I gave a speech today and someone tweeted about it. Which I wouldn’t have known, except our company media people caught it. It wasn’t anything bad, but it feels incredibly weird and odd and creepy and slightly scary. So I’m glad it’s over. And glad I’m not on Twitter. Because creepy as all hell.
DH keeps adding unnecessary and time-consuming tasks to my to-do list. I’ve done everything Christmas-related alone except outdoor decorations and actually getting the tree in the house. I’ve even bought a number of my own gifts.
So now it’s crunch time, and I’m getting texts like “Hi! Do you have time to drive 30 minutes in a sleet storm to drop off some paperwork that I could easily fax? And then drive 50 minutes from there in the same sleet storm to pick up the kids?”
I ordered Dh a sweatshirt that he wanted. Now I cannot track the package. It was paid through PayPal and they have no tracking number. I called and filed a complaint with PayPal against the company because I emailed them 4 times with no response and their phone number goes to a fax. This is what happens when I am rushed because DH cannot be bothered to tell me in advance what he wants and is determined to make anyone buying him something insane.
I also have a stack of physics papers that Ds will be doing tonight, I don't care if the kid has to stay up all night to do it. Why he couldn't get these? I don't know, but he is not going to be happy with me or anyone tonight.
mae0111, that is what secure email is for if he doesn't have a fax or the other party doesn't have a fax. I know a ton of my clients have ditched the fax machine so I do a lot of secure email now.
I'm trying to find DD tall black boots for her Santa gift (she asked for). I can't find any in her size that don't cost $40 or more. Her foot has jumped from a 12 to a 2 in 4 months. I don't want to spend $$$ for boots that may fit for 4 months. Argh.
I'm also crying randomly at my desk and I know it is from lack of sleep and over thinking what DD coach dropped on me last night. The more I think about it the more I know going back to pre-team isn't the answer. But I feel like crap as I keep blubbering.
Post by traveltheworld on Dec 17, 2019 16:29:31 GMT -5
This is more of a vent. My BIL and SIL are coming from NYC to spend Christmas with us. I asked them if I could have 2 desk calendars delivered to their place at NYC and they could bring them so that I don't have to pay for expedited shipping. They said yes. According to FedEx, the calendars were delivered last Wednesday. I've sent multiple texts asking about whether they have them; because if not, I can follow up. They have yet to go to their mailbox to check. They live in an apartment. The mailbox is in the lobby - they literally walk by it to get to the elevators. They are leaving tonight and promised they'll check before they head to the airport. Ok...so if the calendars aren't there, it'd be too late to re-order.
I don't know why I decided to save the extra $25 expedited shipping. Never.again. BTW - these are the same people who will be spending 8 days at my house.
I’m a shareholder in my firm and won a lot of new business a few years ago, which came with equity bonuses. So now it’s year end 3 years later and it’s all vesting, which means I have to pay taxes on it. So DH and I were preparing to write a $40k check to my firm (which then goes to the IRS). I could sell shares back to cover it, but we think I my firm is a good investment and want to maintain our equity.
It was going to be ok because DH just got a bonus, but still sucked that we wouldn’t see any of that bonus money. I knew I was also receiving some deferred cash at year end, and thought it was going to be somewhere in the $5-$10k range after taxes. I asked our accounting dept to let me know exactly how much I would be receiving after taxes, and they said over $20k. I think maybe I’m getting a year end bonus and I just don’t know because I haven’t had my review yet? This would be a giant pleasant surprise if the taxes weren’t due at the same time - I would be getting new floors! But at least we don’t have to come up with as much cash from our savings, so it was still a decently nice surprise.
I made cookie dough just to eat on my lunch break today. No wonder I can't lose weight. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I almost did this at 10pm last night. We were watching holiday baking championship or some other nonsense on food network because idk why and dh said he wanted some. I almost did it. I have the ingredients. But it was 10pm. And I had more work to do and felt too lazy.
I’m checking the weather and trails multiple times per day..we leave Monday for a week long ski trip to Canada. We’ve never been away at Christmas. Never been away on a ski trip as a family, just some days here and there.
So far there are only 6 out of 60some trails open....I hope it improves.....
Post by librarychica on Dec 17, 2019 21:07:20 GMT -5
I need some reassurance. My kids will get a ton from grandparents for Christmas. It’s okay that they each get one big gift (her first-ever tablet for DD1 and a medium Barbie house for DD2), one small gift and their stockings at home, right? We are going on vacation and they haven’t really asked for anything not already covered by my in-laws ...but I find myself seized by self-doubt.
I need some reassurance. My kids will get a ton from grandparents for Christmas. It’s okay that they each get one big gift (her first-ever tablet for DD1 and a medium Barbie house for DD2), one small gift and their stockings at home, right? We are going on vacation and they haven’t really asked for anything not already covered by my in-laws ...but I find myself seized by self-doubt.
This is totally fine! We do the 4 gift Christmas - want, need, read, wear. Then Santa brings one big want for them. It’s plenty!
Confession: DD1 has been very into the idea of a canopy bed. She has an antique 4-poster bed that was my great grandmother’s, and she’s always trying to attach a sheet to the top to make a canopy.
So I ordered her a bed tent to the tune of $100 for Christmas. And since I got one for her, I got one for DD2.
She took the canopy down 2 weeks ago and never mentioned it again. So I’m returning them both and saving myself the trouble of setting up, trying to change a bed with a tent on, etc.
Post by covergirl82 on Dec 18, 2019 9:29:39 GMT -5
waverly, so sorry to hear that! Do not give her Tamiflu. Get Oscillococcinum and give that to her according to the instructions on the box. It's best to not drink water 15 minutes before or after taking it (at least that's what I was told by a homeopath). Also give her elderberry (gummies or syrup), and vitamins C and D3. (And probably everyone in your family should take the elderberry and vitamins C and D3 to help you stay healthy.) Hope she is feeling better soon!
Post by covergirl82 on Dec 18, 2019 9:40:24 GMT -5
I'm spending way too much mental energy worrying about if I will take this new job if it's offered to me. And then worrying about if I give my manager and director the opportunity to try and keep me. Ugh. My current job has good intangibles, like the people I work with, and my 9/80 schedule and WFH 2 days a week, which I may not have with the new job. But the new job will pay more and has a bonus opportunity and better retirement contributions. And DH said he was cool with me going part-time once we get the house paid off, so the sooner we can make that happen, the better.
I need some reassurance. My kids will get a ton from grandparents for Christmas. It’s okay that they each get one big gift (her first-ever tablet for DD1 and a medium Barbie house for DD2), one small gift and their stockings at home, right? We are going on vacation and they haven’t really asked for anything not already covered by my in-laws ...but I find myself seized by self-doubt.
I think that's plenty. DS and DD are each getting 1 gift from us. They'll each get a gift from Santa, my parents, my BIL and each other.
I need some reassurance. My kids will get a ton from grandparents for Christmas. It’s okay that they each get one big gift (her first-ever tablet for DD1 and a medium Barbie house for DD2), one small gift and their stockings at home, right? We are going on vacation and they haven’t really asked for anything not already covered by my in-laws ...but I find myself seized by self-doubt.
I think that's plenty. DS and DD are each getting 1 gift from us. They'll each get a gift from Santa, my parents, my BIL and each other.
Yeah the big gift is from “Santa.”
I’m over it! On to new things to be anxious about! Gotta love this time of year.
DS spent all night last night studying and finishing any work not turned in for his college physics class. I took his Xbox and phone. He turned everything in today and took his final this morning. He got a 100% on the final and finished with an 88% in the class. Up from an 81%
I am glad he pulled it together at the last minute. It shouldn't have been last minute. His studying was occasionally interrupted with outburst from me about how some kids don't have his advantages, sacrifices we have made to put back money since he was 1 for college, it shouldn't take his mom to get things done, all we ask is to do your best and not turning in work is no ones best, you will have to turn in college transcripts for every job you ever have until you die....etc.....
Another random... my kids had a school Christmas concert last night. They have a new music teacher this year and it felt very much like she had something to prove because the song selection was decidedly not Christmas-y. And it was not a holiday concert - it was a Christmas concert. It’s a Catholic school. So, should be all things CHRISTMAS.
I have a feeling the will not last after last night.
On the plus side, I did not have another run-in with any moms, despite them choosing to sit very near us. One husband tried to engage pleasantly with my DH, who stared at him for a minute and walked away. I think it’s possible that he doesn’t know the extent of the shitstorm his wife created.
One more - I’m putting together treat trays for the teachers as a thank you. I’m delivering tomorrow to the 2 areas where the staff is likely to go, along with some Starbucks K-cups. I’m choosing to do it tomorrow in the hopes that it’s all gone by the time the librarian comes in on Friday. Because I’m petty. Merry Christmas!!
Question for you all - this is the first year my firm has assigned admins by person instead of client, so I’m new to getting a gift for an admin. She’s relatively new, so I don’t know much about what she likes to do.
What should I give her for the holidays?
I was thinking maybe a gift card for a cafe near the office where people often go for lunch and a thank you note? Is that too boring?
I am pissed that no amount of planning ever works with my son and his class..like every event is at 11am.. how the hell do I attend that? Vent over I'm just frustrated.
divanerd today I had school events at 8 am (a time I helped select since I’m co-room parent) and 11 am. So most of the day is shot. The 11 am 2nd grade concert was pretty adorable though.
I'm just venting I wish some events were in the morning or during an early afternoon...I just feel this school year I've not had the chance to attend anything during day hours hardly or I'm racing to get there and back for a meeting...
divanerd- solidarity. DS’s party is tomorrow from 10:30 to 11:30. I’m burning a whole vacation day. For me it works well because we can’t carry over much leave so at year end I’m always trying to burn it.
Question for you all - this is the first year my firm has assigned admins by person instead of client, so I’m new to getting a gift for an admin. She’s relatively new, so I don’t know much about what she likes to do.
What should I give her for the holidays?
I was thinking maybe a gift card for a cafe near the office where people often go for lunch and a thank you note? Is that too boring?
That's perfect! This year I gave my admin a target gift card, that's even more boring! I know she'll get use out of it though and I think that's what counts.