ll appeal to 2-3 year olds and isn’t too junk foody? Idk if any kids in her room have food allergies. I don’t buy a lot of more packaged stuff for her ... I thought about sending a bag of clementines but it needs to be shelf stable.
This is weird. Are they asking any other parents to provide snacks?
That’s good to hear. What about 2u1? That’s my preference but SO isn’t sold. I’m not sure it’ll even be possible since DD is ebf, but...
Take this with a grain of salt, as I am firmly OAD and the mere thought of having a second even now that DD is 5 makes me want to throw up, but 2u1 is definitely not something I'd recommend. For one, that would be incredibly hard on your body. For another, and this is purely anecdotal, my grandmother gave birth to my uncle on my mother's first birthday; a friend has 2 kids that are 10.5 months apart; my nieces are 9 months and 9 days apart. All of the parents involved agreed that the spacing was pure hell. As my brother put it, it's almost like having twins, except the babies are at slightly different stages making it even harder.
Post by timorousbeastie on Dec 6, 2019 13:50:20 GMT -5
Question for practicing Christians: how sacrilegious would it be if I gave DD the stable and animals from a nativity set (not any of the people) as a toy for her to play with? My grandmother, who has since died, gave me the set as a wedding present. She was devoutly Catholic. I was raised Catholic; I no longer practice, but the Catholic guilt remains. We celebrate Christmas in a purely secular form. I hung on to the nativity because of the connection to my grandma, but I've come to the realization that the set itself isn't that important to me. It's huge (the people are all a minimum of 11" tall), and it's just not something I'd ever display, so I don't see a reason to keep it any more. But before I packed it up to donate, I realized DD would love playing with the stable. There is zero chance that my mother will ever be in town this time of year for her to see DD playing with it, so she wouldn't know to be offended by my turning her mother's religious gift into a toy, and no one else who would ever see it would know it was a gift from my grandma. I'm leaning towards thinking it's no big deal, but Catholic guilt is strong!
I've been thinking of switching hair salons to one substantially closer to my house. I only go 3x a year probably, but I've been going to my girl for like 10 years. How do I do this? Can I just ghost?
DD’s daycare teacher asked if I want to send in some snacks for her and her friends, just to have in the room. The school provides breakfast, lunch, and snacks, so I don’t know why she’s asking me to send in something, but I digress.
I had some leftover Goldfish packets from Halloween so I sent those in this morning.
What’s something I can pick up at Costco this weekend that’ll appeal to 2-3 year olds and isn’t too junk foody? Idk if any kids in her room have food allergies. I don’t buy a lot of more packaged stuff for her ... I thought about sending a bag of clementines but it needs to be shelf stable.
This is weird. Are they asking any other parents to provide snacks?
The teacher said she asked all the other parents if they want to send in something. It doesn’t sound like it’s mandatory. But idk why she’s asking in the first place since school provides an afternoon snack a couple hours after lunch. She said something about some kids wanting a little bit more following their lunch, which I believe since little DD can eat like a horse. Their snack is about 3 hours after lunch so I think she wants to give them a little more to tide them over. Idk why they don’t just offer a bigger lunch portion in that case - idk if the school has regulations on portion sizes. I can ask.
She’s very nice but one of those people who just talks and talks and talks and goes around in circles, so half the time I don’t get what she’s saying or I don’t want to ask questions (especially since she just kind of talks over me anyway) as long as it doesn’t have anything to do with DD’s well being or something else important.
The teacher said she asked all the other parents if they want to send in something. It doesn’t sound like it’s mandatory. But idk why she’s asking in the first place since school provides an afternoon snack a couple hours after lunch. She said something about some kids wanting a little bit more following their lunch, which I believe since little DD can eat like a horse. Their snack is about 3 hours after lunch so I think she wants to give them a little more to tide them over. Idk why they don’t just offer a bigger lunch portion in that case - idk if the school has regulations on portion sizes. I can ask.
She’s very nice but one of those people who just talks and talks and talks and goes around in circles, so half the time I don’t get what she’s saying or I don’t want to ask questions (especially since she just kind of talks over me anyway) as long as it doesn’t have anything to do with DD’s well being or something else important.
Have you tried emailing instead? Or contacting the school director/principal?
The teacher said she asked all the other parents if they want to send in something. It doesn’t sound like it’s mandatory. But idk why she’s asking in the first place since school provides an afternoon snack a couple hours after lunch. She said something about some kids wanting a little bit more following their lunch, which I believe since little DD can eat like a horse. Their snack is about 3 hours after lunch so I think she wants to give them a little more to tide them over. Idk why they don’t just offer a bigger lunch portion in that case - idk if the school has regulations on portion sizes. I can ask.
She’s very nice but one of those people who just talks and talks and talks and goes around in circles, so half the time I don’t get what she’s saying or I don’t want to ask questions (especially since she just kind of talks over me anyway) as long as it doesn’t have anything to do with DD’s well being or something else important.
Have you tried emailing instead? Or contacting the school director/principal?
Not yet - she only mentioned it this morning. I’ll talk to them on Monday, and if I can’t get to someone I’ll email.
I don’t really object to it per se, I’m just wondering why they can’t give the kids the school’s own food if they would like more to eat.
Post by farfalla2011 on Dec 7, 2019 4:45:32 GMT -5
timorousbeastie I totally get why you feel weird about it, but, since the nativity isn't something you'd display, I dont really see a problem with letting your DD play with it.
I will say, I'm not an overly sentimental person and I don't believe things are ultimately sacred. As a Christian, to me, it's more about the relationship with God/Jesus and learning his character through scripture and living it out the best we can as flawed people and being thankful for the forgiveness we are offered since we are all flawed.
Post by farfalla2011 on Dec 7, 2019 4:52:00 GMT -5
dock I am very likely OAD, but to your question regarding 2u1, a friend of mine has 2 that are 11 months apart and her life is chaotic, but it works. From a practical standpoint, I just want to say kudos for even considering relations this early on! TMI, but, at 11.5 weeks, it totally doesn't sound appealing and the 2 attempts we've made have been less than enjoyable due to hormones from BFing. I can't even imagine trying for another right now.
timorousbeastie, I'm a practicing Christian and I say go ahead as long as the set itself is safe to play with. E1 has a toy nativity set (from Little People) that he's had since he was a year and a half, so it's been chewed on and thrown and and all that. And one of E2's current favorites is a Little People Noah's Ark, including a Noah.
dock I am very likely OAD, but to your question regarding 2u1, a friend of mine has 2 that are 11 months apart and her life is chaotic, but it works. From a practical standpoint, I just want to say kudos for even considering relations this early on! TMI, but, at 11.5 weeks, it totally doesn't sound appealing and the 2 attempts we've made have been less than enjoyable due to hormones from BFing. I can't even imagine trying for another right now.
We have been for a few weeks already, actually. I never in a million years (especially thinking back to the first year after DS was born) thought I’d say that, but here we are. lol