Update: Dh's teaching and coaching schedule (anAW)

[80sjunkie]

So I posted a few months ago about how awful DH's spring semester is with his teaching demands and coaching both varsity and JV with no assistant. Although many of you suggested stepping down from coaching, his principal made it clear that this was not an option for the time being. A few weeks ago he was offered a position at a private school and we decided to make the move. Funny thing is he wasn't really looking.

Pros:
Later start time (from 6:45am to 8:00am)
Commute goes from 35 miles to 10!
Smaller classes (from 35 to 15 students)
Better students
More resources
Department chair that values coaching, so she's given him a great schedule

Cons:
Small pay cut
No pension

He's still a head varsity coach, but he isn't starting a program from scratch. He will have several assistants, he gets his own budget, etc. He's always loved coaching, but it was so much work at his current school that he was starting to hate it. Frankly, anyone that thinks it is ok for a teacher to put in 70+ hours during the week and plan and grade on the weekends is crazy.

Unfortunately some people that have said some hurtful things to him for leaving, and I know that many people are disappointed, but we have to do what's best for us. Thankfully the players and some of his colleagues and parents have been amazingly understanding. One parent even told him that if he had the 20k a year to send his kid to the new school he would just so he could keep coaching him. I'm really proud of DH and I'm super excited about what this change means for us.

** I've been asked to give specifics about what he teaches and coaches, but I think that's just too much identifying information.

[noodleoo]

Oh, that's great! Congrats! To those who make hurtful comments, that's just rude and he should try not to take it personally. In a way it is a compliment, they are very sad to see him go. But this sounds like a much better opportunity for him to give him work and life balance and so that he doesn't end up hating something he loves (coaching). Anyone who would expect him to stay around when a better opportunity comes along is just being unrealistic. You guys have to do what makes sense for your family. Good luck!

[luvmagoldn]

That is great news! And boo to those who said hurtful things. Like they wouldn't do what's best for their families?

[dexteroni]

Good for him! It sounds like you'll have a lot less stress with this new schedule. As for the comments, surely your DH knows how completely in-sane people get over school sports and knows to ignore them. Also a lot of people are azzholes. Congratulations!

[dreamgirl]

Congrats! That is very exciting

[MrsManners]

Yay for you guys!

[hannamarin]

Those people wouldnt hesitate to do what is best for their family and leave you in the dust
Good for your H

[Awkward]

Woah, for 20k tuition I'd imagine it has better resources, ha. But congratulations! Having a positive work/life balance is so important.

[80sjunkie]

Thanks ladies! For a while we were hesitant to give up the pension because it is a great defined benefit, but there are no guarantees that it'll remain the same. Plus, if you assume that SS will stay the same, SS plus a 6% match from the private school actually beats out the pension (he was not eligible for SS before). Regardless of what happens with SS or the pension, the uncertainty actually made us feel a lot better about choosing the new job.