Great weekend. Thankfully spent most of it at a friends pool. DD swam 3 days, so she is exhausted. I worked a little Saturday and Sunday, but not too bad.
The downfall of the weekend. Friday I am working away in the kitchen. I see my neighbor pull in my driveway, with a big trailer, with DS's truck on it. I am running from window to window to see if it is crashed. Apparently, it blew up about 2 miles away. He got a ride to the neighbor, who he works for, and knew had a trailer, and had it hauled back. Good thing is solved a problem on his own, bad thing would have been a heads up for me seeing it pulled down the driveway. Thankfully the BIL has a spare truck he can borrow for now, because it looks like it will need a new engine. We said something about just selling it and getting something decent, but DS said he will NEVER sell the truck. Well, he will be the one paying to fix it. DH and I are looking hard for a car for DD, even though she won't need it for over a year, it will at least give us a back up for when DS's piece of junk goes down.
PS. I would have never agreed to this stupidity if I knew anything about vehicles. DH and DS had this plan to go over this truck and fix it up and replace a bunch of stuff. Obviously they missed something.
We had a good weekend. It was super hot so we spent most of the weekend by the pool. On Friday I took the kids and a neighborhood friend to buy a tie dye kit and shirts, so that kept them busy for a while. Saturday DD1 went to swim at a neighbor’s house, then blackberry picking. It was such a peaceful day with just DH, DD2, and me floating in the pool.
Sunday everyone was home, fighting was nonstop, so we banned the kids from the pool. We played cards, floated, listened to music. We also had a very long and deep conversation about our relationship and what we need to do to fix it. He said a lot of things I didn’t want to hear, but needed to. I said the same to him. It was productive. For the first time in a long time, I am hopeful.
Decent weekend here. Last night we did a movie night with the kids. set up a mini candy bar and some popcorn and laid out blankets and pillows in the living room. It was a good way to wind down until all of them started battling it out to mimic the fight scenes. But, they had fun!
Not so fun update: Beau's ex is dating someone who lives halfway across the country. She keeps messing with the custody arrangement so that she can fly back and forth there for longer stretches when she doesn't have their son. Apparently she's barely working, even though WFH is totally an option for her. She took his son there on vacation a week ago, via plane, without asking first and despite any concerns beau had about air travel, the location they were traveling to and case numbers, etc. It's a mess. Now she's started feeding beau's son the idea that "If daddy agrees to move out there too, then we can move in with mom's boyfriend! Wouldn't that be so fun!" Again, hasn't said anything to beau about it, just telling their son about how fun it would be and that he could go to a new school out there, etc. so he can tell his dad about it and ask him to do it. I really hope it doesn't turn ugly, but I don't have high hopes given her behavior already. Ugh.
Post by librarychica on Jul 20, 2020 9:13:07 GMT -5
We had a pretty good weekend. I’ve been very busy at work and so I did a little work here and there as did H and of course laundry/grocery/etc, but mostly we relaxed. The kids and I did a couple fun science experiments, H helped the oldest build a giant fort out of the box my desk came in, the girls played a lot of dress up. I started a new book. H and I are trying to max time together before we have to switch to opposing schedules next month.
Today is going full-swing at work and I’m making good progress. Yay! I have a big presentation this afternoon that was supposed to be handled by someone else and I have to step in last minute. Boo!
It was a good weekend overall. We went to a state park that has a beach and had a blast. They were doing a great job limiting the number of people allowed, so we had to leave by 8am to get a spot, but it was a lovely day. I got roped into a project with way too short of a deadline for work. Which meant we had a 9am team conference call on Sunday morning, which I took at said park for 1.5 hours. If it all hadn't come down from above I would have said no to the project, but it did. At least I got to sit on the beach for part of the call.
We had a good weekend. The YMCA is holding weekend skateboard camp sessions since they can’t open to drop-ins. DD had so much fun in the 9-12 session Saturday that she had me sign her up for Sunday morning too and DH took her to buy a new skateboard Saturday afternoon. Both older kids are in skate camp all this week.
Had a friend family with two toddler girls over on Saturday and the kids had a great time in the pool and on the trampoline, and DS2 was thrilled to have some kids his own age to play with. Then yesterday we had two of the three potential pod families over to talk plans for that while kids swam. Oh, and baby slept 8 hours straight Saturday night.
Then last night, DH and I had a giant argument. It was bound to happen eventually with quarantine/four kids including a newborn/my parents now having been gone for a month so no relief valve to sometimes give us a non-workday minute without all four kids. He was definitely in the wrong - he freaked out that the kids were misbehaving and locked himself in his office to leave me to do dinner and baths for all four, and didn’t come out even when I knocked. When he did emerge to do bedtime he was still pissy instead of apologetic so I let him know that wasn’t cool and we screamed at each other in front of the kids. We went to bed without resolving it but he must be feeling repentant because this morning he got the older kids completely ready and drove them to camp (I’ve been doing all the transportation since I’ve been on maternity leave).
Post by supertrooper1 on Jul 20, 2020 10:46:26 GMT -5
It was a good weekend. Saturday DS and I went to our unique local outdoors store for binoculars and I let him pick out a toy in their big toy room. Then we went to a berry farm to pick raspberries and blueberries. We had dinner at beau's and went swimming. The weather is finally nice here and the pool wasn't freezing for once. Sunday, DS, my mom and I went on a whale watching lunch cruise. It was nice to be out on the water on a sunny day and we saw some orcas and seals.
We had a nice weekend. DD was super grounded for Friday (not allowed to leave her room) and has a technology ban for another two weeks. It's really nice.
We also booked a vacation house for the first week of August... the whole neighborhood is going, and we got a huge house in the middle of wine country with a pool. Beach within driving distance, but I'm not sure we'll even bother trying to make it since summer weather at the beach tends to be hit or miss.
I've also got DH to commit that we'll go just as family to beach during fall break (assuming there is one) and get a nice house on off season prices. Fall on the central coast usually has better weather than the summer.
Spent the weekend in our backyard - bon fire, swimming, sprinklers, bike rides and music on the patio. I had to ice every couple of hours and it was no big deal doing it on the patio or in front of the tv. Saturday morning, DD3 and I were up by ourselves for the first couple of hours and it was such a great way to start the day. We read books and I drank coffee on the patio while watching birds and then we went for a walk. DH spent most of the weekend working in our basement. It's starting to feel real! The landscapers are coming tomorrow to start our second patio/fire pit project.
The town also visited us and want to help us "fix" our water problem in the ditch. I guess you have to try to fix it yourself to get their attention.
Post by erinshelley21 on Jul 20, 2020 14:02:34 GMT -5
Our weekend was just meh.
Saturday I had a rummage so DS could have a lemonade stand. We only had 6 customers, but that's about all he could handle. It was fun just hanging out with him all morning though. All 4 of us went to a food truck festival after and then swimming at BIL's.
Sunday the kids were ridiculous and of course DH was at work. They took turns being monsters when they weren't doing it simultaneously. There were some ugly moments all throughout the day so I was very happy when it was over.
DH and I are both off today and MIL is busy with stuff, so the kids have been home all day. Its been a MUCH better day all around.
Friday I hosted the neighbor kids for scootering. Friday afternoon I did some work because it is my WFH day. Saturday was the playdate. Sunday was do all the laundry in the entire house. Sunday morning it stormed so we all read the paper or books for a while.
Saturday we took the kayaks and my SUP. DD did amazing paddling my 16ft kayak and then cruised on my SUP. She had her 1st swim off the SUP when DH bumped her by accident. Sunday both DD and I were super tired and sore. DH was pissed we didn't want to go out.
Dh and ds has a race this weekend and DS2 and I weren’t allowed to attend (Covid) so he had a play date with his BFF and we stayed for a yummy dinner and I got to hang out with my friend too. I love easy play dates like that.
Other than That I binge watched Anne with an E on Netflix and did laundry, ordered groceries, and cleaned the house.
I also made up a game to help ds with the placement exam where we name a part of speech then Go back and forth with examples. So we say adjective and ds1 and I name adjectives and ds2 names a color (also an adjective). It’s super nerdy but it seems to really be helping ds2. And in what word are second graders expected to be diagramming sentences? I will admit, I had to look up what an “object” was but to be fair Dh didn’t remember what the subject was and had forgotten predicate was even a thing. So clearly diagramming sentences is crucial to real world success.
Welp. My car just died when I tried to pull out of a parking space at the doctor's office. Blocked the whole parking lot for other cars to drive, had to wait for a tow truck. Now sitting anxiously at home to figure out what kind of money this is going to cost me. It's a ten year old car with 105k on it. I'm bracing myself for bad news.
Post by supertrooper1 on Jul 21, 2020 10:08:19 GMT -5
twinmomma that sucks! Hopefully it's something inexpensive to fix. Or if you go the new car route, there seem to be a ton of deals with delayed payments and low interest.
twinmomma that’s really low mileage for a 10-year-old car. I hope it’s a cheap fix, but the way I look at it is that day a $2,000 repair is probably only 4-5 months of new car payments. I love having paid off cars
twinmomma that’s really low mileage for a 10-year-old car. I hope it’s a cheap fix, but the way I look at it is that day a $2,000 repair is probably only 4-5 months of new car payments. I love having paid off cars
This is where I'm at too. I love having no car payment. I am NOT looking forward to going back to one because when I do, I'll be getting a bigger car than what I have now so it'll be more expensive. I also don't want to buy a new car just as I'm getting ready to try and buy/sell a house. A brand new car payment added to my debt to income ratio is not ideal when shopping for a mortgage.
twinmomma - oh no! If you had to, could you lease for now if you think you will stay below the mileage? I feel like car dealers were desperate for a while there... you might still be able to get a good deal on a lease, not up your monthly payment by too much, then buy it out or buy something else? You can get shorter leases - 24 month I think?? And often dealerships will take the cars back early.
I hate to lease because I hate car shopping so I find what I like and drive it until I’m worried about it dying or it starts to cost too much to fix. DH leases for a number of reasons that make sense for him.
It’s not ideal, but it’s an option that may not kill you while you’re house hunting...
twinmomma that’s really low mileage for a 10-year-old car. I hope it’s a cheap fix, but the way I look at it is that day a $2,000 repair is probably only 4-5 months of new car payments. I love having paid off cars
I was also impressed with the low mileage. I'm on track to hit that same mileage in 2 years and my car is a 2015.
I like mae0111 suggestion of leasing. If my mileage were a lot lower, I'd consider leasing. Not having to worry about unexpected repair costs has always been appealing to me. Especially since DH is a diesel truck guy and those suckers are always having issues. My mom leases for that reason even though her mileage is worse than mine. She's always having to determine the point where it makes more sense to buyout the lease than to keep it and pay for going over the miles.
mae0111, Maybe a lease could work as a band aid if needed. I mean, right now, I only drive to beau's apartment a mile away and to run errands around town. No commute! But if I have to start going back and forth to the office again then I could start to rack up miles pretty easily. So it's tough to say right now. I'm still waiting on a call back from the mechanic... Ugh.
I think I'm afraid to lease because I got burned the last time I did it. I was locked into a lease on a tiny sedan and found out I was pregnant with twins, which meant we had to immediately try to get rid of that car and get out of the lease because we couldn't physically fit two babies and a double stroller in the car. Clearly, something like that isn't a concern at this point.
Update: Only needed a new alternator, which is a relatively inexpensive fix. Thank goodness! I much prefer actually having a savings account to driving a brand new car.