Flameful/Randoms

[Captain Catnip]

I know this is a huge deal, and am taking what precautions I can and encouraging all to, but I'm most pissed that this pushed back an interview I was really looking forward to. I'm afraid this will make the position go away and I will be stuck at my current job.

I've been neglecting my knitting and online learning I want to do so that I can play Stardew Valley on Switch. I haven't played this much of a video game in so, so long.

[eb777888]

We just got SIP for our county. I feel like I'm going to crawl out of my skin. I absolutely hate this, and I'm an introvert that spends a lot of time inside as it is. Ugh. I know how important it is, it's just driving me up the fucking wall. And David and my H who are total social extroverts seem to be handling it wonderfully. I just feel like I'm wound up so tight.

[larzhope]

Mar 24, 2020 12:36:29 GMT -5 Captain Catnip said:

I know this is a huge deal, and am taking what precautions I can and encouraging all to, but I'm most pissed that this pushed back an interview I was really looking forward to. I'm afraid this will make the position go away and I will be stuck at my current job.

I've been neglecting my knitting and online learning I want to do so that I can play Stardew Valley on Switch. I haven't played this much of a video game in so, so long.

I'm in the same boat regarding jobs. I've had several final round interviews over zoom the last few weeks and the one I really want is now putting the position on hold. they are trying to get approval to hire anyway but I'm a bit worried that if they do, I'll be the first to go if layoffs are needed.

[Pilsy]

@@@@ and flameful

I'm irrationally resentful of everyone who's working from home but without young children in the home.

[ohgillian]

A few of my colleagues are still going into the office rather than WFH, and they're kind of "hogging" all the work, for lack of a better description. It's frustrating! I want to be useful. The day is very long doing 8 hours of WFH when I don't have 8 hours of work to do and just have to sit here online being available, cleaning out old emails.

I have offered repeatedly to work on the main project, have asked for the call in info for conference calls, and basically done everything I can think of other than having a big awkward convo about why there's not more for me to do. I've taken some optional webinars and sat in on optional conf. calls just to still be working.

I'm going to let it ride for now and see how it goes in a few more days, esp because I think they are just less comfortable with technology generally (well I know they are) and this is likely a big factor.

In the meantime, the day lasts for years.

[nospaekae]

I'm annoyed that I didn't cancel my gym membership before this all started. I had been meaning to for weeks, but you have to do it in person and I just kept putting it off. They are now obviously closed but are asking people to maintain their memberships as a donation - they run kind of like a YMCA and have camps and scholarships and stuff. Membership isn't cheap and I feel like an ass canceling now, but I haven't gone in months and it is a bill that I really want to get rid of. I've already paid for this month and I wouldn't ask for refund on that.

[ssmjlm]

I'm jealous that DH gets to go into work and I'm the one working and parenting. I love my kid, but there is a reason I work. I'm not SAHM material and I'm certainly not WAHM material.

Obviously DH going to work puts us in danger, but at least he gets to leave.

[Patsy Baloney]

I’m mad that for every fuck who refuses to stay home and not pass along disease that’s another day I have to go where my son can’t get his surgery to close the cleft in his soft palate.

Every single time I hear someone bitching about it, that’s all I can think about. Shut the fuck up and enjoy your at-home bump in the road so my kid can have good speech, thanks!

[psychmom]

Being stuck in the house for months on end with the kids is one thing... but being stuck in the house for months on end with DH is too much. He's driving me crazy.

[icedcoffee]

Patsy Baloney, I'm mad at them for you. I am so sorry. That is frustrating.

[icedcoffee]

Mar 24, 2020 12:51:05 GMT -5 Pilsy said:

@@@@ and flameful

I'm irrationally resentful of everyone who's working from home but without young children in the home.

This.  But I'm also a little resentful of people who don't have to WFH so they can actually entertain their kids properly.

But seriously, I would have loved the shit out of being stuck at home before I had kids.  I am dreaming of just sitting around with wine or coffee and a puzzle and a good movie.  But I can't do that with my 2 kids annoying me.

[tacokick]

I’m sad we can’t do anything fun for our 15th anniversary tomorrow! It’s already been a rough year with my mom’s brain cancer and my FIL’s deteriorating health. We’ve also been limiting going out/spending money because we need a new roof so this was like the one big night out we’ve had planned since the fall.

[bears]

Mar 24, 2020 13:10:21 GMT -5 tacokick said:

I’m sad we can’t do anything fun for our 15th anniversary tomorrow! It’s already been a rough year with my mom’s brain cancer and my FIL’s deteriorating health. We’ve also been limiting going out/spending money because we need a new roof so this was like the one big night out we’ve had planned since the fall.

Is there any way that you can make it special? Dress up? Have a special dessert?

[mx27]

Mar 24, 2020 12:51:05 GMT -5 Pilsy said:

@@@@ and flameful

I'm irrationally resentful of everyone who's working from home but without young children in the home.

yes! I am fucking miserable at home trying to work with 2 young kids. And today is one of my worst days.

[Deleted]

I feel ridiculous because even with a SIP mandate my life still has not changed. I go to work, and the barn and home. Just like I did before all of this. Because our mandate states that an essential activity that is allowed is outdoor exercise...which for me is riding my horse. I am taking precautions, tacking up in my stall, not using common areas, but other than that and constantly sanitizing the shop at work, nothing in my life has changed through all of this.

[Deleted]

DH is considered essential but doesn't have a ton of work. He's been leaving later in the morning and getting home super early and I'm annoyed by it. Well technically, I'm annoyed by him being here.

[scout8]

They are starting to close the trails around me. I feel like that's all I have left and now that's going too.

[Pilsy]

Mar 24, 2020 13:19:34 GMT -5 mx27 said:

Mar 24, 2020 12:51:05 GMT -5 Pilsy said:

@@@@ and flameful

I'm irrationally resentful of everyone who's working from home but without young children in the home.

yes! I am fucking miserable at home trying to work with 2 young kids. And today is one of my worst days.

Virtual hugs. I get it. 

Please, please, please try to be kind to yourself. You are not alone in any of this, be it the unproductive employee part or the inattentive parent part. You are human, and you can only do so much. 

[lilypad1126]

psychmom, OMG, being stuck at home with my H is a nightmare. I had a video call today and he spent the entire time trying to get my attention. For what ended up being a super dumb question (like, should I do a load of laundry?). UGH. One of is going to kill the other long before we have to worry about CV.

Also, I hate WFH. My job takes so much longer to do at home and I actually miss talking to people. I hate being stuck in my small house ALL DAY. Even though I take walks and get outside, I just hate that there's no difference now between being at home and being at work. I'm not really an extrovert, but I am going crazy being in the same small space for 24 hours a day.

[mel]

I'm annoyed at all the moms in my community that are taking distance learning to a whole other level. They make me feel like a shit mom because I'm at work and DH is home and only can/wants to do the bare minimum with DS2. I'm SO OVER seeing all these cutesy things they're doing with their kids. Just do the distance learning work assigned and MOVE THE FUCK ON.

[tacokick]

Mar 24, 2020 13:17:52 GMT -5 bears said:

Mar 24, 2020 13:10:21 GMT -5 tacokick said:

I’m sad we can’t do anything fun for our 15th anniversary tomorrow! It’s already been a rough year with my mom’s brain cancer and my FIL’s deteriorating health. We’ve also been limiting going out/spending money because we need a new roof so this was like the one big night out we’ve had planned since the fall.

Is there any way that you can make it special? Dress up? Have a special dessert?

I think we will probably make something fun for dinner, I did buy a lot of frozen shrimp earlier this month! Maybe I will bake something? I have lot of misc baking ingredients. It just seems sort of blah

[Pilsy]

Mar 24, 2020 13:36:50 GMT -5 mel said:

I'm annoyed at all the moms in my community that are taking distance learning to a whole other level. They make me feel like a shit mom because I'm at work and DH is home and only can/wants to do the bare minimum with DS2. I'm SO OVER seeing all these cutesy things they're doing with their kids. Just do the distance learning work assigned and MOVE THE FUCK ON.

I'm choosing to believe they're insecure and looking for validation. If it's really about the kids, they don't need to brag about it or post it on SM, you know? 

You're not a shit mom, I promise. 

[verycontrary247]

E is WFH for the next 2 months. He is a systems engineer with some side projects, so he has a full desk/monitor setup at home on one side of our living room.

As of today, I am WFM 3 days a week. I have no desk setup, so I'm working from my laptop on the couch. This would be fine, except he's got the *loudest* keyboard ever. Every single letter pressed is an intrusion to my thought process.

Note: I like mechanical keyboards as well, but I use mine at work, where I am in my own office and no one has to listen to me.

[TR]

Mar 24, 2020 13:44:36 GMT -5 Pilsy said:

Mar 24, 2020 13:36:50 GMT -5 mel said:

I'm annoyed at all the moms in my community that are taking distance learning to a whole other level. They make me feel like a shit mom because I'm at work and DH is home and only can/wants to do the bare minimum with DS2. I'm SO OVER seeing all these cutesy things they're doing with their kids. Just do the distance learning work assigned and MOVE THE FUCK ON.

I'm choosing to believe they're insecure and looking for validation. If it's really about the kids, they don't need to brag about it or post it on SM, you know? 

You're not a shit mom, I promise. 

I'm not a mom, so maybe I should just STFU, but can't we just let everyone do whatever works for them? If they want to post what they're doing for their kids because it makes them feel better, so what? They're not responsible for how that makes others feel. And people who aren't doing stuff like that, that's ok, too.

This is assuming those other moms aren't posting that anyone NOT doing the same thing is a horrible mom, I think everybody needs to just give everyone else a little grace right now.

[sotally tober]

My H has to go into work. The man only listens to the news, all day. He is SO negative it is exhausting. He's negative on his own and this is just compounding it. Add to the fact that he's a worrier. And again, the negative. I'm exhausted from him.

I feel horrible for my coworkers trying to parent young kids and work - fortunately my 14 year old is pretty self sufficient.

[bears]

Mar 24, 2020 13:43:59 GMT -5 tacokick said:

Mar 24, 2020 13:17:52 GMT -5 bears said:

Is there any way that you can make it special? Dress up? Have a special dessert?

I think we will probably make something fun for dinner, I did buy a lot of frozen shrimp earlier this month! Maybe I will bake something? I have lot of misc baking ingredients. It just seems sort of blah

I don't mean to be dismissive of the situation. Everything sucks right now. I'm just faking it, which prevents some spiraling.

Like, sometimes, I tell my family that I love them as a reminder when I'm losing my patience.

[marie]

This is my second week home with the kids, but my first week where DH is home too. I am also WFH. I was fine last week, but I cannot do it this week with him here! How the hell can I hear you in every room of our 2500+ square foot house while you are on a conference call?!

[readyin07]

Mar 24, 2020 13:36:50 GMT -5 mel said:

I'm annoyed at all the moms in my community that are taking distance learning to a whole other level. They make me feel like a shit mom because I'm at work and DH is home and only can/wants to do the bare minimum with DS2. I'm SO OVER seeing all these cutesy things they're doing with their kids. Just do the distance learning work assigned and MOVE THE FUCK ON.

I'm taking this as TIC so I'm right there with you.

 I texted my friend there are 3 people I'm hating right now:

The over-doers with the homeschooling business. 

The ones who are working out so much more now that they're home.

And of course the people who aren't taking this seriously.

[Patsy Baloney]

A humorous thing I’m contemplating: how far into the many shelter in place orders do I go before I start sending out my scout’s cookie sales link again?

She’s awfully close to 400 boxes sold, and nothing suits emotional eating better than overpriced cookies delivered to your doorstep 😂

[mel]

Mar 24, 2020 13:47:47 GMT -5 TR said:

Mar 24, 2020 13:44:36 GMT -5 Pilsy said:

I'm choosing to believe they're insecure and looking for validation. If it's really about the kids, they don't need to brag about it or post it on SM, you know? 

You're not a shit mom, I promise. 

I'm not a mom, so maybe I should just STFU, but can't we just let everyone do whatever works for them? If they want to post what they're doing for their kids because it makes them feel better, so what? They're not responsible for how that makes others feel. And people who aren't doing stuff like that, that's ok, too.

This is assuming those other moms aren't posting that anyone NOT doing the same thing is a horrible mom, I think everybody needs to just give everyone else a little grace right now.

I do understand this, and I could be reading the tone of the posts wrong, but it seems very "holier than thou" from some of them. I admit I'm a ball of anxiousness and am not coping with the stress well at all, so it could be clouding my judgement.