Tuesday irritations or FF confessions

[waverly]

I confessed this on my other group.  My county now has a 14 day quarantine for those traveling from a hotspot.  I am getting irritated by all these people posting their multi state adventures friend in from Seattle, then Texas, then Indiana then Illinois and I bet you a million dollars they don't quarantine.

Another friend who is probably richer than anyone here routinely takes 3 trips to Europe a year, went on a cruise in March.  Had her cruise ship detained for possible Covid (they lucked out) then flew across the country and flounced around Target.  Now is on a 14 state tour spreading Covid all over the U.S. and then returning from hotspots, do you think she is going to quarantine?  My guess is no.

I get we have to take vacations, so we don't lose our damn minds.  But there is a difference between a careful vacation and deliberately traveling to hotspots and then disobeying health department requirements.  Lets see if they post about their quarantine when they get back...

[twinmomma]

waverly, YES. I cannot understand the needless travel right now. What the heck are you doing when you travel to these hot spots anyway?! I look at it as "THAT'S the vacation you want to spend money on? There's nothing you can do for a vacation closer to where you already live?"

Beau's ex is basically flying back and forth to Illinois weekly right now. It's totally insane. She's basically given up on any care about quarantining at all, which is a complete 180 from where she was when this started.

[sdlaura]

I guess my confession is that we’re still planning to go on vacation in less than two weeks. It’s to a place that is similarly not hard hit like my local area. We and our good friends from here are going to meet our other good friends who live there. So 3 families total.

I wouldn’t be concerned about it it at all, since we’re staying in a vacation rental and don’t plan to go anywhere indoors, but we do have to take a short direct flight to get there. It will be the riskiest thing we’ve done so far, but I’ve decided I’m relatively comfortable with Alaska airlines and they blocked off all the seats around us.

Our friends decided to drive the 15 hours, but my newborn screams if he’s in his car seat for more than 20 seconds.

We already agreed that we won’t be posting anything on social media about it, and will lay low when we get back.

[waverly]

I totally get wanting to take a vacation from a relatively safe area to a relatively safe area and being careful. The 2 people posting are not just taking a vacation though. It's way more extra than that.

[mellym]

My confession is also that we're still going on vacation. We booked the rental house on the beach a year ago with our close friends. They are being very cautious like we are and we already agreed to no restaurants, grocery pick-up and the house has private beach access and a pool. The county we're going to is still doing okay.

We booked flights pre-covid because I really do not want to drive 20 hours with a toddler. We are still debating what to do and much will depend on if they cancel or revise our flights again. Currently our seats are together and they're keeping open seats all around us.

My irritation - DH wants to go on his annual guys weekend to his friend's cabin 5 days before our family vacation. It's a tiny cabin (700 sq ft) and 7 guys are coming from all over the state with one guy flying in from Texas. I'm not comfortable with it and it feels like an unnecessary risk to open our bubble up to 6 other families right before our trip. His argument is it's not any riskier than our kids being in summer camp and daycare.

So WP's, what do you say? Am I overreacting??

[waverly]

mellym, no I don't think you are overreacting.

[mustardseed2007]

mellym, fuck no to that cabin stuff.

[polecat8]

I have a social media friend who is bitching that she was forced to withdraw her DD from karate because she is a travel agent and the karate dojo asked her to not attend classes for 2 weeks. She was upset because if she had to quarantine after every travel, then her kids wouldn't be able to participate in anything. Her travels are all over social media for everyone to see. She and her DD have been to Florida several times in the past few months and are now in the Caribbean. She is very anti-mask and doesn't seem very concerned with covid at all.
I have just unfriended her.

[k3am]

We are also vacationing in two weeks... with our quarantine team to an AirBNB that's on 10 acres, and our expectation is we'll spent most of the time at the house / in the pool, at the beach (spaced out), and potentially doing some outdoor wine tasting. I feel like most people would be okay with that.

[k3am]

Confession? I've been snoozing just about anyone in my news feed on FB who is attempting to educate the world by reposting articles, regardless of topic and/or which direction they lean. I am pretty happy with the results.

[twinmomma]

FF Confession: I'm admittedly a VERY active social media user. But I haven't posted about beau at all until our first anniversary that just happened. I just felt weird about it. When I finally did, friends and family came out of the woodwork commenting on it, sending me happy messages, etc. And I couldn't help but laugh at the fact that when ExH posted about his engagement announcement, not a single person reacted or commented. I felt so petty, but so, so justified. Feel free to give me my hand basket for the ride down now.

[sdlaura]

mellym I wouldn’t be comfortable with the guys weekend in a cabin with people coming from all over. The family that we’re going to visit who can drive to the rental house was supposed to fly to see family in a more active covid area 1.5 weeks before our trip. They ended up cancelling and I was glad about that.

Small kids in summer camp and daycare should be way safer than a bunch of adults staying in one house, given the research on young kids not spreading it as much as adults, and the fact that all adults are in PPE at all times.

[waverly]

k3am, I did that years ago with all the Scary Mommy parenting articles. Remember when everyone had babies and thought they knew so much more about parenting than everyone else (on FB not on this board)? I would literally go to my feed and see opposing Scary Mommy viewpoints lol.

There are still a few superior parenting holdouts, but I think most people have chilled. Now it is all political stuff which is probably worse.

twinmomma- I think you are perfectly justified in thinking that!

[waverly]

I just told a salesmen that I don't want to meet. "No offense, I just don't want to." Then we both started laughing.

[mellym]

Thanks for clarifying the difference sdlaura. I was having a hard time articulating it last night in my anger.

[erbear]

I’m a hard pass on interstate vacations right now. At all. I think I am going to have to not even go to our own beach house in August as planned (one state away, 2 hour drive) because they have rising cases and school starts the next week. No way can I chance that.

I donated platelets today (she blew the shit out one of my veins but that’s another story). In the screening, she asked “have you been out of the country in the last three months?” Lady, I haven’t left my block in the last three months.

[mae0111]

We went on a beach vacation within our state, and our ILs came from another state as well. Both states were very hard-hit early on (but not ILs area), but are under good control now.

We played mini golf 3 times, and no one else was on the course. Otherwise, we biked, walked, went to the beach, and generally stayed away from other people.

DH is taking the kids camping in ILs’ state, in an area that was not hit hard at all. There will be public bathroom use, I think, but they could rely on the camper if needed. I’m honestly more worried about DD2’s Lyme case and the good chance that she could get it again camping than I am about the chances of COVID on the camping trip.

[sandandsea]

FFC. I feel like I’m playing all sides of the distance learning support sites now so I can weigh my options. As of now, we are planning on private school if they can be on campus. If not, we are looking into 3 on site assistance programs and potentially an in home pod. I feel like as soon as we make a decision, the rug is pulled out from under us. And I can’t commit to any program until I know the options and details. We simply can’t facilitate distance learning while maintaining our careers and we both need to work to pay our mortgage.

[rere]

mellym, No to the cabin. We were even more cautious before our vacation, because we wanted to go and didn't want to be on quarantine or sick. Our vacation was a state over, but in the mountains and doing outdoors things.

k3am,I have snoozed unfollowed and unfriended, depending on my mood, I don't know how many people through this. I don't think people realize the persona they put out on FaceBook or whatever, carries over. I will be avoiding some people in real life. I didn't realize how many people I actually know are BSC. Plus the political nonsense. My mom, who for probably most of her adult life definitely could not tell you who the speaker of the house was, is now hyper political and want to call out anything she doesn't agree with and post all kinds of partisan crap. My uncle basically sits in a chair all day and shares things. Hello, there is a like button. He had 67 post in a day. 67!!!!!! I snooze him, but then he comes back and I remember he's lost it, and snooze him again.

[k3am]

sandandsea, as soon as we committed to private school, they threw in a distance learning support option. And as soon as we started to heavily weigh options, they took away in person private school. I'm pretty sure now that we've given up the private school spot that in person private school will end up being a viable option.

So at this point, we're planning to do distance learning support and keeping her home once in a while to monitor how it's really going. I am honestly not sure how 1-2 people will be able to oversee 10-12 kids in 2nd and 3rd grade, from different schools, with different teachers.

[mustardseed2007]

Jul 21, 2020 16:03:42 GMT -5 sandandsea said:

FFC. I feel like I’m playing all sides of the distance learning support sites now so I can weigh my options. As of now, we are planning on private school if they can be on campus. If not, we are looking into 3 on site assistance programs and potentially an in home pod. I feel like as soon as we make a decision, the rug is pulled out from under us. And I can’t commit to any program until I know the options and details. We simply can’t facilitate distance learning while maintaining our careers and we both need to work to pay our mortgage.

This is exactly what I'm doing too although I think we'll use our school's distance learning curriculum if in person isn't an option because we were already enrolled in private and it wasn't that bad. It was too expensive for what it was but there are worse things I guess. 

[sdlaura]

sandandsea and k3am, I don’t have much confidence in private schools being able to open anytime soon in my county The one we applied to was a catholic school, though, so I suppose it’s possible religious schools get some kind of clearance like they have in some other states.

Today another family with a rising first grade boy inquired about joining our pod. Both the other moms decided that the four boys wouldn’t do well learning together and want to keep it just at the three boys (plus two big sisters). I feel bad telling the other mom no. The FFC part is that my son is not known for his amazing behavior, so I’m glad I formed the pod early, because I don’t think other parents would want him joining theirs after the fact, either.

[supertrooper1]

FFC: I'll be going out of state next week. Beau and I are going to deliver a puppy and take a few days on our way back. We both need a break from work. We will be safe and take precautions. I don't judge people who want to take vacations nor do I judge people who are still in their quarantine bubble. You have to do what is best for you. I know that is probably the wrong attitude as the spread isn't stopping, but the risks IMO are still really low. Flame away.

[k3am]

The resource that I've been assigned to "help out" is causing more harm than good. I'm ready to cry at all the new extra work he's created for me.

[rere]

I really want to take the kids to the much bigger city 1 hr away to go school shopping. But of course their cases are super high, even per capita. So we will just stay around here. They dont need much anyway, except all of their pants are too short. I dont trust to order pants for growing people online. You wont need many clothes if you are only in school 2 days a week tops.

[mommyatty]

I don’t judge anyone doing careful vacations. I do judge people in Target who pull their masks off right after they get through the door. The store is allowed to set rules and it’s the law in our state. Keep yo damn mask on! (Says the woman who has been to Target 2 times in the past 4 months.)

We are doing a play date this weekend. I’m excited. I think these people may end up being in our pod. I might talk to DH about having their daughter come to our house for distance learning. They don’t have a SAHP and both parents are in medical fields so can’t work from home. She’s a sweet girl and I think she and DD would keep each other on task. Plus they as a family are so very careful.

[sdlaura]

mommyatty that would be amazing of you to offer that!

[campermom]

FF confession: my kids don’t have any video games. I want to buy them a system but I don’t know which one to get. My son is going into 6th grade, daughter in 4th and son in K.

[vasc]

Jul 22, 2020 5:59:57 GMT -5 campermom said:

FF confession: my kids don’t have any video games. I want to buy them a system but I don’t know which one to get. My son is going into 6th grade, daughter in 4th and son in K.

After visiting friends who have a Switch, it’s all my 7-year-old is taking about. DH says it’s the hot system right now. I’d also argue that, since it’s Nintendo, you’d get access to the Mario franchise games and others that are likely age appropriate for the son in K. I don’t know much about the other systems, but the games seem more mature.

[mae0111]

Jul 22, 2020 7:44:48 GMT -5 vasc said:

Jul 22, 2020 5:59:57 GMT -5 campermom said:

FF confession: my kids don’t have any video games. I want to buy them a system but I don’t know which one to get. My son is going into 6th grade, daughter in 4th and son in K.

After visiting friends who have a Switch, it’s all my 7-year-old is taking about. DH says it’s the hot system right now. I’d also argue that, since it’s Nintendo, you’d get access to the Mario franchise games and others that are likely age appropriate for the son in K. I don’t know much about the other systems, but the games seem more mature.

DD2 is saving for a switch. I’ve been trying to find one for a couple of months from a legitimate source... no luck... let me know if you find one!!